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In thinking that my DH is being ureasonable to me?

84 replies

bubblicious · 28/03/2007 19:52

or am I just over reacting?

On Monday I went in to hospital to have a small but nevertheless scary procedure on my heart. I had to stay in hosp 1 night and so I got back yesterday lunchtime. I have been given a list of does and donts etc such as only go up stairs if you really have too, no driving for a week,no heavy lifting and the list goes on! Oh and it says rest a lot!

Well so far DH has expected me to cook dinner last night and tonight(admittedly he was taking DDs to dance last night, but I have to manage to juggle every Tues to cook a meal and get them to and from dance!)

iron his work trousers and DD sch jumper( he does normally iron but for the life he cant iron creases, but it was the comment I got from him which really hurt when I told him how much it hurt just standing in one place bending over- his comment "well sit then")

and then when I was just in the kitchen making their sandwiches for tomorrow and sorting the 2DDs that had just come in from Brownies (with cake and milk) he shouts through hatch way and says, are you making a cup of tea oh and I'll have cake too!

Should I tell him to bog off (which is what I nearly did, but I very politely said"Im the one that has just had an op, not you" I did not make him the cup of tea and strange thing is he hasnt bothered to make it so he cant be that fussed!

there feel better for that he just makes me so at times!

OP posts:
maisym · 28/03/2007 20:01

go to your docs tomorrow - tell them what's happening & get them to write down for your dh what resting actually means - you need to rest.

If it was your dh that had had this what would he be doing?? making cups of tea, dinner, looking after kids???? I imagine he'd be in bed being completely looked after for a few days........with aches, pains and general grumpyness.

bubblicious · 28/03/2007 20:01

I actually have it all written down and Dh was there when the consultant came and spoke afterwards!Whilst in hosp he was a very attentative husband, even turning the channels over for me on the tele as I had to lie on my back for 3hrs!

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Troutpout · 28/03/2007 19:59

Bubblicious...He's being unreasonable ...and you need to tell him so now because if he's like this after one day, then he's only going to be worse tomorrow.
Look after yourself!...and make him help you!

edam · 28/03/2007 19:58

You have just had a nasty procedure and have medical advice that you should rest. Do what the doctor told you and if dh argues, tell him to phone the consultant.

bubblicious · 28/03/2007 19:57

I think he feels Ive done nothing all day so I should be ok now! trouble is I sound and look ok, its just when I move its like I have been riding a bike for too long because they entered the heart throgh my groin!

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maisym · 28/03/2007 19:56

put on your pj's and get into bed - this is where you stay. Your dh does everything for the kids & you.

mytwopenceworth · 28/03/2007 19:56

no, i'd be pissed off too (in fact i am with my dh, and i'm off to start a thread of my own to rant about it!!)

i dont know why you haven't thrown something at him. i know if it was me, i'd already have yelled at him and he'd have an iron shaped dent in the back of his head!

lou33 · 28/03/2007 19:54

you are v definitely NOT being unreasonable, my blood is boiling on your behalf. Tell him to take more care of you.

southeastastra · 28/03/2007 19:54

please just look after yourself don't get stressed out by your husband. i'm angry for you.