To not let stranger use my toilet?

YANBU

no way would i let a strange man into my home.
YANBU.

Come to think of it I did have an odd toilet encounter a few years ago. I was living in an apartment and a guy came to deliver an ikea item (whole other saga... Ikea delivery... just don't do it!) He was very friendly, rather too chatty for my liking especially as he was going on and on about how little Ikea pays for him to deliver items (In retrospect I think he was angling for a tip). He then asked to use my bathroom and I apologetically refused (bathroom was full of bras and knickers drying.) I told him that there was a common area bathroom on the ground floor that he was welcome to use (on his way out so totally convenient). He just shrugged and said "Oh that's okay, I just wondered..." I still don't know what he meant by that and as I had to escort him out (building rules on guests) I noticed he didn't stop at the bathroom. Again I'm a suspicious person but it's not exactly unheard of for people to search bathrooms for stuff to steal or prescription meds to take...

'I'm happy to admit I'm a bit of a cow like that but I can't help but be sceptical about someone knocking on requesting what is essentially unsupervised access to my home.'

How is that being a cow not to let a total stranger in your house on the pretext for using the shitter?

YANBU. MN is really weird about this, though. And it doesn't matter if you are in the middle of nowhere, either, if you don't want to let a stranger in your house, for whatever reason, then don't. I don't see what is 'paranoid' about not letting a total stranger who chaps your door into your home.

Nobody who has ever watched any serial killer / murder mystery/ police procedural show would have said yes to that . That is the purpose of those shows, to teach us adults about stranger danger.

I would never let a stranger in and frankly I find it unbelievable that someone would think a stranger would let him into their house to use their toilet. If I broke down and needed the toilet my first instinct would be to find a cafe or garage etc... and the OP stated that she wasn't in a rural area and there was a garage down the road.

At worst I might knock on a door to ask if I could get directions to the nearest cafe/garage etc... I think it's strange that the man didn't ask the OP if there was a nearby place he could go to after she said no, he just thanked her and left. Sorry but I my instincts would have me doubting his story. Maybe I'm too suspicious but better than regretting a different outcome.

I would never let a stranger in and frankly I find it unbelievable that someone would think a stranger would let him into their house to use their toilet. If I broke down and needed the toilet my first instinct would be to find a cafe or garage etc... and the OP stated that she wasn't in a rural area and there was a garage down the road.

At worst I might knock on a door to ask if I could get directions to the nearest cafe/garage etc... I think it's strange that the man didn't ask the OP if there was a nearby place he could go to after she said no, he just thanked her and left. Sorry but I my instincts would have me doubting his story. Maybe I'm too suspicious but better than regretting a different outcome.

Yanbu. I would not let someone unexpected in the house when I am alone, whether they are male or female.

Not a chance I'd have let him in. In fact, I probably wouldn't have even let him in if he had children with him. Or if he was elderly.

I'm happy to admit I'm a bit of a cow like that but I can't help but be sceptical about someone knocking on requesting what is essentially unsupervised access to my home.

YANBU. I know what you mean about feeling bad about it though (although you shouldn't!), and if it were a delivery driver or someone else who was legitimately at my house/door, then I'd probably feel differently.

Thinking about it more, where I live there's a cafe and a couple of shops round the corner and a park with trees he could piss behind, so I'd direct them there instead and hopefully not feel guilty.

It doesn't really matter what his reasons were, I wouldn't let a stranger into my house while alone either. It might be mean but you have to make the decision that's best for you not him.

Ask yourself whether you would ever knock on the door of a complete stranger and ask to use the loo. Would you do it if there was a garage and a shop in the next street? I would call the local police station to let them know about this. Definitely up to no good.

Last year a delivery man askedbifbhe could use my loo, and I let him in. I was in an apartment over 3 floors at the time and the front door was on the bottom, and bathroom was on the top. I stood at the living room door on the 2nd while he went in.

When he came out he started saying things like "you've got a nice body can I touch it" and asking repeatedly. The front door was open and I heard my next door neighbour at their front door so I shouted and he left.

I reported it to the company who weren't interested, and the police said there was nothing to report as he didn't actually do anything or threaten to.

I'd never let a stranger in again.

Definite no here.

Like others have said, a man can wee anywhere.

The scenarios racing through my head now...

Yanbu. I'd have said no too. He can piss by a tree or bush.

It's a classic trick

YANBU. He probably would've done a massive stinky shit, leaving skids all over your loo, which he then couldn't remove because he couldn't find the loo brush or bleach! And pissed on the floor or the loo seat! And left the loo seat up! It's really not worth the risk INHO

Actually good point made above - be extra vigilant and security minded: he may have been casing the joint. I'm not being dramatic - mention to your neighbours if you know them.

Man or woman I would say no. My sister laughs at me if a delivery comes and I ask to see ID before opening the door but I saw a reconstruction years ago on crimewatch that shook me up!

God no, sensible for sure! I thought you were going to say you wouldn't let the Tesco delivery man or the person painting your house use it, then I would have said YABU but a complete stranger to knock on the door, no definitely not. I'm surprised anyone would knock and ask to be honest

I wouldn't have let him in either There are lots of shops and pubs round here which have toilets, so I'd think he was checking who is in at this time of day/hoping to pinch something. It's a pretty sad state of affairs, but there are a few horrible people out there and you have to look after #1.

Yanbu I wouldn't as well.
However 'torturing' yourself is a bit dramatic.

A complete stranger knocking on the door and asking for entry into your house?

No way.

He most likely was genuine, but you never know.

YWNBU

I wouldn't. I am also paranoid. I'd have directed him to the public loo (there is one in our village) or to the nearest pub or other place that had a loo.

I wouldn't take the chance that it was a ruse to gain access to my home. Chances are it isn't, but there is a genuine chance it is and it's your basic risk assessment, isn't it? Likelihood x severity. Access to my home isn't a risk I'm willing to take.

It's sad really. Most people are genuine and it's horrible to really need the loo. But I wouldn't risk it. I'd rather tell him to pee in my hedge