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to expect DH to learn

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bizzi · 13/03/2007 13:10

to lock up before he goes to bed
to switch the heating off before he goes to bed (He goes to bed hours after me and smokes outside)
not to put non stick pans in the dishwasher
etc
etc
He complains I'm a nag but some of my nags are necessary, aren't they?
How do I teach him? Been trying for 12 years

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bizzi · 13/03/2007 13:16

I don't want an 'all the same' dh I want mr perfect!!!

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bizzi · 13/03/2007 13:15

we can't afford the heating on all night
he fritters money left right up and down, I don't want to fritter more on non stick pans and the rest. I do sometimes switch it off but if he notices he turns it back on at a much higher rate and still forgets to turn it off, safer to leave it on low and hope!

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MrsSpoon · 13/03/2007 13:15

LOL! They are all the same. We ruined a set of pans in the dishwasher (they were "dishwasher safe" but not "dishwasher proof", I now know the difference ). DH blamed me for putting them in the dishwasher, we got a new set of pans (replaced by the manufacturer as they had a fault so they would only send exactly the same "dishwasher safe" pans), I hadnwashed them for weeks until I went away for a weekend and came back to find DH had put them in the dishwasher and they were ruined once more. Had to use grotty looking pans for another 5 years until we finally replaced them.

mumblechum · 13/03/2007 13:12

Give up, hon. I realised years ago that you've just got to go with the flow, as otherwise you'll be seething and he'll carry on thinking everything's just dandy. Train yourself to agree that everything's dandy, and there's no problem!

Tortington · 13/03/2007 13:12

tell him if your children should die becuase of his gross incompetance at keeping his own fucking family safe you will hunt him down and kill him slowly.

re non stick pans - what gets hurt - the non stick pans? when they are fucked - tell him to buy some

you switch the heating off as you go to bed - thats solved.