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Original poster

To want a five minute break at the weekend.

61 replies

BabiesEverywhere · 03/04/2007 10:48

Currently my DH works hard at his full time career job, he leaves the house at 6am and gets home between 4pm and 7pm depending on work load.

I am a SAHM (on maternity leave) and I do all the food shopping, cleaning, cooking and childcare including night waking on my own.

So far we are both happy, I am home with our daughter and my DH doesn't have to do any housework.

But at the weekends I ask him to help me look after our daughter for 5 minutes here or there, so I can pop on the dinner on or have a quick 'baby free' shower and I get complaints of why can't I take the baby with me

During the week I do take her everywhere, she crawls naked in the bath when I am in the shower and sits just outside the kitchen with toys whilst I put on the dinner but it takes twice the time to do anything dragging a baby around with me, I just want a short break at the weekend so I can do things faster without my precious baby in tow.

Am I being unreasonable ?

OP posts:
oranges · 03/04/2007 11:06

just go away for 2 days and leave him in charge. Or go back to work. This is ridiculous.

oliveoil · 03/04/2007 11:05

lazy cow

sweep the floor on your way

sheeeesh, these sahm don't know they are born

Original poster
BabiesEverywhere · 03/04/2007 11:04

...and Furball is right, he think's all I do all day is sit on my bottom and watch TV

Back in a minute...just empting washing machine and hanging out washing to dry.

OP posts:
oliveoil · 03/04/2007 11:03

ahhhh, tosspot then

I think a day off shopping or something may be in order so he can see how 'easy' it is

Original poster
BabiesEverywhere · 03/04/2007 11:02

I think the problem is that he doesn't see my work as a SAHM as valid as compared to his 'outside the house' work.

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oliveoil · 03/04/2007 11:01

maybe he doesn't know what to do and is a bit cautious

Original poster
BabiesEverywhere · 03/04/2007 11:00

He told 'He works hard during the week' and I argued that my work never stops. Just because I love being home with my daughter, doesn't mean that it is not hard work, especially getting up every hour at night with a teething baby. I have not slept for the last three nights.

We had a row about it at the weekend and he felt he had been looking after her all day, when in reality he was left with her twice for 5 minutes and each time I came back into the living room to find the baby being ignored whilst DH played on his computer...once she was playing with a full potty !!! (Luckiy she just emptied it onto the floor ) I could of killed him and yet he thinks he looked after her all the time

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ScottishThistle · 03/04/2007 10:57

Weekends should be equal & if you're asking him to have 15mins with his daughter whilst you make his dinner then yes he's being unreasonable & a prickoid!

custy · 03/04/2007 10:56

your dh is a tosser tell him where to get off.

when do you get 2 days a week off?

ask him that the selfish fucker

Furball · 03/04/2007 10:55

no you are not, your dh is forgetting it's his child too. My dh was abit like this in thinking because you stay at home all day you're just lolling around watching This Morning whilst putting your feet on the sofa whilst he's out earning money. Unfortunately it's quite a common myth. He soon changed his ind when I went on a weekend away with my friends and left him to it.

Elasticwoman · 03/04/2007 10:53

No, he is being unreasonable.

When is he going to make any relationship with dd? Ask him why he is so scared of her, and shouldn't he do something to overcome his fear?

Your dd has 2 parents.