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desperate for lost teddy (Jellycat 2008) - can anyone help?

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acorngirl · 10/09/2016 12:48

This is the first time I've posted.
It's hard to write about it but we lost the teddy my 7 year old son has had since he was born. He absolutely loved teddy saying "Mummy I love teddy more than I can say" just before we lost him. We left my bag/had it stolen on a train in Czech this summer (my husband and I were having a tough time at the time...)
My son has skin-sensitivity issues and the feel of the teddy's special arm on his skin really soothed him, day and night. Now he tries to get soothed my touching his younger sister which drives her crazy, starts fights etc. He looks so lost without him. And can't seem to settle. He
misses him for both company and for the feel of him.
I have tried and tried to find a replacement on line but the teddy is no longer available. Please if ANYONE has the same teddy and their child no longer wants/needs the teddy could we please adopt him. Or if you know where we might find one. This is the teddy bear:
www.theparsleypot.com/images/_lib/jellycat-bashful-bear-medium-1067-0-1259676894000.jpg
MEDIUM BASHFUL HONEY BEAR BAS3BR - JELLYCAT from 2008
I am at a loss what to do and desperate to find a replacement. Also terribly sad and so angry myself at letting this happen.
Sorry for such a long thread. PLEASE HELP.

desperate for lost teddy (Jellycat 2008) - can anyone help?
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v13nna · 02/02/2025 18:50

now im sad

fairybaby · 24/12/2016 06:05

Could it be this one? teddy

The tags match but it looks a bit different. It's Ebay USA site, happy to get it for you, if you need help.

Chelazla · 24/12/2016 02:35

I agree fully with pp. Much as we want to make e everything ok for our kids- you can't it's life unfortunately. You'd be better of helping him to try and cope with this. You said it happened when you and hubby were having a tough time. Maybe if things are still tough this is contributing to his sadness and dare I say yours too. Whatever you do i wish you well.

previously1474907171 · 24/12/2016 02:18

Might I add, when searching for old bears etc. use the term 'retired' in search as it is often used for discontinued items.

Birthdaypartyangstiness · 24/12/2016 00:22

Agree with everyone else, time to get used to change.

The 2000 bears thing sound like trying to milk a personal quandary into some sort of viral fame. Which you might enjoy, but your DS would probably gain more from being supported to accept an alternative.

Sorry for cynicism. Not very xmassy of me.

SENPARENT · 23/12/2016 23:40

Our son's teacher had a soft toy monkey and the children took it in turns to take the monkey home for the weekend. When it was our son's turn to bring Monkey home he absolutely fell in love with him and was really sad to give him up on the Monday.

I desperately tried to find one the same for him but to no avail. In the end I got one as close as I could - it was smaller but it had a cute little face and our son accepted him.(He is autistic and has sensory issues).He still loves Monkey and still takes him away with him even though he is now 21.

Your son has been without his teddy for several months now so it may be that he will accept another soft toy with a cute face. If nothing else, his sister needs a break!

This bear is white but he has the same kind of arms and a similar appealing face to the other one.

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/jellycat-kitten-bashful-polar-bear-baby-teddy-soother-comforter-bunny-31-cm-/252508763356?hash=item3acab1f4dc:g:-osAAOSwMtxXty~N

It seems unlikely that you are going to find an exact replacement and trying to get enough people to buy 2000 bears is, I think, a non starter.

The other alternative is to go for something else now he is a bit older.

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/jellycat-monkey-bashful-bear-baby-teddy-soother-comforter-NEW-TAGS/262649269294?_trksid=p2047675.c100005.m1851&_trkparms=aid%3D222007%26algo%3DSIC.MBE%26ao%3D2%26asc%3D38661%26meid%3Db8115cf305244c849e3f697f8a18b77a%26pid%3D100005%26rk%3D6%26rkt%3D6%26sd%3D252508763356

And if you do decide to buy another toy and your son becomes similarly attached, buy another one to keep as a spare or to rotate with the other one before it goes out of production!

hanban89 · 23/12/2016 23:16

That does look like it. I just seen a bear on the news Facebook page and they are trying to trace the owner. I'll see if I can link it.

zen1 · 23/12/2016 22:14

I'm sorry your son lost his bear OP, but I agree with others that you should try to help him move on and create memories with a new teddy. It sounds as if this has become a bit of an obsession for you, when it might be the case that you will never find an identical bear. Is it because you associate it with your son's birth and you feel that losing the bear is losing something special from that time? I do understand as I have taken a while to get over lost things.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 23/12/2016 22:05

I'm sorry your little boy lost his bear. But I don't think your idea is practicable.

Better to get him used to the idea of adopting a new orphaned bear who needs an owner to love him.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon · 23/12/2016 22:04

Ophiotaurus the arms don't look the same to me, not as long as in the OP's post, I don't think it is the right bear.

PrivatePike · 23/12/2016 21:58

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ophiotaurus · 23/12/2016 21:56

I'm on the mobile site. Can someone PM the op. I'm certain it's the right bear.

ThatsNotAKnifeThatsASpoon · 23/12/2016 21:55

I don't think that's a workable plan at all, sorry. I think it's a bit bonkers actually to try to rope others into it - sorry if I sound harsh but I run you've lost perspective on this! I understand you want to make your son happy but you would be better off using your energies getting a new alternative bear and helping your son build new happy memories with this toy.

ophiotaurus · 23/12/2016 21:54

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/262767010105

ophiotaurus · 23/12/2016 21:54

Is this it?!

Rixera · 23/12/2016 21:47

That's heartbreaking for both of you! I've saved the pictures and will keep an eye out in charity shops. I still have my teddy from childhood, I'd be distraught if he went missing too!

thrifttwig · 23/12/2016 21:37

Ugh sorry so dark.... nighttime filter.

thrifttwig · 23/12/2016 21:36

Is this him?

desperate for lost teddy (Jellycat 2008) - can anyone help?
babyapril · 23/12/2016 16:53

I'm so so sorry your son has lost his bear. I totally understand just why it is so important that he gets the same. I think it would be better ( now) though to try and help him learn how to adjust to having a 'cousin ' bear or friend . I'm concerned you won't ever find one - and he might ( just might) accept another friend. Good luck.

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acorngirl · 23/12/2016 16:41

Dear all

Thanks so much for all your support. I still haven't found a teddy for my son. He is still so sad,and anxious without his teddy.
I asked "Jellycat" company to make him an exact replica but they said I would have to order 2000.
I am thinking of trying to get together 2000 orders. Do you think with a community of families whose children have loved (and lost) lovies I could make this happen? Through a mass campaign.
If I ask 200 families to get 10 families each to buy a teddy we can do it, and my son will have teddy back.

Please let me know
a) if you think it is a workable plan
b) if you would be able to help me find some families (through friends, school communities etc)

Many many thanks and in hope
Madeline

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mygorgeousmilo · 23/12/2016 16:24

Start a facebook thing, people are kind! I do hope you find the bear 🐻

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acorngirl · 23/12/2016 16:02

Thank you both for your recent posts. SE13 mummy I don't think your bear will do but so kind of you.

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mrsmcgowan · 11/12/2016 17:16

OK thank you, will try, have never used this before!!

mrsmcgowan · 11/12/2016 17:15

This one is a bit better

desperate for lost teddy (Jellycat 2008) - can anyone help?