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my sons girlfriend lives with us how much rent should I charge?

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dawnesmith1 · 20/04/2017 08:54

My DS2 gf is 19 and has lived with us for about a year. My DS2 pays nothing as he does not think he should and refuses to but buys his own food. Gf currently pays £40 per month and buys her own food.Is it unreasonable to ask for more? I also have a DD who is 16 so pays nothing and a DS who is 22 and on minimal benefits due to ill health who pays nothing but cleans once a week and does gardening and other jobs to pay his way, he also buys his own food. DS2 and GF do hardly anything to help around the house and do not contribute to items such as toilet roll/shower gel/clothes washing soap etc

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MissJC · 20/04/2017 09:20

I paid 50 quid a week rent from the age of 17 upwards plus I paid the council tax bill. I now have a brill work ethic and a lovely home of my own so I agree that responsibility sets a good example.
My mum was going through a messy divorce at the time with me and my then 4yo Dsis so I wanted to help support us.

upperlimit · 20/04/2017 09:19

Regardless of what your ds2 thinks, cheeky shit, how much do you think everyone should be paying?

SchnauzerLife · 20/04/2017 09:17

I'd be charging DS2 before considering upping the gf's rent. Do they work? Have you considered setting a fee 'per room' so that they have an amount they both need to contribute towards?

Floggingmolly · 20/04/2017 09:13

You must be joking?

MatildaTheCat · 20/04/2017 09:12

I advise you to move to a much smaller property.

Failing that, yes, she should pay more but ds1 should be paying if he's working and they should ALL be sharing chores. Having everyone cooking separately sounds a pain and wasteful on fuel. Maybe share meals to be cooked in rotation?

hibbledobble · 20/04/2017 09:11

Are either of them working? In education? How much are ythey earning?

TeenAndTween · 20/04/2017 09:09

Is DS2 working or still in education?

Sounds to me that he wants the benefits of being an adult (GF living with him) without any of the responsibilities.

loaferloveforyou · 20/04/2017 09:09

I'd start charging DS2 rent before increasing his gf's rent!

musicposy · 20/04/2017 09:08

Your DS2 is the problem here. It's completely unfair to let him get away scot free whilst upping the girlfriend's rent. You're not doing him any long term favours setting him up for a lifetime of expecting to be supported by women whilst he refuses to contribute.

HappyLabrador · 20/04/2017 09:08

I think it would be unfair to ask the gf for more when your ds2 pays you nothing.

WildBelle · 20/04/2017 09:08

Are they working? I think if you're making her pay, ds2 should also be paying.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 20/04/2017 09:06

I think you should ask for rent from your DS2.

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