To not want to put up with one mum's faddy habits at nursery?

the nursary are probably quite grateful to her for buying the blind and putting it up. Saves them the bother.

My son could never sleep at nursery! It was far too light. He'd cry and beg them to turn the lights out. IME blackout blinds cannot make a room pitch dark in the daytime anyway. Just darker.

my dd's really benefited from the sleeping routines at nursery - I was a bit hopeless tbh and a few weeks after they started they were in a routine which lasted till they were 2-ish. the room had the curtains drawn but definitely not dark and the children had no trouble getting to sleep. I think it's a rod for their own backs, tbh.

We use a blackout blind with my five year old son. Provided your child isn't terrifed of the dark I can't see a problem. If it was me I would insist on a night light. I think it would be really cruel putting a baby in a pitch black room if they aren't used to it.

I am not a fan of a certain baby-rearing philosophy, but blackout blinds are great in summer.

It seems like there might be more to this situation than one parent being annoyed by the arrangements made by another - have there been any arguments or disagreements in the past?
If not, then really, life is too short to start criticising other parents for these sorts of things, and if your child is not being made to do something they can't do, or are uncomfortable with (ie: sleep in a darkened room), then it is unreasonable to complain to the nursery.
Parenting is a long and rocky road - it would make sense to support this mother now, as you may need her support in the future.

Good for her buying the blind herself, bless her. What on earth is wrong with that? And what's wrong with sleeping in a darkened room in the middle of the day? I'd imagine most children would sleep better in the dark during the day esp during the summer. Nice and dark and shaded and cool.

Keep your dd's lights on a night, open her blnds, whatever, so that she can sleep under any conditions and then everyone's happy, no??

I think you are being unreasonable. Most of the nurserys that I visited have blackout blinds. It is the norm. This has no detrimental effect on your dd at all.
Can't see what the problem is really. Apart from the fact that you seem very bitter towards this 'faddy woman'.

So someone whose child can only sleep in the dark quietly talks to the nursery and gets agreement from the nursery that she will pay for and provide and fix a blackout blind. So the room is quite dark and her child can sleep. NObody suffers, her child sleeps well, and everyone sleeps better if the room is dark. You are the only person kicking up a fuss, no?

My son could only ever sleep in his bed and was very upset at having to sleep in his pushchair or anywhere really. He has Aspergers. I find it really horrible they way you talk about this baby 'chucking major tantrums' as if it is somehow defective compared to your model infant.

I don't know where the other mum being a 'look at me' type has come from - has she gone around telling all the other mothers in the nursery that she must have a blackout blind for her child? You got that from the nursery staff, right, not from her directly? How is that 'look at me' behaviour?

If anything I'd say the OP is far more of a 'look at me' type for being all 'my child sleeps anywhere, anytime, which is much more flexible for everyone' - if my child had sleep issues that would annoy the bejesus out of me....

You're being unreasonable, especially as the black out blind is an existing fixture and your DD hasn't even started there. Your DD will sleep anywhere (including in a dark room), this child will only sleep in a dark room. Is it fair to insist that this child does not have a nap just so you can avoid the unlikely event of your DD losing the ability to sleep anywhere??

I agree that the other Mum is a "look at me" type. The nursery my children went/go to did not even have a seperate sleep room. It would have made it a bit incovenient for the babies who were not asleep and for the carers to be in darkness.

I dont think you are being unreasonable at all, you want your little one to continue to be able to sleep during the day without a black out blind.

The nursery should remove it, is it fire safe etc are there not regulations for nurseries as there are for schools, hospitals etc?

we have a blackout blind in dd's room but we only pull it down for night time so the sunlight in these summery months doesnt wake her up at 5am but for her daytime nap she just has thin curtains drawn across so she has a nap and wakes up in natural light - it works with us and we have had no problems taking her to sleep elsewhere (hotels, holidays etc)

I can understand you annoyance. It's about 'look at me, look at me' other mother isn't it?

but nickname or not, who is she, ll?

my 8 yr old can only sleep in a dark room,as can i.You are lucky with yr child,I just don't see how this is anything to be bothered about 4 u,if the majority couldn't sleep in the dark then they wouldn't do it.Also,fail to see how this makes the mother someone who pushes herself into the limelight??? I presume th echild wasn't settling at nap time ,they asked the mother about it and then it was decided to try blackout,if the majority of parent sdidn't want it they wouln'yt do it.

i cant believe the nursery have done this solely for one mother though they must have done it before some kids dont like being in the dark so others must of complained too dont think you are reasonable think that a bit strong

who ARE you emankcin?

I think i understand your concerns and i too hate those parents ( you know who you are) who thrust themselves into the limelight of every situation.

I think you should kick her in the fanjo

Your good work is going to be undone?

Or your luck at getting a baby that sleeps anywhere is about to run out?

YABU. If your DD sleeps anywhere anytime then it won't make any difference to her, surely??