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..to be so annoyed with my best friend?

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Janos · 19/03/2007 16:04

Don't get wrong, she is a lovely, lovely person, who I love to bits and I don't want to give any other impression

BUT...
yet again, she has cancelled a long distance trip to visit me (she's in the SE, I'm in Scotland) just because her boyfriend can't make it (he has decided to do something else instead). Instead of coming up on her own, she decides she has to cancel everything because she doesn't want to come up without him! This is the second time it's happened in a month.

I end up reassuring her (AGAIN) that I'm not upset (AGAIN) and am OK with it (AGAIN)when actually I'm pretty pissed off! Why is this man, who she's known for 4 months, more important than me, who has been her best friend for nearly 20 years??? AARGH!!

I was really looking forward to seeing her and I just want to scream 'Get a F-ing backbone!'

Am I really being unfair?

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meeeeow · 19/03/2007 16:11

maybe this bloke isnt as nice as she says? maybe its not quite as her getting a backbone? You never know what goes on behind closed doors!
Dont mean to worry you and yes, she is probably fine and just doesnt want to travel without him. Just keep an open mind. x

Mumpbump · 19/03/2007 16:09

Hmm. That doesn't work then!! Why don't you just say that you're rather disappointed that this is the second time she's cancelled in a short period of time and that it might be really nice to see each other without her other half around...

purpleturtle · 19/03/2007 16:08

I think you should let her know that you're upset, though. Reassuring her that you're ok with it, when you're not, is not being honest. And IMO that's not fair in a friendship either.

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Janos · 19/03/2007 16:08

I can understand that Mumbpbump but I'm not in a couple...it's just me and my DS.

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Mumpbump · 19/03/2007 16:06

I go and see friends without dh, but I must admit that I'd rather he came along. Some people are more sensitive to being a single with couples, I guess? But I'd be p*ssed off. I have a friend who didn't come to my birthday (I think) because her other half was going on an overseas trip. How that was relevant to her ability to visit me, I have no idea!!

fleacircus · 19/03/2007 16:06

You are being completely reasonable, she is being completely thoughtless. I hate friends cancelling on me, it's so rude.