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AIBU to think MIL is being a bit creepy?

110 replies

Abbadoo · 11/07/2015 19:37

So, MIL and I don't get on well. But that's ok as we don't see much of each other.
Now DH has asked me what the perfume I was wearing 7 months ago, last time MIL and I met, as she wants it for her birthday.

I said her wanting to smell like me was a bit weird.

He says I'm being irrational and should take it as a compliment.

Verdict please (have name changed as may show DH the thread)...

OP posts:
FarFromAnyRoad · 11/07/2015 19:59

How in the name of all that is merciful is this 'creepy'? If you don't like MIL and never ever want to cooperate in any way or attempt to improve the relationship then have the bloody oomph to stand up and say so but getting all fucking weird over the name of a perfume? Jesus.
Listen. You'll be the MIL one day. You want this shit raining down on your head then? I just bet you don't.

molyholy · 11/07/2015 19:59

Yabu. Ridiculous in fact. If she was like swf, copying your clothes/hairstyle etc., that would be odd, but to have liked the smell of a mass produced perfume, to the point of wanting a bottle of it for a gift, not creepy at all.

Glitoris · 11/07/2015 19:58

By the way,what do you mean by 'creepy'?Do you think she wants to smell the same as you so that your husband fancies her?Because that's kind of what you are implying....which actually makes you the creepy one.

DoreenLethal · 11/07/2015 19:58

Just tell her to go to a department store and pick one that smells good on her.

Very creepy.

Postchildrenpregranny · 11/07/2015 19:57

I think its a bit odd . but as you are rarely together. And it coudbe placatory gesture
I gave DD1 the perfume I had worn for years for her 18th birthday as she loved it.But I then stopped wearing it as it felt a bit strange (took DH ages to catch up though-proudly presented me with some the following Christmas Packaging is very distinctive and he was so pleased he'd remembered I quietly gave it to DD and pointed him to current perfume ..)

NoArmaniNoPunani · 11/07/2015 19:55

I think it's creepy too. I wouldn't want to wear the perfume any more.

CrystalHaze · 11/07/2015 19:54

So, MIL and I don't get on well

She has complimented your choice of perfume, you've attributed some sinister, 'creepy' intent to that.

Funny that you don't have the sunniest of relationships ...

ApocalypseThen · 11/07/2015 19:53

I bet there's someone in the world has the same perfume as me which keeps me awake at night with the creeps.

DarkNavyBlue · 11/07/2015 19:48

I'm with you OP.

Creepy.

Bet you don't show your DH the thread now everyone's said YABU.

CrystalHaze · 11/07/2015 19:47

She won't smell like you, as perfumes smell different on different people.

I know MN loves to MIL-bash, but FFS the woman thought your perfume smelled nice and would like to buy some for herself. It's hardly 'creepy' Hmm

wigglesrock · 11/07/2015 19:47

Not creepy at all, my mum and sister wore the same perfume for a while.

Thurlow · 11/07/2015 19:46

YABU

She liked the smell. Surely that's why people wear perfume, so other people like the smell?

Really, really not weird.

Sunny67 · 11/07/2015 19:46

If a friend or work colleague asked about your perfume would you find that creepy?

Hulababy · 11/07/2015 19:45

Not creepy.
She liked the smell of your perfume.
That is all.

ExcuseMyEyebrows · 11/07/2015 19:45

Tell him it was Tweed - smells like cat wee.

Ex-mil used to wear it, along with elnett hairspray which is also perfumed with feline urine.

LaurieFairyCake · 11/07/2015 19:45

You just tell her a different one Confused

Glitoris · 11/07/2015 19:44

She's not weird,you're irrational.It won't smell exactly the same on her anyway,individual phermones alter the smell slightly.

I'm guessing you won't have needed that namechange after all,this isn't the resounding MN back-up you wanted to show your dh Grin

saturnvista · 11/07/2015 19:44

I would feel the same as you. But at the same time she may not realise you don't want her to smell like you.

snowglobemouse · 11/07/2015 19:41

No that's not remotely creepy Confused

KillmeNow · 11/07/2015 19:41

YABU.
She likes the perfume.

I believe other people may also have this perfume and will at times smell like you. Even some people you may know. This is not creepy.

Iggly · 11/07/2015 19:41

Think rationally for a moment. If someone wanted to know, it would be because they like it.

Maybe she's even trying to be a bit olive-branchy!?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 11/07/2015 19:41

Huh yabu.

What on earth is wrong with admiring someone's perfume and wanting some of your own

MrsCs · 11/07/2015 19:40

hmmmm I think you are a bit creepy for your thought process here

Hissy · 11/07/2015 19:40

Poison...

Or hussy....

Do they still make Tramp?

The idea of your h going into a department store and asking if they sell Tramp, for his mother? Priceless Grin

TenPinkFairies · 11/07/2015 19:40

Yabu but if it'll ruin the perfume for you then tell dh a different one!

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