to expect my childminder to use DS's £400 pram for him!!!!!

Just had a look at the Xplory.. & it's the one DH & I were laughing at in town last week

No one want to take me up on newborn judging?

No one?

Oh gwan .

I was at least expecting someone to say
"but they might have reflux."

I prefer params

prams

The problem for me is that any point that nearlythere might have had has been overshadowed by the quite breathtaking snobbery she has shown and the way that she clearly looks down on anyone who choses to buy cheap params

I'd have said something at the time and would be very annoyed. I'd likely change cm too as I wouldn't trust her anymore and trust is the most important thing imo.

Colditz - surely not!

pretend it was coat(or whatever) instead of pushchair.cm gave her gd nearlytheres ds coat to wear and put him in another for unknown reason.bad.cost,make etc of pushchair is irrelevant.twas his!id just simply ask why when i saw you was my ds not in his pushchair.not get funny or whatever,so just ask straight question,hopefully get straight answer.am i speaking crap,im tired

For a start, zookeeper, the full quote was

"the thing that really got me is that she knows the reason lo has such a nice second buggy is that i run a few baby-shops and so people know that he is one of my ds's and they expect that he is well presented in a quality pram!"

In other words, the CM knows it is important to the OP that her child uses this pram. Whether it is for snob value, business reasons or due to her child's disability, does not matter. The CM has a responsibility to keep the equipment provided for the child, and that child only.

nearlythere, if there was an incredibly swanky but uncomfortable buggy around, and you had seen DS in that, rather than cheapo option, would you still have been pissed off? I know I would have.

Correct me if I am wrong, but most of us do at least a little research into these things before we buy them? So that should be respected.

And I think the OPs comments about the daughter's cheap travel system were designed to illustrate WHY she would leap at the chance of using the OPs buggy.

hmmmm good post zookeeper. Personally I think if it was comparable for comfort I would still have been peeved but not red mist peeved.

However I do have a thing about babies/toddlers being comfortable in pushchairs and probably err on the side of caution to achieve this.

But I will judgey judge judge those who push teeny tiny newborns about in upright positions with no suspension, head hugger or enough blankets on (scottish - freezing emoticon requirted).

Change your childminder

are there people would not go to a baby shop because the owner's baby was seen in a cheap pram? lol

Can't believe I'm arguing about this

How old is your DS nearlythere? Talking age?

I only ask because DS2 always loved the opportunity to get in anyone else's pram/buggy than his own?

Just an idea...

Ooooooohhhhh

MrsApron!
I said that earlier!

I do actually think the business comment is probably a fair one. As already said, if people know her DS around town, then yes in some ways he is a walking advert for his mum's business.

But the poster said "the thing that really got to me .....is that i run a few baby shops.. and so peolpe expect that he is well -presented in a quality pram"

do you think that if the pram had been a more expensive model she would be complaining so much?

Snobby about prams yes ok, but if they are your business that is fair enough, your child is a walking advert if that is the case. Upset that your child is in a cheap zero comfort pushchair instead of a comfortable one yep. Unreasonable no.

I would have been bloody raging that my child was palmed off into a random uncomfy buggy so her grand daughter could be pushed along in your one.

SHe is v unprofessional to do this. And yes I would now be wondering how else your son is pushed out when her grandchild is there.

Poke her eyes out gwan.

I would stick to the comfort of your child rather than bad for business argument on this one .

Look, I use the cheapest of the cheap pushchairs, and I use them until bits drop off. It's not the point. I wouldn't want him putting in another pram because another baby's mother wanted her baby to go in his. Bugger the cost, bugger the quality, it's HIS!

OK, the new debate on this thread is to do with cost and "looking good", but the original post was not really about that.

And TBH yes, If I had provided an expensive pram that I had paid for, for my child to use and this situation arose I certainyl would want to know why my child had been oustd out into some little insufficient buggy rather than his big comfy pram in favour of another child.

It has everything to do with the cost and the perceived quality. Haven't you read the derogatory comments about the girl who has the cheap travel system? The fear that the poster might lose business because, god forbid, the child is not in a "quality " pram . This thread is really offensive.

I don't think this has anything to do with what the pram was, cost or anything. I'd simply be miffed that the pram that I had paid for and provided was being used for another child, whilst my child was in a less suitable pram at the same time. Especially if I knew that the child in my pram had their very own sitting ont he drive ready to use.

"well-presented in a quality pram" Pass the sick bucket.

Oh my god - I have been walking around with a cheap travel system and hadn't realised that people are looking down on me thinking I'm either poor or stingy! This post has quite offended me! But I also drive a battered old car so by the sounds of it people are looking down on me for that too!!

I fully understand if your DS needs that particular type of pram because of his disability, but it does sound as though its purely snobbery!

When my DS goes to nursery they use the nursery's own pushchairs when they take the babies outside rather than using ours - I don't give it a second thought. I care more about the fact that he is being cared for properly rather than what pram he's sitting in!

You're all mad, IMHO. She "didn't realise that people look at prams like they do cars"... so that would be a vehicle that gets you from A to B then...? How offensive this snobbery is. Perhaps all us poor souls with cheap travel systems should just go and die of shame. WTF...