My Ils have a house in France. They live part of the year there, & part here. We've (dh, me, dch) had lots of nice hols while ILs were over here. This year, they want to be there for part of our hol. DH wants to spend time with them (fair enough - I've no prob with him taking a week in school time & going alone)& thinks I should chill. But, it won't be 'our' house if they're there. We have a history (basically they don't like me, & vv), FIL thinks arguments are good sport, will pick a topic & rant. We went to theirs at Xmas & they ended up all screaming at each other (and at me & dch, struck dumb)at the table, about some celeb. So, should I put up with it, or force DH to choose? (but he might pick them!)This is causing me big stress, funny twitches, irrational divorce thoughts... Help!