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I have refused to go on a course on DS's birthday

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MamaGrr · 02/02/2007 10:21

Work want me to go on a course in London on DS's 3rd birthday - 9.00am until 5.30pm and I live in Cumbria!

I have refused to go.

I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable, although my boss did a face but I really wnated to post a thread in this subject

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OtterlyMad · 03/01/2025 15:00

hana · 03/01/2025 13:14

Omg. (Name change)
this was a post in 2007
I can't even remember writing this

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Omg I was still a child when this thread was created hahaha

hana · 03/01/2025 13:14

OtterlyMad · 03/01/2025 07:26

She literally said she lives in Cumbria and the course is in London - did you imagine she was going to teleport there?! 😂

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Omg. (Name change)
this was a post in 2007
I can't even remember writing this

modgepodge · 03/01/2025 09:44

OtterlyMad · 03/01/2025 07:26

She literally said she lives in Cumbria and the course is in London - did you imagine she was going to teleport there?! 😂

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This thread is 17 years old 😂😂😂 I wonder if the OP is still around?? And whether the child remembers their 3rd birthday 😂

FourEyesGood · 03/01/2025 07:55

ZOMBIE THREAD! The OP’s child must be almost 18 by now! 😂

Zanatdy · 03/01/2025 07:50

I’d refuse too if it meant I wouldn’t see my DC at all that day, even now they are 16 and 20. It sounds like a non important course that can be done another time so definitely right to say no. Kids grow up fast, as a working mum i’d draw the line too with this. If that impacts on my career, so be it, some things are important and this is one of those things.

CouldItBeAnyMoreObvious · 03/01/2025 07:44

MamaGrr · 02/02/2007 10:32

s'funny dejags, I was considering taking a day's holiday on his birthday - I didn't last year and regretted it, but I don't get much holiday entitlement as I am part time and we get the Tuesdays after bank holidays off and have to tkae those days from our annual entitlement.

Hmm

Might call in sick

Great attitude. Happy to pretend to be
Why not try self-employment. That way you can take birthdays off.

FrodisCapering · 03/01/2025 07:41

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OtterlyMad · 03/01/2025 07:26

hana · 02/02/2007 10:25

well you didn't say that iin your first post!
but still, well, I think I'd work and celebrate the bday later. you won't be home for all of them wouyld you?

She literally said she lives in Cumbria and the course is in London - did you imagine she was going to teleport there?! 😂

Angeleena · 03/03/2012 15:53

How weird. I must have unknowingly clicked on page 293 or something to find this- thought I was just scrolling through the last two days!

ImperialBlether · 03/03/2012 15:18

Arrgh just noticed the dates - the child will be at university now!

ImperialBlether · 03/03/2012 15:17

If your child is very small, why not just tell them that another day is their birthday? How would they know?

Obviously everyone wants to spend a child's birthday at home, but for crying out loud, how can you claim parity in the workforce when you refuse to do something because it's your child's birthday?

AnnieLobeseder · 03/03/2012 14:10

How on earth do these ancient threads get resurrected? Confused

FlangelinaBallerina · 03/03/2012 14:02

I'm glad it got dug up. Gave me chance to enjoy the posts on the first page admonishing OP for not having mentioned the overnight earlier. As if it would make any difference- if you live in Cumbria and have a course in London, you're not seeing your child that day unless they come with you!

Pagwatch · 03/03/2012 12:05

Fucking
zombie
thread

Why angeleena? Why?

SwivellingDicksTidyWife · 03/03/2012 11:57

ZOMBIE

THREAD

Trills · 03/03/2012 11:49

Said child is 8 now.

HJwantstosleep · 03/03/2012 11:45

Sash- its an old thread.
Plus it's 2-3 hours to Manchester/Newcastle from Cumbria so not that much difference time wise

sashh · 03/03/2012 05:52

Couldn't you fly? I know Cumbria isn't that well served with airports but Manchester and Newcastle both have flights to London that take less than an hour, then another hour max to central London. And if they were going to put you up overnight it would probably cost the same.

HoneyandHaycorns · 02/03/2012 22:36

Oh fuck, that'll teach me to read the whole thread before posting!

HoneyandHaycorns · 02/03/2012 22:35

I was asked to go to Switzerland on dd's 3rd birthday, to a very high profile event that I couldn't duck out of. The solution? I took DH & DD with me. :)

EndoplasmicReticulum · 02/03/2012 22:34

Oh sorry, didn't realise this was another old thread before I posted. Second one that's got me today.

Are the zombies taking over?

EndoplasmicReticulum · 02/03/2012 22:33

We celebrated son's birthday at the weekend. On his actual birthday I left the house before he got up and didn't get home until 7.30pm.

I don't have the option of taking their birthdays as holiday.

Son 2 I don't have to though, as his is August. I should have considered this when planning pregnancies - note to teachers there, aim for the holidays!

When I had a "proper job" I used to take my birthday off. I don't like working on my birthday.

Casmama · 02/03/2012 22:17

Oh ffs - this kid is now eight and probably has no idea what happened on his third birthday - I think the advice is probably a little late Angeleena.

StickAForkInMeImDone · 02/03/2012 22:07

This thread is 5 years old! FFS

Angeleena · 02/03/2012 21:49

You could have told a white lie and said you are having a minor medical prodecure and have waited months for the appointment and feel it would be unwise to miss it.

It depends how friendly you are with boss whether you can carry this off but, particularly if he is male, inferring that it is some 'women's' problem will probably get him scuttling away and agreeable to your day off.

No doubt more acceptable in boss's eyes than day off for DS bday.