Men trying to encourage sex after just two dates. This cant be normal surely

I've had sex on the first date, but at the same time now I'm a mom I want to wait longer. (My choice, no judgement). If you are wanting to wait I think you need to make this clear when you are talking before the date. Also letting them walk you home and kiss on the doorstep is a definite signal that you might well be up for more round here so it might be worth ending the date away from your house, get a taxi home so you have an excuse to leave them at wherever you've met if you feel uncomfortable explaining this. A guy who isn't just in it for sex will take you're cues and carry on talking to you/ seeing you even if no sex is on the cards, but the same guy might take you're letting him as far as your front door as a mixed signal and think you are up for more, doesn't mean it is all he wants.

The three date rule has been around for decades

Myself personally, I've always wanted to have sex early on then you know if you are physically compatible. After one or two dates it's easier to knock things on the head cause it didn't work then it is throwing away three months of your life.

I think you've just met the wrong ones... there are loads of men out there like this BUT not all. I met my ex and the guy I'm currently seeing on Tinder and; ex: waited 6 weeks or so but no pressure at any point; currently guy: two dates but haven't even mentioned sex really.

Keep looking and you will find one!

This won't be a popular opinion but I do think that generally and especially with Tinder, if you have sex too early it can set a precedent that that's all the relationship is. I have experienced that and now if I see a future with the guy, I wait.

I would just say to them that you're not into the whole casual sex thing - I dated for a long while with lots of different men and was never afraid to let them know (unless I wanted to)

It's fine if it's not for you - I applaud your ability to wait three months! If I was seeing someone gorgeous who I really liked then I would probably explode after that long.

There are men who would be happy to wait a bit longer, just maybe not the ones doing OLD, particularly Tinder etc. Relationship-focused OLD like Match might be better.

I had sex with DH the first time I met him. That was 20 years & 2 teenagers ago.

Whether you have sex on your first, second or 55th date is entirely up to you, but judging people who do it differently is a dick-ish thing to do.

I've had sex on the first date and one night stands. Two constant adults
Having a good time is all it is.

my husband was a one night stand having said that if your not ready for sex make it clear its not on the agenda,i dont think having sex after two dates is a bad thing but only if you both want to.

Unfortunately, I think this is the norm now. It's the main reason why I don't do dating.

It's pretty normal for some to have sex early on in the dating scene,it can be just because there is an opportunity to do so, that they like you or both.

You prefer to wait which is good for you and means you can bin off the opportunists early on.

I wouldn't be allowing doorsteps drop offs for the end of the dates as not only do you not know them and they now know where you live, They will try their luck as your home is your private and personal space.

Saying that I'm the have sex early type.

I got a cockshot and a text saying 'I don't want to go home tomorrow night' before a first date once.....

I think they think you're desperate....