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to want my SIL to call my niece by her original name?

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peevedfrompurley · 29/03/2007 14:53

My neice is now 9 months old and, unbeknown to me, my SIL has been calling her by her middle name`rather than her first name on a regular basis. She chose both her names, but apparently feels she had always preferred the babe's middle name rather than the first, and that she felt pressurised by db into relegating her fave name to second position. Apparently she had been expecting to have a boy so didn't have a girl's name ready at the time. She thinks she rushed the decision.

Now she point-blank refuses to call her by her first name. As db is working 16 hours a day, he hardly gets to see his dd, so she will grow up thinking her second name is her real name!

I still want to call my niece by her first name, sil thinks that's OK but I think that's v confusing for her, we don't see them that often, but still, think sil is being deliberately difficult. I think if she made the wrong decision name-wise she should just grin and bear it, I think it all a bit wierd.

Whaddya think?

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hatrick · 29/03/2007 21:29

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lemonaid · 29/03/2007 21:26

I so want to know if this is hatrick's SIL now...

Rachmumoftwo · 29/03/2007 21:07

I think your SIL is the mother of this child and should call her what she wants as long as it is nice. If your DB doesn't like it (but you don't know that for sure) maybe he should try to be at home more and sort it out himself!
It sounds like your SIL is being very nice letting you still use her DD's first name even though she doesn't like it. Why don't you be more of a friend than a SIL and go with her wishes?

Boco · 29/03/2007 20:58

My sil told me to change my dds last names - as she wasn't happy then have my sirname and not my dps. She's not happy at all - although dp has no problem with it. Sils can be bossy boilers.

ScottishThistle · 29/03/2007 20:52

Now that would be hilarious!

SparklyGothKat · 29/03/2007 20:51

lol!!! My dad has always been known as Eddie, even though his first name is nothing like Eddie, his middle name is Edward. And from a young age he has been called Eddie, always has been, always will be.

hatrick · 29/03/2007 20:50

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Carmenere · 29/03/2007 20:49

Ohhh wouldn't that be funny Does your dh work 16 hours.

hatrick · 29/03/2007 20:47

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MrsApron · 29/03/2007 20:46

or on this one even

MrsApron · 29/03/2007 20:43

ooh and there is you proving you are doing it on purpose on the other thread .

hatrick · 29/03/2007 20:42

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FrannyandZooey · 29/03/2007 20:40

I am officially letting this one drop through the trapdoor into the Pounce and Grind section

ScottishThistle · 29/03/2007 20:37

What is it with all these people getting stressed out about bloody names, nothing better to think about or what!?!

< walks off in an utterly condescending manner rolling eyes! >

Troutpout · 29/03/2007 20:37

First post peeved i see
Welcome to mumsnet

MrsApron · 29/03/2007 20:35

I think this is more to do with you sticking up for your brother than the name tbh.

If it bothered him that much he would do something about it. as it is he is a bloke he probably doesn't care all that much now the newness has worn off whereas your sil cares very much.

crunchie · 29/03/2007 20:30

in one word,

YES

You are being totally and utterly unreasonable I has shag all to do with you, I cannot believe you are sticking your peeved bottom in

Emskilou · 29/03/2007 20:29

Urm heres a suggestion, let your db and sil discuss it on their own, after it is their dd not yours.

'Sil is being deliberately difficult' god forbid she should make decisions regarding her dd without consulting you

TeeCee · 29/03/2007 20:24

Oh yesh, you've reminded me Hulababy, my nan was also always called by her middle name!
When my Pops dies he left everythign to M.L and we had a bit of red tape rubbish as her name wasn't actually M.L. it was B.L. pop had just forgotten that her real name was B and left everythign to M!

Hulababy · 29/03/2007 20:21

She's the mum so it is up to her. Presumably her DH has no problems with this.

My nana and my uncle are known by their middle names, rather than their first names.

If both her and her DH really would prefer her to be known by her middle name completely, it might be worth letting them know that you can actually change a baby's name officially within 12 months of birth IIRR.

TeeCee · 29/03/2007 20:21

PMSL! "unbeknown' to you SIL has been calling her child by her child's second name becasue she prefers it. And......?????
Sorry, what the chuffing hell has it got to do with you??? This is either a fake post or I think you're a 'bit weird' tbh!

hatrick · 29/03/2007 20:20

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fannyannie · 29/03/2007 20:18

my dad's name is George William - his parents called him William, his sister called him George - and his friends to this day still call him Bill or Billy..........didn't do him any harm

paulaplumpbottom · 29/03/2007 20:17

She is her mother, its up to her really.

mytwopenceworth · 29/03/2007 20:16

playing with babelfish!

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