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To ask neighbour to stop kids using communal areas as personal playground...

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MrsExpo · 13/12/2016 10:54

We live in one of five detached properties in a small cul-de-sac/close. Houses are accessed down a drive way between two houses on the main road at the top of the close, and the drive is wide enough for two vehicles to pass, opening into a wider turning area in front of the houses to allow people to access their drives. The drive has a 3-4 meter wide strip of grass down each side and this has trees on our side and a row of neat shrubs down the fence on the other. All houses have access to their own parking areas and all the drive-ways are open plan - i.e. no fences between them. All the houses have good sized rear gardens.

The drive, grassed areas and central turning area are jointly owned by all five properties and we manage the grass cutting etc between us to keep it tidy. (Except for one property who do sweet FA, but that's another story!!).

Family in house opposite have 5 kids, the youngest two being boys aged 8 and 10. Like most young lads, I suspect (don't have sons myself) they enjoy kicking a football about, but - having reduced their own back lawn to a bog - are now using the drive/grassed areas as their personal football pitch and bike race-way. As such, the grass is getting cut up, ike tracks all over the place, there were no less than 4 footballs and two bikes left lying about this morning and the shrubs are getting kicked to shreds. In addition, footballs are bouncing off people's cars, tree branches are getting broken, peoples drives and front lawns are used as an extension of the playing area ... In short, the place looks a real mess. (To say nothing about the noise they seem to generate when they're out there!).

AIBU to think the neighbours need to stop their kids trashing the place, use teri own garden for the kids to play on, get them to tidy up their stuff and generally start to respect the property? (Sitting here dreading the onset of Christmas school holidays ...!!!)

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Mistoffeleze · 13/12/2016 11:47

Why do you think MN is a better place to come than their parents?

FV45 · 13/12/2016 11:44

Pop round and tell them their balls are hitting the cars and they are playing on your drive, and this needs to stop.

These are totally reasonable requests and their response will allow you to gauge how responsive they will be to your other concerns.

How do you know what state of their back garden is in?

YelloDraw · 13/12/2016 11:29

Ugh that would really annoy me., Hate it when people fuck up communal areas like that.

takemetomars · 13/12/2016 11:23

We had this problem. We complained. It escalated. We moved.

RockNRollNerd · 13/12/2016 11:22

Unless playing out in the communal areas is specifically prohibited under the freehold/lease agreements I would say focus on the damage aspect rather than kids playing out. Be very wary of drawing up battle lines between parents/non-parents or parents of boys vs those without boys - complaints like that tend to spiral and grudges get held for a long time.

SapphireStrange · 13/12/2016 11:17

I think you can ask them to keep the area tidy and watch out for stray footballs etc, but not to stop their kids playing there. It's communal.

mintthins · 13/12/2016 11:06

I'd suggest that playing in the communal areas is absolutely fine, and what it is there for. Trashing it however, is completely out of order. Leaving stuff on it is also out of order, and becomes a security risk not just for their own stuff, but for everyone else, due to it drawing people into the area for no good. Damaging the shrubs, cars etc needs to stop immediately.

(Speaking from bitter experience)

itsmine · 13/12/2016 11:06

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JaneAustinAllegro · 13/12/2016 11:02

no you're not but say something sooner rather than later. If you're really chicken to do it personally, is there a management company that controls ownership / maintenance of the communal parts? do it via them... If you do it direct to the parents, make it clear that it's a significant health and safety issue with cars as well as the fact they're trashing it (& when are they proposing to reseed the grass etc)

itsmine · 13/12/2016 11:02

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SuburbanRhonda · 13/12/2016 10:58

YANBU.

When do you plan to go round and talk to your neighbours about this problem, OP?