Rude mum at playgroup

This woman just happened to lie about your daughter hitting others, without knowing that your daughter is "going through that stage" of hitting others?

Not ALL of them!
Pahaha

Jesus christ

Why would this mum make up a story about your child hitting? Are you sure you haven't missed it? It would be pretty odd to be so riled up over nothing.

Also you know there is a possibility she will hit yet you still don't supervise?

but that means she was hitting SOME of the kids though. Whether it is ALL or SOME she is still hitting and needs to be supervised.

*She wasn't hitting ALL the kids
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Oh. Did she miss one?

supermoon Good for you if you wouldn't make a big song a dance about it.
There's a big difference between a one off incident, where I wouldn't make a big deal about it, and your child being constantly battered, and the parent doing fuck all about it!

Is that all you got from over 100 replies?

Wedonotsow, of course I care if my kids are hit, I just wouldn't make a great big song and dance about it! There is a possibility that the mother of the hit child was over reacting. I was merely trying to support the op

I don't think the lady was especially rude. If she posted here -
Went to playgroup today and one of the other children was making it miserable for the others by hitting. It was ruining their playtime and the mother was nowhere to be seen. After watching for a while I decided to confront the mother as her child was out of control. The mother told me it was hard coping with two young children but did not seem apologetic or prepared to do anything. WIBU to be cross?

I think the op is getting a hard time here. It's not your fault that your DD is hitting but you do need to watch her behaviour and step in. My DD is eight now, absolutely delightful now. But when she was a toddler she was a nightmare, biter and hitter. I was very hands on with her but she still managed it sometimes. I told the other parents to tell me if she hit/bit and I'd deal with it. And I did. It was a phase and she grew out of it but your DD needs s firm hand now, for her own good.

Maybe all the Christmas pressure got to her and she over reacted a bit. I always try and remember that we don't know what goes on in peoples lives behind the scenes.

I feel that too much supervision will prevent the " victims" from learning to stick up for themselves.

Jesus Christ! Do you really expect 2 year olds to 'stick up for themselves'? Seriously? I must live in a different universe especially when people expect 2 year olds to understand what "sticking up for themselves" means.

Nobody is saying their kids are perfect -we all know kids do things we would rather they wouldn't. Posters are pointing out that the op needs to supervise her child closely to catch the hitting as it happens and deal with it.

Op, want to give you a big hug! You have not had much support here and it is SO hard managing a toddler and a baby, especially as toddler is in her hitting phase. I am an experienced early years teacher and know that hovering adults often make children tense and more likey to hit, but in playgroups its necesary sometimes to keep everyone safe. Sometimes (sounds like this situation ) the child is feeling disconnected from their carer and know that hitting will bring carer to them. Anyway. Hitting is totally normal, even though some children don't go through this phase. As a mum of a prolific hitter I really sympathise with you. I can also sympathise with the other mum, as I'm sure you do. She didn't need to be rude.

No one said their kids are perfect

And good for you if you don't care that your kids are hit...

I think the issue is that she's know yet isn't closely supervising nor did she get her daughter to apologise.

Blimey every ones being a bit hard on the op. Although not all kids hit, some do and ive been on both sides of the fence but I've never made a massive fuss about someone hitting my kid because I don't see the point in getting so worked up about it. And less face it none of our kids are perfect!

Exactly, the DD needs to learn. Therefore the op needs to teach her.
Or another child will.

And I've never seen a 'hitter' take a smack back without screaming like they'd been shot.
Their parents always manage to see/hear that as well strangely enough

She was rude but I would find it pretty frustrating too if I went up to a parent after their child hit mine to be told the parent is aware of the hitting phase and moaning it's hard with two especially if this child was seen a good couple of times hitting other children.

I would think if you are aware of the hitting phase then why are you not closely watching your child and that it's not my problem or my crying child's that you cannot watch your toddler. My own child had a hitting stage and I would literally hover over him and try to stop him before he hit or if he did do it quickly, I was there to reprimand him immediately and make him apologise. If he carried on, we left.

I have been the rude mum, but, instead of being rude I was simmering and left in tears. I had two boys 14 months apart and yes that is hard but, you only go to places that you can manage to be. Another mum had the most precious little boy, he could do no wrong. Then he got a baby brother and all hell broke loose, he became a terror and all the children were afraid of him. His "poor" mother was so overwhelmed by having 2 under 4 that she just let him at it and every chance he got he hurt another child.

I wish I had stood up to her back then (6 years ago) because I am still annoyed with her about it. He drew blood from my older boy who was younger than him.

Just to emphasise I don't believe every child goes through hitting stage but many go through unsociable behavioural phases hence learning what is and isn't appropriate.