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To ask our guest not to eat the baby-food?

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IslandCanary · 30/03/2016 15:02

DH's friend and his partner are staying for a few nights. I've met her on 2 occasions, she seems very nice, normal, friendly.

On their arrival I told them to help themselves to anything from kitchen, showed them the snacks cupboard, fruit, fridge etc. Plenty of biscuits, chocolate, crackers, cake, yogurts, cheese etc. Baby food is in bottom half of cupboard.

This morning I found 2 empty jars of Heinz baby porridge in the recycling, along with an empty pouch of purred mango. Mid-morning I noticed her eating a baby cocoa-vanilla dessert straight from the jar! Confused

I don't know what to do! DH thinks it's hilarious and says not to mention it. I'm irritated as the jars are expensive, they are for DS and there is plenty of other food.

AIBU to think this is really weird and rude? Should I hide the jars or let her carry on?

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Lweji · 30/03/2016 21:08

Does she drink milk?

Give her a bottle instead of a mug or glass?

TheLambShankRedemption · 30/03/2016 21:08

This is totally weird.

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MeridianB · 30/03/2016 21:06

Cabbage, you are not alone. I totally agree with you!

cranberryx · 30/03/2016 21:04

Beyond all of the weirdness and food issues with her thinking restricting her calories by eating baby food is okay...

She is taking food from a baby. It's selfish. If she wanted baby food she could have asked you when she arrived if you could get some in.

Hide it all OP. She's brasen. I would simply say, breezily,
"Well those jars are expensive and for when I don't have time to cook something from scratch, it's difficult to have something in the house for convenience when it isn't there. I would prefer you to get your own baby food if you want it, or your welcome to any of the adult food."

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 30/03/2016 21:03

weird. I used to.quite like the taste of Aptamil First Milk powder. If it was me I would steel myself and ask her politely not to eat the baby jars. What else can you do?

DownstairsMixUp · 30/03/2016 21:02

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Jojoriley · 30/03/2016 20:59

I can't wait to hear what she eats next..keep us posted

nocabbageinmyeye · 30/03/2016 20:57

Oh look I'm not alone, phew, my rage can ease slightly

MeridianB · 30/03/2016 20:56

I agree with PPS saying it's not on to take food from a baby in someone else's house. It may be eating issues, it may be laziness but whatever it is, she should have brought her own.

I wouldn't mention it again but would put most of the remaining jars somewhere else.

nocabbageinmyeye · 30/03/2016 20:56

PLEASE tell me I'm not the only one that thinks she is rude, even putting the baby food aside for one second, i could not stay in someone's house (bar by parents) and just help myself to anything no matter what they said when I arrived, i wouldn't do it in my siblings houses either. She just opened the press and helped herself Shock no sorry no "I'm a bit peckish would you mind if I made toast/sandwich/adult food" - fine, open the press and help yourself - not fine even if you have been told it's fine, it's not. She's rude

ScarletForYa · 30/03/2016 20:55

Oh my God, you've more patience than me. I'd have exploded with fury! The selfish bitch eating the poor babies food.

I'd throw her out, my brain is boggled that such selfish people exist. Confused

Jojoriley · 30/03/2016 20:54

This is the weirdest guest ! She's rude and strangely oblivious to the oddness of her behaviour. I say put some pet food pouches in the fridge and see if she eats those...poor kitty

ijustwannadance · 30/03/2016 20:50

If she had food issues which meant she would only eat baby food she would've had to bring her own surely? This is just her being opportunist and lazy.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/03/2016 20:50

I think I would just say, "We didn't cater for the adults when buying these in for DS. If you want to eat baby food, pop along to the supermarket and get some - and could you pick up milk whilst you're there please".

It's very weird and not acceptable for her to be acting in this silly and 'look at me' way when she's a guest somewhere.

ijustwannadance · 30/03/2016 20:48

Even my DD wouldn't eat the orchard chicken Envy

ijustwannadance · 30/03/2016 20:47

In that case move them all. She can look at the calorie intake on anything. And if she needs to keep eating them she would be hungry enough to eat non baby food.

I am still shocked that a grown woman would eat the food in someone else's house that is clearly for the baby that lives there! Selfish cow.

WicksEnd · 30/03/2016 20:45

She's not just got issues with food, she's got issues with basic manners! In what kind of world is it acceptable to eat the babies food? Confused

BaldHedgehog · 30/03/2016 20:43

Don't feel embarassed, just tell her straight that it's not on. Hide the rest of the jars elsewhere and don't replenish until she's gone. Cheeky mare with a brass neck.

JacobFryesTopHatLackey · 30/03/2016 20:42

That's.... just odd. The fruit ones can be quite nice but taking them from a baby in someone elses house is a bit off

Birthgeek · 30/03/2016 20:41

he thinks she has issues with food

This is a recognised thing, sadly. A friend with anorexia could only eat baby food.

Remove whatever you'd rather keep for your baby.

LaContessaDiPlump · 30/03/2016 20:37

Weird..... and I say that as someone who once voluntarily bought and consumed a baby jar of chocolate mousse because it looked tasty and had a low calorie count Blush

No way would I let others know of my weird leanings though. And to take food from my host's baby would be just Shock

FranksBobot · 30/03/2016 20:34

Is she eating meals with the rest of you as well or just baby food? Confused
How anyone can eat that orchard chicken is beyond me, it's smells vile and looks dreadful. The fruit pots however are pretty amazing and I do get rather excited when dd2 doesn't want to eat a whole one!

InionEile · 30/03/2016 20:32

That is weird! The fact that you asked her and she just shrugged it off is impressive on her behalf. It does sound like she might have some food control issues though, trying to limit her portions and control calories. I wonder if she buys baby food for herself when she's at home?

cornishglos · 30/03/2016 20:28

They look delicious to be fair. Not that weird. I am seriously considering getting myself some of those mango pots when I have oral surgery next week.

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IslandCanary · 30/03/2016 20:23

Well I had to say something! She ate a jar of his strawberry cereal layer with yogurt, right in front of me! Just took it out of cupboard and got a spoon (a normal teaspoon not a plastic weaning spoon Grin) and dug in. So I said 'do you realise that's baby food?' and she smiled and said yes, she loves baby food! Apparently it tastes nice and she knows exactly how many calories are in each jar!! She wasn't shy about it and acted like it was normal Confused
I was too embarrassed to tell her not to eat them so I just said 'make sure you leave enough for DS' and she nodded. Since then she has eaten 2 Orchard Chicken jars and another vanilla-cocoa dessert Angry

I'll sneak down tonight and hide some away! It's not that I can't afford to replace them, it just seems wasteful. I buy them for convenience (and because they have no added salt). We do BLW as well but he doesn't actually eat much he just plays with it and throws it around, hence the need for purées as well.

We have instant porridge sachets for adults but I guess the jars are more convenient as the porridge is already made up and creamier. I've tasted them when feeding DS, they do taste nice, but it seems wasteful to eat them when I can have normal porridge!

DH says not to mention it again, he thinks she has issues with food.

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