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to want to move into a place that suits US not my FIL?

33 replies

marieg76 · 13/04/2007 12:18

We have sold our house and as our buyers want us out ASAP, we haven't found anywhere to buy yet. We have found a 2 bed flat that looks perfect - right location etc. As we are expecting DC in October, it will be our last chance at having a posh flat so we're quite excited about it.

FIL has a dog that normally stays with us when he is up in our neck of the woods. SIL is getting married in June and as we want to be in a flat, we have said to FIL that it's best that the dog goes into kennels this time as we won't have a garden for him to be in. FIL is now refusing to come to the wedding as he doesn't want to put the dog into kennels. Nothing wrong with the dog at all.

We feel that we're being backed into a corner and being forced to move into a place that we don't want to be in order to accommodate FIL's needs this one time! DH's sisters don't like pets so won't want dog staying with them (we always have to deal with it).

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suejonez · 13/04/2007 12:42

like WWB I can also understand him not particulalry wanting to put dog in kennels but he still doesn;t have the right to guilt trip you. He needs to find another solution. WHen you have DC you may not feel up to having his dog for a whle anyway so he;ll need to find alternative arrangments then probably. He can get a dog sitter to look after the dog rather than a kennel - very popular aorund here and some vetinary nurses will dog sit - get him to ask at the local vet.

nailpolish · 13/04/2007 12:40

it sounds like my friend who threw a strop when, after her father died, her mother had to downsize her house to a one bed. my friend was annoyed becuase her mother wouldnt be able to have her grandson to stay overnight.

ridiculously selfish

mumto3girls · 13/04/2007 12:40

God, imagaine planning a home around one visit from a relative!!!

NO WAY - just continue with your plans - it;s completely up to him if he wants to miss the wedding!!

hippipotami · 13/04/2007 12:38

Agree with others. FIL being unreasonable, not you!

Continue to be excited about YOUR flat, enjoy it, and don't worry about FIL.

WigWamBam · 13/04/2007 12:36

I can understand why he wouldn't want to put the dog into kennels (I won't put my cat into a cattery) but as it's his dog it's his problem, and it's up to him to find someone else to look after it. It sounds as if he has come to rely on you to have the dog and is taking it forgranted that this will continue, so he's acting like a spoilt child trying to get his own way. And like a child, the only way to deal with him is to stick to your guns and not give in!

You have to plan your new home for you and no-one else.

compo · 13/04/2007 12:35

it truly is ing the way some people carry on isn't it?!! What does mil say about it?

nailpolish · 13/04/2007 12:33

he is being childish

continue to be excited about your flat. carry on as if you arent bothered he is being huffy.

good luck with the move! x

MintChocChippyMinton · 13/04/2007 12:30

Not unreasonable, not your dog, not your problem. Why won't he put the dog in kennels? Is there anyone else who could have dog during the wedding?