threw DPs clothes away

i am starting to get man clothes in my house. has taken nine months but suddenly i get a pair of socks, then jeans...whatever next i wonder

While we're on a joke about single or married

A single woman comes home, looks whats in the fridge and goes to bed.
A married woman comes home, looks wahst in the bed and goes to the fridge.

Sorry Fransil - dont mean to get funny on your thread - have you decided what to do next??

agree with custy

Sorry if I scared you, Lowfat. But this thread does throw up an interesting point about the difference between lover and husband. It reminds me about this old joke: a young man is having trouble getting past first base with women. An older friend recommends he tries candlelit dinner for two, sexy music on in the background, asking her to dance and then waltzing her smoochily into the bedroom .... The young man promised to try these tactics with latest squeeze. Next time they met, older man said How did you get on? Young man says, well she loved the candlelit dinner, the sweet nothings, the music, the dancing her into the bedroom. But just as I was putting the shoe trees into my shoes she got up and left!

Custy touched on this point: can a man be both sexy and tidy in the bedroom?

we all wash our own clothes here and pick them up etc or not as the case may be

EW....erm no, but it's not quite as bad.....is it?

MP aren't you being a bit dim here? - He'll need to pick the damn things off the floor before they get laundered by him, her or the cat's mother.

LowFat - are you saying it's somehow all right for a man to leave dirty underwear around the bedroom if he lives with you?

My dh is a bit like the dp in q, in that he leaves dirty underwear on bedroom floor. But it's on his side of the bed, so I don't have to look at it. He knows I won't pick it up, and will only wash what has been put in the linen basket. So eventually he does sort his own clothes out. He will even put a load of washing in the machine occasionally, when feeling especially New Mannish (or just short of clean smalls.)

This system has worked quite well for nearly 25 years.

He clearly doesn't want it if he can't be arsed to pick it up/take it with him

I would just make him do all his own laundry (assuming he didnt already)

I'm with Colditz on this. Although I can see in the harsh light of day how you might be feeling a little guilty now.

And when you say spilling stuff on his clothes - I take you mean stuff you can wash out and not gloss paint or similar????

If it was me and I was having an attack of the guilts I would buy him some nice new underwear and give it to him at the same time owning up to what I've done. But spell it out you will do the same again if it continues. Until you share a house he has no right to disrespect your space and treat the place like his own.

pmsl

quote of the week custy

If it's true, I don't think it's that unreasonable If you have told him, then unless he pays you to be his maid, i'd bin them. (well, I wouldn't because I am a wimp, but, I'd advise someone else too ) As someone said, if someone came on saying "oh, my DP leaves his crusty undies all over my floor" etc. etc, people would in droves telling them to bin them.

i think i would have left it in a black bag for him to take.

then after that i might bin it.

depends on how good the sex is really

Have you mentioned it to him?

I once hid my DH work trousers and shoes after repeatedly asking him to put them away. He had to ring me in work to find out where they where. It stopped him from leaving his clothes out - for about a month!

I would just wash them and spray them with your girliest perfume. He wont want to go out stinking of WOMAN so he might start taking them home.

it doesn't seem that much of a crime to me..we would all soon be naked in the house if that policy was followed

i would just tell him when he takes them off don't leave them there please it gets on my nerves

Why doesnt he live with you?

maybe over time, posters responses have...matured.

if you've told him it's not on and warned him they will go in the bin and he's still done it, then he got what he deserved.

although the issue is do you want to carry on seeing someone who you feel treats your space with no consideration.

however, a lot of men are messy buggers. what's his place like?

HEY!

I know for a fact that a lot of threadsa have been started on this site with the title "My husband leaves his clothes all over the floor, I'm sick of being a skivvy" etcetc

and the general consensus was "How dare he, bin them, teach him a lesson"

So just because it's someone's first post, and maybe they are trolling (and I frankly don't care if they are) suddenly it's ok for her partner to leave his clothes all over the floor, and she shouldn't attempt to dissuade him?

If this is true, you need help.

If this is untrue, you need help.

i once had a rigby and peller bra and knickers which exh threw away when i left him..i was gutted