to be annoyed with a mum at toddler group (sorry long)

YANBU - she sounds like a nightmare. Stand your ground. She is setting a terrible example by forcing other kids to give in to her child's tantrums. Don't stop going because of her. Do tell someone who can step in and speak with her though.

Kick her in the fanjo.

I agree with the other posts - I have had similar issues with a couple of mothers at a toddler group I go to. The kids should always share and take turns in my opinion so I always go over and say, very politely and in a loud voice to my ds (2) - "you finish your turn (if he hasn't been in the car or whatever very long) and when you have finished give it to this little boy/girl and then they can have their turn" - or if he has been in it for a while I say "can you finish off your turn now and let this little boy/girl have their turn in a minute". It works really well amongst my NCT group etc and whilst the kids do tussle/fight, they all have a good understanding of the concept of sharing and turns (most of the time) and it really shuts up the odd stupid mother who just tries to get everything immediately for their kid and they never say anything back. You should feel sorry for her really as she is the one who is going to end up with a spoinlt, out of control brat and a horrible life with a demanding, out of control monster.

Good luck - stand your ground.

Ehheh. I thought that Mindee was your child's name, but I've figured it out now.... No you are not BU. You need to stand your ground. That kid is going to end up being a playground bully....

Was she aware he had CP before she took him to playgroup though? I always understood that when the spots come out, you're no longer infectious.

dmo annoyed would be putting it mildly if it was my mindee or child she was treating in that way. That woman is going down a very bad route for herself and her child! Surely the other mums will soon avoid her like the plague.

Can I just point out that the other woman here needs slapping for taking a child with chicken pox to a mums and toddlers?! Dozy mare. Does she not understand that it's rude to spread it about without permission. I'd not mind in theory if my daughter caught chicken pox, but seeing as I'm pregnant right now I'm avoiding it like the plague.

Add to that her pitiful abilities to understand how toddlers work she needs a serious talking to.

Go next week, why should your mindees miss out because of one little spoilt brat? Has it occured to you that she may need help ,she
might not know how to cope with him . she obviously doesn't like conflict and it maybe that by befriending her you can help her out.
justaboutmanaging is right, you can't possibly be the only one to notice.Whatever you decide to do good luck next week!

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dmo. It might be worth stepping in the next time he throws a strop about not getting the toy/car/ whatever it is he wants to play with, and gently explain about learning to share and take turns. His mother will hear this, of course, and as long as you say it kindly and gently he (and she) will hopefully get the message.

agree foxy, i would do the syrupy, sugary, 'oh no, sweetheart, we take turns , yes we do,' in earshot of the mother

I would make a point of saying in a loud enough voice for others to hear.

"These toys are for all the children to share. One of the reasons that we come to playgroup is so that they can learn to share".

Then I would tell your mindee that he/she has so many minutes left in the car before he/she must give it to this womans child to use.

Don't let her turf the child out. You be the one in control.

stand your ground and go next week! If it were me I'd probably address the child within her earshot and tell him he has to wait his turn, because she obviously isn't going to do it. I'd be TERRIBLY nice about it to him, so she couldn't complain about it.

This woman's just not right. What's her lo going to grow up like? I can't believe a grown-up would order another child off of a toy so her son can play with it - she's just a bloody bully! And as for taking him to toddlers with chickenpox, that is totally out of order. Apart from anything else what if one of the other mums there had been pregnant? Def go next week & don't let this silly, immature, selfish bitch think she's won!

If he screams she should take him out till he calms down. Honestly! Surely part of the reason women sit with toddlers in draughty church halls is that it helps children learn to mix with others.

is he her only child? is she maybe pandering to him if she is working part of the time and feels she has to give him everything he wants?

When you think about it, it's quite mad. Imagine ordering a two year old out of a car so your son can get in instead of telling the boy to wait his turn. What can she be thinking>

I would go next week and if she says something to the child I would go over and say to the child she is bullying "it's ok x, you were there first, y can play in it when you've finished" and then walk calmly away.

oh no!, definatly go!, speak to leader about her and ask them to watch her and her spoilt son too!

I would still go next week. Don't let her win!