To hate staying at other people's houses

I'm really not keen on it. Unless I know the person incredibly well and its just me and them. So by best friend yes - in her very messy house - but not when her boyfriend is there! OK at my sisters but wouldn't stay there with DH.

In fact I don't like staying in other people's houses with my DH as he swans about places likes he owns them and it makes me tense.

Also I don't sleep well, have menopausal night sweats and like to potter around to get a cup of tea at 6 am and not expect anyone to get up and try and keep me company.

I'm just a miserable git and am far happier in a hotel.

I also hate it. With a passion. (Although I like hotels etc.) What I hate is the next morning. I'm a grumpy old bitch in the morning and until I've had a chance to wake up properly, have a shower and put my make up on, I'd sooner not have to communicate with anyone. Of course that is a bit rude so to avoid being rude I just avoid staying. MUch to my MILs chagrin. Hence on Christmas morning we are driving to hers, staying the day and driving back again that night. Means no booze for the DH but I'd sooner that than stay over.
Glad it's not just me.

I hate it too. I rarely sleep well at other people's houses.

Oh, I HATE it. Agreeing with the PP who said it's about being "on" all the time, no privacy, other people's schedules and central heating timers, queuing to use the bathroom (I don't know anyone with more than one bathroom ) etc etc.

We used to stay at the in laws' house when we visited them, but since we moved slightly closer to them we always come back home to our own beds. I thank my lucky stars every time Christmas rolls around.

I love having guests, we do have lots of room though. We both live a long way from our families so there's a lot of visiting back and forth. We bought this house partly because of the layout which makes it possible to have pretty much a dedicated guest suite at one end of the house and be able to avoid the things for our visitors that we've found we dislike about staying with others.
We always book into a hotel (with the exception of one set of friends we visit who have a set up similar to ours, plus they're the only people we can vacation and travel with we don't want to kill by the end of the trip) we've had family members argue about it but if anyone takes it as a slight on their home, it's not at all, it's just important to us to be at ease away from home, be able to escape for a few hours and mostly not put anyone else out.
I hate having someone, usually the kids, have to give up their room for us or, worse, having to camp out in a living room. Temperature is important too, why do some people keep their homes so hot at night? I'm a chronic insomniac also, nothing worse than tiptoeing around at 3am in someone else's home, dying for a coffee but scared to wake everyone up by rattling through cupboards looking for things.

It's definitely an introvert thing - a few hours in people's company wears me out no matter how nice they are and how much I love them. I have really enjoyed that since having a baby we have a ready-made excuse for leaving things early!

I hate it and so I don't do it, last time was about 15 years ago
I also never have overnight guests
I don't understand why so many put themselves through it when they dislike it so much

I'm the same, I love going on holiday and hotels but hate staying with other people and having them stay with us. I just feel you can't relax, worry about too long in the bathroom, not helping enough with cooking etc, baby being noisy and waking people up blah blah blah. I'm quite unsociable as it is though!

I'm the same. I can't totally relax in anyone else's house so I love being in the comfort of my own. Love hotels though!

Great thread. NYNBU. Relieved to see so many people feel the same. I usually make the mistake of looking forward to a break from routine and then find that (sadly) the routines are unbelievably important to me.

This time of year even more than ever. Visiting, and being visited. It all looks wonderful in the diary until we get to maybe 10th December and then...

I hate it too and every Christmas I have to do it which puts a real dampener on Christmas for me.
There is never hot water so baths have to be planned and there aren't any locks on the bathroom doors.
it's always 24 degrees with a fire burning away too.
I find it massively stressful.

Oh you are so NBU.
I've always hated sleepovers - as a teenager my group of friends were really into them which I HATED. I have always had trouble sleeping, multiply X100 at other people's houses.
Going to my mum's tomorrow for a few nights which will be hell in itself - totally dreading it - can never sleep at her house. Too noisy. My in laws in worse - they never clean their house, it is always totally filthy - think grime on the light switches, junk everywhere, never vacumned etc. I can never sleep there.
I probably sound ungrateful (and I prob am haha) but glad I'm not the only person here who hates it!

It's worse when you stay with family for a few days and have to do laundry : none of my family have tumble dryers so you have to hang soggy clothes up everywhere

That and tiny beds, so uncomfortable! And no dishwasher so endless bouts of washing fucking dishes.

I prefer my own home. I find the mornings stressful. Because I don't want to get in anyone's way I lie in to make sure that everyone else has finished with the bathroom - usually with a full-ish bladder. Getting up to use the loo in the night - will I wake anyone up?

The central heating up to top notch so it's too hot so switch the radiator off. Small bedroom stuffy so open the window - then the door starts to rattle in the breeze.

I definitely prefer my own home.

Nope, I'm the same.

We have a super king too and keep the house at 19 degrees. Bliss.

Everywhere else they have tiny beds, it's 24 degrees and I have to keep asking for stuff. Not the same as chez nous. I would faaaar rather stay in a hotel, I can actually relax!

Wow I must be weird
I love love love staying at someone else's house - we are going to my friends on boxing day and I can't bloody wait
She's a fabulous host and I might never come back home

Yep, the pits. Worst of all is staying at someone else's house with your young child who gets up very early so you have to get up with them and go downstairs to give them breakfast etc in your pjs before anyone else is up. I can't bear anyone seeing me before I'm showered, dressed, hair done, make up on so find it all v stressful.

I'm the same. Find it very stressful and would much rather stay in a hotel - the only exception is my Mum's house, which still feels like home even though it's not a house I've ever lived in. I do like having people to stay, though. But will probably enjoy it more when we can afford a place large enough that they don't have to sleep on an airbed in the living room... That's definitely an arrangement with about a two night limit for all involved.

YANBU. I find it really stressful too, no matter how lovely the hosts are. For me I think it's two things - firstly I find sudden changes to plans difficult so I struggle when I'm in situations where plans for dinner, activities, etc change without my knowledge. And secondly, I struggle being around people (other than immediate family) for too long without a break, but I always feel it would be rude for me to excuse myself to go and have some rest time so I end up totally exhausted and overwhelmed by the end of the day.

Why?

I love holidays but I can't bear the thought of staying over at someone's house, I haven't done it for at least 20 years and we've never had anyone to stay either thank goodness

The older I get, the more I need my own space. I have always tried to avoid staying overnight in other people's houses if it could possibly be avoided. I also don't like having anyone to stay in my own house.

I just about (only just!) tolerate having DH living in the same house as me, but we have separate bedrooms and use different bathrooms!

I hate it too. Love a hotel but staying at someone else's house-no ta. No matter how many times someone says 'make yourself at home' I never feel able to. I don't sleep properly, get up early and wonder what I am allowed to do before anyone else is up.

Home is best.