To murder my husband because he is fucking snoring

Stillsquirrelling weight shouldn't stop them investigating, my husband is very overweight, but snored like yours when skinny, medium and now as obese. If anything, having daytime sleepiness as with sleep apnoea messes with your metabolism and also means you have no energy to exercise, so the weight becomes a vicious circle. No reason for consultant not to recommend losing weight too, but most men (over 50%) are overweight but not all have sleep apnoea and in many case, weight loss does very little.

It IS torture and you do end up feeling displeased with the snorer who seems to thinks it other people's issue (not his!).

I really think because its not THEM suffering they wont go and see a Dr.

I am not sure tbh that further UP the consultant wasnt right. If a chap needs to lose weight then the onus is on him to do that.

It's like he waits for me to nod off by lulling me into a false sense of security with tiny grunts and then does the most enormous snort ever

My OH does exactly the same thing. He just knows when I'm about to nod off... and then there is the loudest snore ever!

I will help you find a spade to hit and bury him with and a patio

Life with a snorer really can be Hellish.

We had no spare rooms until recently but now we do so at least I have an escape (or somewhere to send OH to sleep as I am heavily pregnant - but even I'd take a camp bed over his snoring)

It doesn't help that I am a light sleeper [pre child I needed a flight mask and earplugs to nod off even without my warthog of a partner next to me] but lack of sleep is torture and you can seriously end up resenting the person who causes that lack of sleep.

My 'D'H snores like you wouldn't believe. Turning onto his side doesn't work and I do dispense a very hard kick every time he snores. Eventually I make him go and sleep in the spare room over at the other side of the house and even then I can still hear him if he doesn't close the door. DDs often complain about the noise in the middle of the night, to the point of scaring them into having nightmares as they think it's a monster

I get really agitated when people come and stay the night because it means I have nowhere to kick DH out to. Ditto for holidays etc. It makes for a very exhausting time for me.

I did send DH off to the docs, where he was sent to the hospital to investigate whether he could have that stop-snoring operation. The consultant took one look at him upon entering the room and said, "don't bother sitting down - turn around and come back when you've lost 2 stone". That was about 10 years ago and DH hasn't bothered losing any weight. He is over weight but he wasn't when we first met, or as a teen - he was quite skinny - but he still snored like a bastard loudly then too so it's not his weight that is the issue, although it won't be helping matters. I think the consultants attitude was appalling!

Its such a horrible subject and a lot of people think its amusing. Seperate bedrooms for us. My DH did very little to resolve. He did try the strips but they didnt work, however he is not really bothered tbh. its funny, reading the thread. Its always the sufferer who moves. The culprit stays exactly where he is.

He doesnt have a medical condition. He just snores... Holidays arent always great because he just carries on and I have to take sleeping pills which again he doesnt concern himself with!

referral via GP - but do mention if you/they seem to stop breathing, then suddenly snort and start breathing again. Recordings can help (audio/video), plus you can get apps which do it too (would suggest getting permission to record so as not to make marital discord worse ).

i cant sleep if my husband goes to bed the same time as me, he gets in and falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow and sounds like a pig grunting next to me, if he gets into bed the same time as me I moan at him. I've had to sleep in my sons room with them before now.

My DH frequently wakes up black and blue...

My DH was diagnosed with sleep apnea, had an operation and he still snores.

He's a tiny bit better, but I can't and won't lie next to a person sounding like a steam engine. I have a room that I take myself to and sleep peacefully there.

He can't help it, I've got legs, I get myself a good nights sleep in a separate room.

Even when we book a hotel we often book two separate rooms if he's going through a snorey stage.

I use earplugs and now cannot sleep without them even if DP is not there! Have got so used to the feel of them that I do not feel sleepy unless got them in. (I might just be weird).

How do you get a referral to a clinic?

Thats where DH was diagnosed Leaping. I'll never forget sitting in the waiting room, bloke comes out of the consultants room, sits down, falls asleep! No doubt on OSA for him

I love DH's CPAP machine more than DH . If you're in the South East, the sleep centre at East Grinstead is brilliant, and had a surprisingly short waiting list. Within three months of DH going to the GP he had his machine.

it's possible he has sleep apnea, so he should get it checked out. There are long term consequences to it (usually not murder!) and there are ways to fix it.

I "accidentally" kicked DH in the back last night due to his snoring.

In my defense, I haven't had more than fourteen hours of sleep in the last week.

I told this story on another snoring thread...........
My late DH and I were enroute to a family gathering and booked into a Travel Lodge.
In the night DH would NOT stop snoring! I kicked poked, prodded, shouted rolled him over everything i could think of to no avail!!
DH was alarmed in the morning when he woke up and i wasn't in the bed. He was most surprised to find me asleep in the bath with all the spare bedding

Hurricane really you do have my sympathies... its just horrid trying to sleep through that.

My dh also didn't believe me. He also didn't believe me when I said he stopped breathing all the time too. Its only when he saw the actual report from the sleep studies (because he thought that was all a lot of bollocks too) that he got quite a shock when they said he stopped breathing more than 70 times in an hour.

We had the prescription sitting here for months and months for the cpap machine, as he thought that was a load of bollocks too (his words). He was hard work, I admit, but now he cant sleep without it and I don't let him otherwise he snores again

Once, I shared a hotel room with my dad.
I punched him in the solar plexus at two am.

Mum was curious as to why he suddenly insisted on seeing a snoring doctor after 20 years of marriage.

I'll tell you, mumsy. It's because you should have knocked the wind out of him sooner.

(DP only snores a tiny bit when he's not well. I can forgive that, because he rolls over when I prod him)

The snorts at 4 a.m. are the worst!

Yy to this.......

I have found my spiritual home on this thread! The snorts at 4 a.m. are the worst! Separate bedrooms are a godsend...

Marnia - it was when ds was tiny and I was waking in the night with more opportunity to listen to dh snoring. We were fortunate that there was a sleep clinic where we lived, so he was seen quickly - its important that people see a sleep specialist, not an ENT surgeon so all the treatment options are considered

I did all the above for husbands snoring - ear plugs, strips etc etc sleep study and also surgery

what finally solved it was a mouth guard/brace - it's fitted by an orthodontist and it stops the tongue slipping to the back of the throat and causing snoring (laymans version) it's quite a big contraption, it does not look attractive sitting in the drawer but it works like a dream!! it slips into teeth and moves the jaw forward (I think) ...we were desperate when he got the referral - the dentist took one look at his mouth and said this will change your life and your marriage - we were like yeah right but willing to try anything - it worked!

the first night he slept peacefully all the way through and not a single sound out of him

It's changed both our lives and we are now back to sleeping in the same room - I don't hear a peep from him ever

if he forgets to put it in now within about 2 mins he's snoring like a herd of elephants in the room like huge old days.

the biggest improvement is his sleep quality not just mine

CMOT that is interesting.
What prompted him to have the sleep study done? I snore and have suspected I may have sleep apnoea as I wake up feeling so tired and rubbish every morning and then feel better as the day progresses