To secretly feel so sad about moving house tomorrow?

Oh. Very old thread . Hope everyone’s ok !

I’ve just moved to a new area after 30 years in a village to be nearer my daughter. The house is lovely but the area is all wrong for me and i hate it. Im having panic attacks and i cry every day. I don't know what to do. We can’t move again for ages as no money now, and deciding where to go is almost impossible for various reasons. I’m getting older and I feel I’m going to be miserable for the rest of my life now . We’ve made such a huge mistake, for me anyway.
I understand @Aljmum 😞

I'm going through the exact same emotions at the moment! Moving from our home of 23 years, early 50s. I've loved living here, absolutely everything and so many memories we could never have again. I wouldn't even have considered it but DH desperate for a change and more space. I get very attached to things so this is a big change for me. When I was younger I moved about a lot, now I prefer a more simple life lol 😆

Mortgage would be paid off in a couple of years, I agreed to it as guess it will be our last move til retirement and downsizing. Xx

Oh god it's such a relief to know we r not alone! I sometimes think the new like place I'm about to rent I imagined. I doubt myself and worry I'm going to hate it, when in fact my mum and my daughter both loved it as well! But I feel so sad to leave my home. It's been my sanctuary for 9 years thru the toughest times and I'm so scared I won't have it's welcome home hug to look after me anymore. Does that make sense? I'm frightened and unsettled but it helps to know I'm not alone. Thank you all so much xxx

Oh ffs. The OP has probably stopped crying by now. This thread is three years old.

Last time I moved house I went to my local high street to pay my last paper bill. Lovely little market town where everyone knew everyone else. I met so many people I knew, shopkeepers, my GP etc. and said goodbye to them that I sobbed my way the entire length of the street. 😂. It’s natural to feel sad even if, as I was, you’re going to somewhere that you really want to be.

Yes 100% normal, last time we moved after everything was removed from the house and everywhere cleaned (so basically the last time I'd be leaving) I went around all the rooms as a final "check" (there was nothing to check) I'd be lying if I didn't say I had a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes.

A caring Estate Agent (they do exist!) once said to me:
"You may be moving house,but your memories will not be lost.They go where you go."

Ive never posted on a chat room before but been googling like mad trying to understand why i feel so bad an depressed about my house move, ive wanted to move for a while and thought moving only 10 minutes up the motorway to a quieter area and better high school for when the kids grow up was the best idea, we have bought a new build house which couldny fault its gorgeous we did have a choice of buying a new build in our old area but thought this place would be better for the kids, they dont want to change primary and i dont really want them to to be honest commute to old school not bad really, i dont know what to do about schools or should i stick it out here for a bit an see how i feel or just literally sell up soon if it was left to me i would sell tomorow and move back but theres my partner to consider ive never felt so fed up literally am very depressed and crying all the time. Would appreciate any advice thanks

Oh gosh...this thread describes exactly what I'm going through at the age of 59. Selling the London flat where I brought up children as a single mum to live in the countryside with my partner. I'm crying every night at the thought of it, although I've been planning this move for several years. DP cannot understand (he has no children) Grown up sons cannot understand. Doesn't help that I'm renting in the new place until we find the perfect home. It's the uncertainty that unnerves me as much as the loss. But thanks for all of your stories. Do provide some updates please. I am hoping you are all happy and settled and thriving in your new homes.

OP if you are out there can we get an update? Or any of you others who moved and felt the same...how did it turn out?

I've been sad leaving every house and it does take quite a while for a new place to feel like home, but it does happen eventually - I would say months rather than days though. Good luck in your new home

I feel exactly the same as you.

I love my house so much, I feel I have betrayed it by selling it. I cried after every viewing.

I now feel my little house has given me the opportunity to have a new life in a different part of the country, and be mortgage free. I am lucky that I am selling to a lovely woman who I think will look after it. I still feel a bit sad though.

Had to leave a house I loved too, was years ago, went through a divorce and had been made redundant as well. The council rehoused me and the children so at least we had a roof over our heads until I could get sorted and buy something else. I sat and cried the night before the move but now 20 years down the line I cannot imagine ever living there. The house I have just left was totally the opposite, could and did walk out without a second glance. It was never a home to me.

It's not unreasonable at all OP. When I left my London home where I had lived for 26 years I sobbed my heart out. Thirteen years later where I live now is so much better - no stairs (I'm disabled) with a lovely garden but every now and again I still miss my old place.

I hope your move goes well

I absolutely howled when I left our old flat, even though we were trading in a poky 1.5 bed flat for a gorgeous 3 bed house. Totally normal. My dad helped me buy the flat, and died a few years ago and it really felt like I was letting go of a last bit of him. Be sad, it's totally totally normal and expected, but let yourself be excited too!

I get it. I felt the same leaving our home we'd rented for 3 years to go to our house we'd bought. I hated the house but it had so many lovely memories in it, all the neighbours were so lovely and I just wanted to cry about leaving it!
It did take a whole to adjust and I resented our new house a bit because it didn't have the memories (or fab neighbours) like the old house.

We're a year on now and I love it. It just takes time.

This has made me remember leaving our first house and I am weeping. We moved there when DS1 was nearly 2 and DS2 was 8 months and stayed for five years. We had lots of friends, the DCs loved their little school and we were moving 100 miles away for DH's job. When we set off in our loaded car, tears streaming , all the neighbours came out and waved us off, it was that sort of road. Such a vivid recollection.
But OP, you will get over it, embrace the future.

I know how you feel trixymalixy, my son was brought home from the maternity hospital at two days old, he owns his own beautiful home with his wife now but he loves this house and it's actually just ten doors away from were he bought his, so he'll be seeing the new owners coming and going everyday, so that'll be hard.

I am feeling like this too. We've been in our house for 12 years, it's the only house the kids have ever known and DD was born in the living room!

It doesn't help that we are moving to a smaller, more expensive house on a busy road. The only reason for moving is to be in a decent school catchment.

Our house has been a bit of a labour of love, and we've just got it how we would like it, but we're having to start again in the new house.

I understand too. This is slightly different but I sold my mums house last year (she died the year before). I lived there from 19 but naturally moved away etc in my mid 20's but it was still home as I spent a lot of time with my mum and every Christmas etc. It was the family home for over 30 years.
I still miss it (but I guess what I miss is the family times/my mum). I dreamt about it the other night, going back, hearing all the noises it made -a certain step always creaked).

Sorry Foxyloxy I meant to say, you're right it is and I should really start looking at more that way and be a bit more positive, thank you.

Thanks Foxyloxy, you're right.

It is hard, but it is also opening an exciting new chapter.

I've just came across this thread and I've got to say I totally understand. I've been in my home for thirty years and at aged fifty one we're down sizing, paying off the mortgage and owning outright a lovely little house in an area we like, but.... I think I'm in denial about moving, I have highs of looking forward to our new home, then to massive lows of guilt of how can I leave this house after all the problems it's seen me through, all the welcoming hugs I feel it gives me and I'm aware of how silly that sounds but it's how I feel. We've had a huge amount of interest in our house and it sold in two weeks but that only made me feel resentment and jealousy, a case of how dare they want my house. We're down sizing so my husband can drop a shift at work to help with the grandchildren and of course to own a home outright and have no mortgage is an amazing achievement. I know I sound ungrateful, but I just feel like I'm abandoning my home, it's been with me for thirty years, so I supposed I will adapt as the months go by, as will you, we always do, I suppose I'm scared of what if I've done the wrong thing abandoning this house, it's scary as you know you'll never be able to go back. Never mind, it's a chance we take I suppose, I'm hoping the guilt and sadness pass soon though. Good luck with your new home.