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NOT to pay fo a Hen do that im not going on!!

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pinkranger · 12/02/2007 10:09

I was meant to be going on my SIL hen do to Scotland for the weekend in may but i have pulled due to the fact that i am pregnant and it will be a weekend of drink,drink and more drink ( normally would be great )

We had booked and apartment that worked out £60 each and flights, i have already paid £10 deposit for the accommodation and £70 flight, i am happy to accept that i will lose these but there is now talk that i pay the remanding money for the apartment which they would have booked anyway ??

All this will mean is that they all pay an extra £10 each - is that un reasonable ??

I am also the only one with a family and all the other have VERY good Jobs ??

what do you think ??

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Original poster
pinkranger · 12/02/2007 10:15

i know i do feel bad in a way but this apartment was agreed upon even before numbers were confirmed ( if you see what i mean)

have just emailed sil so hopefully that will sought it out

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DrumMum · 12/02/2007 10:14

sorry... I'm with beansprout here.. you said you were going... you shared the cost between you... its not their fault you've backed out....

hana · 12/02/2007 10:12

hmm
I can see you point but if the accomodation has already bee booked for x number of people, and one pulls out, then the rest are out of pocket.

lets hope it's just talk and they'll see sense.

beansprout · 12/02/2007 10:12

If you had already said that you were going to go at the point where it was all booked and paid for, then it's only fair that you do pay for your share. You said you were going to go and now you have changed your mind. It gets tricky for other people if they have to keep paying for others. I appreciate that it's rough to pay for something you aren't going to go on though.

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