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As a parent and a worker in a school,

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vixma · 09/03/2007 20:37

As a parent and a worker in a school, how should I deal with children who whatch 18 films. It is wrong and the law says it is wrong and the schools have to be carefull with this as they cannot upsut parent, even though we have children effected with what they watch. What should be done?

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joanna4 · 09/03/2007 21:06

If children comes to you in your professional capacity and tells you they have seen something that is inappropriate for them to see and that the age isnt appropriate then you must fill in a concern sheet and hand it to the senco in your setting as it is most definately a child protection issue.
Not sure what you might do in a parent capacity as i tend to keep my mum hat and my teaching assistant hat entirely seperate.

kimi · 09/03/2007 21:05

MIL let DS1 and DS2 age 10 and 6 watch horror films when they went to visit in the summer. guess who she wont be seeing this year.

Blandmum · 09/03/2007 20:58

I think that if a mother has bought an age 18 gave for a 5 year old, she should be repeatedly told by people that she is wrong! THis game is very graphic and is simply not suitable for a five year old.

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vixma · 09/03/2007 20:58

and as a parent, if other children pass on information to your child that is not appropriate.

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vixma · 09/03/2007 20:55

I wanted to open up a debate rather than offend anyone. How do you feel this subject should be dealt with in schools.

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katelyle · 09/03/2007 20:53

Fireflyfairy2 (can I call you fff2?) I was just worried about a 5 year old playing an extremely violent 18 playstation game. I don't like the idea of standing by while somebody does something which is likely to damage a child and I feel very strongly that violent images and concepts do real harm to children's developing brains. I wish now I had mentioned it to his teacher (who is brilliant, btw) so that she could keep an eye on him. But what do I know? I must be the only person who sticks rigidly to the age recommendations on dvds and games!

fireflyfairy2 · 09/03/2007 20:44

Katelyle, why should you have said something??? It was his mum who was buying him it

Maybe her idea of parenting is different than ours, but all the same, I wouldn't take too kindly to someone in the shop telling me something I was about to buy my child was unsuitable.

compo · 09/03/2007 20:44

I would asume that when you say 'as a parent and a worker' that you are not a teacher. In that case I would ask the Head's suggestion as to what should be done.

Aloha · 09/03/2007 20:43

If they are watching recent horror films with chainsaws etc at five and are upset, talk to the head about it.

fireflyfairy2 · 09/03/2007 20:43

Do you mean they watch them at home & come into school & tell you, so that's why you cannot upset the parents?

I don't understand.

compo · 09/03/2007 20:42

How do you know they've watched them?

katelyle · 09/03/2007 20:42

I've been worrying about this too. I was in Woolworths last year when my ds(then 5) met a friend who was spending his birthday money. His mother was buying him Grand Theft Auto for his playstation (I know it's not really suitable, but he plays it with his dad" she said. I've been worrying ever since that I should have done something....but what?

Aloha · 09/03/2007 20:42

Which 18 films? They aren't all the same.

fizzbuzz · 09/03/2007 20:41

How old are the kids? If they are very young it sounds quite serious, a child protection thing IMO.

Speak to your school's child protection officer

Saturn74 · 09/03/2007 20:41

Is this a primary school?
How have the children at your school been affected by what they watch?
I'm not sure what you mean by "how should you deal with the children" - do you mean that you want to tell them that they shouldn't watch 18 rated films?
I think you need to be careful what you say, TBH.