Mums in the boys' swimming changing rooms?

I have to say though that you are extremely lucky to have an actual fish for a swimming lessons manager.

That's ingenious and I hope my local council include this in their employment criteria.

What? Just what??

I am a swimming teacher, and a competitive swimmer, I've been in hundreds of pool changing rooms.

I have never ever heard of an adult going in to to the changing room of the opposite gender.

That is absurd.

Yanbu.

I've got 3 boys and have never experienced this problem.

If DH wasn't on hand to come with us, I would take the boys to the female changing rooms (when they were too young to manage alone) and stick them in a cubicle.

IME it was extremely rare (if it happened at all) for women to enter the male changing rooms.

Yanbu

I'm amazed the mum's aren't embarrassed. At our pool, if I took ds into the men's, I'd be confronted by dozens of adult male willies attached to grown up men getting changed. Shame faces all round. And probably result in my gym membership being cancelled.

Of course YANBU.
Women should not be in the men's and men should not be in the women's changing rooms.
I think 8 is usually the standard age dc are not allowed in the changing room for the opposite sex, by which time the vast majority of dc can dress themselves. If you know your child struggles with buttons then dress them in a t-shirt and joggers. If they have greater difficulties than that then use the family changing cubicle.

No yanbu. I've complained about men in the women's changing before and knew that a lot of women went into the men's, my oh was uncomfortable about this but as we had girls it was less of an issue.

Sorry, mine wasn't a very helpful reply for your AIBU. Except I think non-segregated area works best and that we should all be campaigning for these at our local pools.

Wow YANBU id be very unhappy to find an adult male in the femal changing rooms!

At our nearest pool there is no segregation ... everything is in one area.

However there are both individual and family changing cubicles, all with full length doors and locks.
A large shower area for those who wish to have a quick shower (before and after swimming) with their swim wear on and a handful of individual shower cubicles for those who wish to strip for a more thorough wash.

Yanbu. I had a similar issue with a grandad in the girls changing rooms. (I was in there changing my son)

If a child is too young to change alone he should go into whichever changing room the parent is.

Saying that I did once go into the boys changing rooms. Ds had just reached the age of changing alone & he just didn't come out. I was worried but I called in & knocked to warn everyone before entering. Turned out some other boys had hidden his clothes.

It's a nightmare. Ds isn't quite old enough (and certainly not organised enough) to be on his own in the men's but old enough for me to feel uncomfortable if I take him in the ladies with me and there are girls/women changing

Ask the pool attendants if they have a policy. Even if the manager doesn't want a fight he could put up a sign! Adults shouldn't be in the wrong changing room. Children who are young enough to need help changing can go into the opposite sex changing room if they are with that sex parent. Usually the age cut off is about 8, though, not 9 or 10. Could they be younger than they look? I'd expect a 9 or 10 year old to be able to change alone, unless they have special needs. In which case, it might be more appropriate to use a family changing room or disabled changing room.

YADNBU. Small children go into whichever gender changing room applies to the parent. So I take both ds and dd into the ladies and if dh was in swimming duty he would supervise them both in the men's.

But the other side is that if they took their boys into the girls changing rooms, there would be some parents being funny about there being boys in there. Catch 22.