No one cares about my vagina

OP, you have the legal right to treatment within 18 weeks of referral.
www.nhs.uk/NHSEngland/appointment-booking/Pages/nhs-waiting-times.aspx#maximum

I complained to my CCG when this did not happen for my son and a date was provided quickly. Good luck.

I think its outrageous the way you have been treated Fauxgina. Wish I could help somehow

You shouldn't need to keep chasing to get the treatment you need but it is worth speaking to the consultant's secretary to make clear you would be happy to accept a short notice cancellation (if you can possibly make this work). At this time of year there will be cancellations due to winter bugs.

I might see if my finances can stretch to one after Christmas.
I'm going back to my GP to check I have definitely been referred, and to see if my bladder medication can be upped or changed.
for you all.

You are about as far from being unreasonable as it's possible to be and I'm so, so sorry that you're having to live with this.

I am raging for you all.

I really feel for all of you, I can't believe you haven't been able to get the treatment you need. It is quite shocking.
My own experience of much much milder women's issues has frustrated me no end,so I can't imagine how you feel. Despite visiting the GP more times than I am comfortable with nothing has been done to help me address my clear hormone imbalance problems, severe cystic acne, constant bleeding etc, claiming I am 'too young' and 'it's not that bad' but anything that impacts on your daily life and your self esteem should be addressed. The NHS is really finding staffing very difficult I believe so more people than ever are waiting to see much fewer people. It's not sustainable. If I had the money I too would go privately for consultations but you shouldn't have to sell everything to do that!

I hope you can get further - also agree with not hiding your emotions

I then asked if he would ever say to a 30 yr old man that he just needed to accept that his own sexual satisfaction was at an end. He looked even more embarrassed

Fauxgina, yes I was. I burst into (very angry) tears. The young ish male consultant then just looked very embarrassed

Ocelot
I saw my GP in August and have been referred for blader and bowel prolapse. My vaginal wall has weakened due to a full hysterectomy. I've been told the waiting list to be seen is a year.
Then there will be the wait for an op, it took 9 months for my hysterectomy and that was only sped up by the fact I had my inital consultation privately.
I can't poo and can't stop peeing.
It's just ridiculous.

Also just to add DD has had recurrent UTIs and subsequent kidney damage. She's only 10 so not birth related. But she is on a prophylactic dose of antibiotics for a year plus D Mannose supplement. Recommended by her consultant. Worth looking into?

Try taking your husband to your next appointment, and let him explain how your health issues are affecting his sex life, and see if that changes anything.

Weird thread. Blaming people for having children and throwing obesity in there too . I blame the migrants myself.

Recurrence utis here too, maria. Don't get me started on the lack of knowledge surrounding this, and the use of short term, wholly inadequate antibiotic regimes to treat them. They had a doctor talking about this on women's hour the other day and I broke down as it's so rare to hear a medic with understanding and sympathy for this condition. He thinks the standard of care is negligible.

Have you tried staying on a prophylactic dose of antibiotics (low dose everyday)? Only thing that works for me.

Yanbu to be angry. I am angry for you. I think this is part of the reason for the focus on vaginal deliveries on the NHS. A CS goes wrong and the NHS pays the price. Vaginal deliveries go wrong and women pay the price, privately, in terms of the impact on their lives. Bloody disgraceful.

No advice as I've never been through it but I've often thought that labour related problems are brushed under the carpet. I'm sorry you are having to go through all this.

Meanwhils the NHS spends billions on the problems caused by obesity... Problems that are totally self inflicted.

Next time you go to hospital with something serious and are getting the run about, count the number of overweight people and ponder if they would not be in hospital if they weren't obese? And would the waiting list be so long if doctors were not dealing with the self inflicted problems of diabetes and oveweight?

Amen sister! I had some complications after DS' difficult birth (became unable to orgasm) and it is amazing how little help there was because I was female. I was even told that I should just ' accept that this can happen after childbirth and enjoy pleasing my husband'

This thread seems to have gone slightly off course since I saw it last night...

OP I also have prolapse issues (cystocele and rectocele)- the pain when walking, peeing very often, frequent UTIs (currently being investigated to see if any link to prolapse), pain during sex, and just pelvic pain for no reason... fortunately no continence issues for which I'm grateful after reading horror stories on here.

I've had it for years - in my case without having had children!!! I was advised that in some (infrequent) cases prolapse can occur due to collagen deficiency also associated with e.g. Hypermobility. Basically I am too stretchy, and so are my ligaments.

As others above I have been advised to
a) wait until after I finish (or in my case, start) having children, and
B) delay surgery as long as possible since it likely wouldn't last my whole lifetime and need repeating.

But on bad days when it is painful, and I have bowel issues with rectocele, I am frankly fed up. The thought of having children and this getting even worse before even attempting a fix is daunting.

isthatalrightthen, may I just gently suggest that a post mentioning an anecdotal story from Take a Break or Woman's Own will not really resolve OP's issues? Somehow I can't imagine her squeaking with delight and saying sod the pain, the incontinence and the bleeding, at least I can still shag around!

YADNBU! The NHS is utterly shite when it comes to gynae services. It's appalling as so many "women's issues" can have have a huge impact on your life. It's an area that feels totally neglected

I would definitely recommend forking out for a private consultation, as a pp has said they may be able to refer you via the NHS.

Isthatalrightthen awful horrible comment that has nothing to do with he OP's post and is aimed at making her feel bad. What happened to people supporting each other. I know AIBU is feisty but that is just down right nasty.

ThisThing you must be a very considerate and compassionate person.
Did you read OP's description of the situation? She was promised an intervention and help after she was finished having children. What other options did she have? This is about the responsibility of the NHS.
If you get a flu, will you blame it on going shoppingor taking public transport when you knew there will be sick people around and expect shitty treatment?
When your child breaks an arm while playing will you blame them for not being careful enough and accept that the NHS will send your child home with a twig and a rope to fix their arm because they don't deserve any better as the accident was their fault?
I assume yes, you will. At the end, it'sall about the responsibility.