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Who is BU re: use of showers at work

83 replies

MegEmski · 01/08/2017 13:12

Sorry, very boring!

Is Person A unreasonable or Person B?

Person A viewpoint:
I got back from my bike ride and went up to the work showers. I put my stuff down / hung my towel up etc. then had to pop back to my desk for something. Whilst I was there someone asked me something so it was 5 - 10 minutes before I got back to the showers. When I got there, someone had gone in with all my stuff in there so I had to wait until they finished. When they got out, I pointed out all my stuff was there and had a little bit of a (polite) moan. They said "oh sorry, I waited 5 minutes but I thought you were still out exercising and had just left your bits here after getting changed". Surely it's obvious I had just popped away and the shower room was 'in use'?

Person B viewpoint:
I got back from my run and went to the work shower. Someone's bag / towel was in there but I wasn't sure where they were. I waited for 5 minutes or so in case they came back. Most of us get changed and leave our bags at reception but I know occasionally some people leave them in the shower room so I presumed they were out running or whatever. We are a big-ish office (2 floors) so I couldn't go round asking & the other shower was full. I used the shower and was pretty quick, but when I got out the person was waiting. I apologised and explained but they were a bit stroppy. Surely you don't leave your stuff and walk off if you want to use the shower?

First world problems I know!

OP posts:
AlessandroVasectomi · 01/08/2017 13:56

I think A was in the right in the same way that it's perfectly reasonable to reserve poolside sun loungers by spreading a towel on them while taking a leisurely breakfast.

Fauchelevent · 01/08/2017 13:54

I couldn't tell ! Glad you're B

okeydokeygirl · 01/08/2017 13:53

Person A was unreasonable and should have put their stuff outside the shower when they went off. Person B was in the right. It is a bit like people who get up early on holiday and go and put their towel on a sunbed then go and have breakfast. If you are not there to use it then let someone have the chance.

jay55 · 01/08/2017 13:48

A was doubly unreasonable for complaining and for going to their desk when all sweaty and smelly and possibly in cycling gear.

diddl · 01/08/2017 13:44

I agree with all others that Awbu.

Surely people are always pretty quick using the anyway?

NotMyPenguin · 01/08/2017 13:43

Person B is in the right.

But I just want to say, OP, what a very fairly written scenario you've created! I honestly read both and thought they sounded like they could be a reasonable perspective... :-)

Original poster
MegEmski · 01/08/2017 13:40

I'm feeling very vindicated!

:D

@mummyoflittledragon you can win....a mcvities gold bar? I have a drawer full

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 01/08/2017 13:38

If you were A you'd probably not write this because you'd be so self righteous that's you'd know you are in the right and B is obviously in the wrong.

Do I win the thread Wink

VestalVirgin · 01/08/2017 13:38

I think it was unbiased. Before reading the second part, I thought you were person A.
It was just pretty clear who is being unreasonable.

Reserving showers for your own personal use by leaving stuff there ... just doesn't work. They're much like toilets in that, first person there, first to use.

Emergencies can happen, so I'd not judge someone for leaving their stuff there, but I do judge people who then are rude when someone else quite sensibly makes use of the time the shower is not occupied.

... unlike toilets, people also usually don't need to shower immediately, so Person A could just have waited.

Let's hope Person A will realize this later on and it was just a temporary bout of selfishness. People sometimes have those.

emilybrontescorset · 01/08/2017 13:37

Person B had done nothing wrong

Mulberry72 · 01/08/2017 13:37

Person A is U
Person B is NBU

Original poster
MegEmski · 01/08/2017 13:36

@twistmeandturnme possibly not - hard to guess time - I went out to check if the other shower was free, then checked the landing in case someone was topping up their water bottle looking sporty and sweaty, then came back and hovered awkwardly for a bit!

OP posts:
Thesingingtoad · 01/08/2017 13:35

A was lucky their stuff didn't end up on the floor wet.

Original poster
MegEmski · 01/08/2017 13:35

@ginkypig good idea but nowhere to put it outside the door, it would be in the way of people heading to the loos etc.

@andnowitisseven - sorry to disappoint :D

OP posts:
Twistmeandturnme · 01/08/2017 13:34

OP: you are person B, and I'd bet my bottom dollar that you didn't actually wait 5 mins (not that you should have needed to IMO) and person A is maintaining that they were gone less than 5 mins in total.
Either way YANBU.

OnionKnight · 01/08/2017 13:34

A was being a twat.

AndNowItIsSeven · 01/08/2017 13:34

I thought you were A op Grin

AndNowItIsSeven · 01/08/2017 13:33

A was selfish and entitled.

Ginkypig · 01/08/2017 13:33

Obviously A was in the wrong but if I'd been person b I'd probably have put the stuff neatly outside the door so they could get it while I was in (if it was safe to do so)

Original poster
MegEmski · 01/08/2017 13:31

Yay.

You are correct I'm person B

See, I quite like A and B threads although I guess sometimes it's obvious. I tried to make it unbiased but clearly failed....

OP posts:
TheSnorkMaidenReturns · 01/08/2017 13:31

A is unreasonable.
B is in the right.

PoorYorick · 01/08/2017 13:30

It is so obvious that you are B that I can't give an opinion.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 01/08/2017 13:30

How long did A expect B to stand around waiting While they fucked about not using the shower...?
I hope you are person B.

Bunnyhipsdontliegrl · 01/08/2017 13:29

I hate those person A and person B threads. Especially since it is always one sided... There is no way anyone can say person A was right.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 01/08/2017 13:27

I want to know which one you are, too.

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