To hate staying at other people's houses

YANBU. I also don't enjoy it. Just spent one night at the PILs, and while they're very hospitable and generous I was so happy to get home.
Like MaQueen I like my big bed and I too am a bed linen snob and only like pure cotton with a high thread count. Also hate hunting for plug socket to charge phone, and not having the right kind of bedside lamps to read in bed etc etc.

YANBU.
For me it's the unbelievable levels of heating in other people's houses that I can't cope with. It does genuinely make me feel very unwell so I won't put myself through it any more.

Ugh.

I have a beautiful bed and a cozy, snoozy dog who I adore waking next to. I love my first delicious can of diet coke (no one ever has this), fiddling about in my kitchen and watching a bit of TV until I eventually get around to making breakfast, pottering about with laundry, then eventually leaving the house around 2 for lunch.

Neither me being a houseguest or having houseguests is really conducive to a great weekend IMO.

It's the being 'on' all the time that is the thing for me, that's a good way to put it.

We haven't been away this Xmas, but have had family staying with us for 6 days which creates the same effect.

I long to slob about in my own space being answerable to no one...

So bad! So awkward. (Bed sharing)

And I've decided - never again.

I'm not 22.

We are the same. We went to visit family today so no overnight stays. But still when we got off the motorway at our junction I said to DH isn't nice to be home.

And yes love going on holiday

I think we just get less comfortable not at home with other people the older we get.

This thread has shown me that I'm an introvert - I didn't realise it until now.

You're very welcome school ...except you're not, really.

I also hate hosting over night guests, but because our spare room is really nice, guests have their own bathroom, and the bed super comfy (apparently) people seem to actively want to stay [shudders]

It's not that I'm anti social, I am very sociable (honest) it's just that I love my own space in the mornings, and avoid conversation until after my 2nd cup of coffee.

Yes I am the same, we are staying at the in-laws tonight and although I do generally feel very relaxed here and we're only here for one night, I can't wait to get home. Our bed here is smaller than ours and not as comfortable so it's always a rough nights sleep. It's not helping that I'm ill and in pain so really just want to relax properly.

I am the same when it comes to holidays too. I'm a bit of a Scrooge really.

I'm the same. Much prefer my own bed. I'm always pleased to get home from holiday.

I'll stay at yours MaQueen.

This thread has actually given me ideas about how to host.

We're moving soon and I'll be thinking about getting a king size for the spare room.

We don't have people sleep over (house currently too small) but would be nice to think we will.

Hate it. I am very princessy particular when it comes to other people's standards (though you would never, ever know it if you were my host).

At home we have a super kingsize bed, with an expensive mattress, goosedown duvet and good quality bed linen. I also keep our bedroom quite cool, and we have a lovely en suite which is sparkling clean, power shower, lots of white fluffy towels and all my magic lotions & potions.

If I can't have that, as a guest, then I want a good hotel.

Have just returned from an overnight at in-laws, and whilst they are endlessly hospitable, their standards of hygiene/tidiness just makes me very uncomfortable. The bedroom is always roasting hot, bed is small and bedding is 25 year old polyester. Bathroom is shared, with unlockable door, dingy bath mat and fusty towels, and everything crusted with limescale [shudders]

Other people's mirrors :-(

Thought of another awful thing.

I'm 35 and it seems to be a 'thing'
that when we go on girlie weekends (uni reunions etc - also dislike despite being lovely to actually catch up) to share BEDS!

I'll be asking for my own room from now but I know I'm they'll be upset as it leaves an odd number.

I hate it.

I always thought it was me being miserable and antisocial.

Husband and I are giants. Hate double beds.

Didn't think about weird warmness of other people's houses until lots of other people mentioned. This too.

Ditto my weird loo habits (I go for lots of wees).

Like to eat when I want to.

Don't mind hotels as much but still don't wake fully rested.

What else - not massive fan of holidays. Kids out of routine, DD massively allergic to dairy.

I can understand the appeal of a break on a beach sipping cocktails with DH kind of...

I'm a miserable weirdo.

helpimitchy my parents follow that rule!

I spent xmas Eve at my parents' house for the last time and I told them so.
The bed is rock hard, their internet is shit, they'd no coffee, the house was cold and they didn't light the fire and they invited us (me and kids) over and then went out themselves. I think they think that we love the treat of being at home. The kids like waking up there on Christmas morning because that's where we lived when they were small, but no more, last year. Oh yeah, my mum had no cereals that weren't stale either. We didn't have Christmas lunch there luckily!

I won't stop at anybody's house any more. Don't care who I offend. I like my own space, routine.
Don't like hosting either, but maybe as we are a small three bed with four of us and one bathroom. We are moving to five bed with 3 bathrooms and people already hinting they want to stay - might move to a self contained flat instead!

But don't you find that when you have guests you have to change your own rules too? It ended up being 25 degrees in our house last night : 14 people and the woodburner going because people were cold

I woke up dehydrated.

I'm staying with PiL and I've got AF. So worried about leaking on the sheets!

Is there some kind of law that says once you hit 70 your house must become smelly, cold and musty and you have to eat mouldy food, even if you're comfortably off?

Um, no. No, there isn't. You sound very ageist and well, rude. I have actually never visited any house of someone over 70 that met any of those criteria. Quite the contrary, they are usually the loveliest homes. I can only assume that either you see things that aren't there, or it is just the people you mix with! Poor you.

I'm so with you people. I hate staying away, especially the multi stop visit everyone Christmas trips that involve lots of packing, repacking, driving for hours and too many crappy motorway service stations. Did it once with toddler, and told MIL we're never doing it again -which has put her back up. Day 4 of her staying and can't wait for her to leave - I need some peace and quite and my space back (introvert)...

Yes, agree, just back from staying at in-laws. So happy to be home and looking forward to my own bed and own choice of TV!