AIBU to think MIL is being a bit creepy?

I'd love it if Matthew Wright said no Armani no punani on TV :)

What did they say about it on the Matthew Wright show? They used someone's post about wearing jeans to their wedding not long ago.

It was about copying someone's 'scent' as they put it.

They quoted Abbaddoo's name and one or two others on this thread. You should check! Some of you may be famous

What did they say about it on the Matthew Wright show? They used someone's post about wearing jeans to their wedding not long ago.

how odd, i would almost, be delighted if my mil said she liked my perfume!

she doesnt seem to like anything about me, so i would be thrilled!

Depends on the background and context. Is she historically competitive with you? If not I would still not want to smell like my MIL tbh. I think smell is a very powerful and evocative thing to some people. I love my perfume and wouldnt want to smell like someone proabably 20yrs my senior and my MIL to boot. Neither would i want my partner to associate my perfume with 'mummy'!

OOoooh Fame on the M Wright show this morning!
~Abbadoo, I bet you're wetting yourself with excitement!

Hard obviously

You would expect someone to ask permision to wear the same perfume as you?

This perfume is a mainstream high street shop available one.

You are heard work and not in a good way

I wouldnt like it, for the reasons named upthread. When my husband is cuddling me, I dont want him to associate that smell with his mum! Smell is very personal.

I would have lied.

Whether it is creepy behaviour depends on the personality of the mil - some mils would genuinely mean nothing negative by it and others would be wanting to tread on your toes. If it was only the perfume she is likely to just like the smell and not have given it deeper thought. If she often copies what you do, then Id be more concerned.

I bet you don't show dh this thread now will you

I think you'd have a point about you both wearing the same perfume if you saw her regularly. But twice a year?
You are weird for thinking this might be a problem, whatever her intentions are.

You're overreacting. She's giving you a compliment and probably trying to throw out an olive branch!

I wouldnt like it. Scent is so personal, it evokes memories of your life. I have worn the same perfume as my best friend, but even smelling her wearing it is strange as it reminds me of me.
I would lie and say it's something else

I wouldn't give a shit, if someone wanted the same perfume/ top/ shoes etc.

Bracelets??? Still don't care. If you wnat something unique that you won't ever see (or smell) again. Pay for an exclusive. I had a link of London braclet made for me, I couldn't give a shit if someone wanted the same one.

Besides which this is a mainstream perfume. It hasn't been made for the OP. And she doesn't even see the mil that often.

If my dad wanted to wear the same aftershave as dh I honestly wouldn't give a shit. I am past the age where I snuggle up to dad on the sofa or live with dad. So not going to get them mixed up because they smell similar

Yes you are being irrational, it's only a smell

I don't think yabu, my Mil ( who I generally quite like) bought the same trainers as me once. There was no way I was going to wear them again.
I have however bought sil a perfume similar to one I wear ( I wear one version of poison and I bought her a different one) so I am obviously inconsistent.

as long as she doesn't start wearing similar clothes to you you are fine!
tbh, perfumes smell differently on different people anyway

Your poor husband!

Massive overreaction from you I think!

That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I'd have said,"Yes it is lovely" and I'd have bought it for her. However the same perfume doesn't smell the same on everyone so she might want to try a tester and walk around with it for a while to be sure.
I wear 3 different perfumes depending on the occasion but the everyday one makes my adult dd think "Mum" if she smells it on someone else. My dil loved it and I bought some for her, the reverse of op so my ds also has wife and mother smelling the same.

I understand where you're coming from OP.

A couple of years ago DH bought me some lovely perfume and I adored it...especially as he had chosen it himself and brought it back after a business trip as a surprise.

A few week later we went to visit MIL and I found out she had (by coincidence) just bought the same perfume!

Now I like my MIL and we get on really well but I couldn't wear it after that. It just seemed so wrong for someone's wife to have the same scent as their mummy.

Also to add, does none of the YABU's ever get miffed if someone they like copy something they wear/buy? Not even a little bit?

Genuinely not. If I was in a situation where particular one person repeatedly bought the exact same things as me I'd find it a bit odd, but the occasional item wouldn't bother me at all (and indeed it hasn't, on the few occasions that it has happened).

Can't see anything creepy about that at all. I admired a friends perfume many years ago then bought it cos I love it. 20 years later I still wear it