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To not be surprised that divorce rates are so high when I see how some friends treat their husbands??

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 16:09

Just having huge arguments over petty issues, being anal about the childrens routines, making DH sleep in spare room for duration of oregnancy & first 8 months of baby's life too.
Do folk need to chill out a bit or am I being too harsh??
I just find a team approach works better for me??

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cailindana · 11/07/2014 18:10

It actually wouldn't surprise me if the OP was a marriage guidance counsellor. Quite a few times I've heard of women being told by (usually male, but not always) counsellors that they need to have more sex or stop nagging, when in fact that male partner is an arsehole who knows what to say to make himself look like a victim. In general, women are expected to do whatever it takes to make a relationship "work," even if the man is a total shithead.

CaptChaos · 11/07/2014 18:09

O M G

You work in marriage guidance?

Please tell us that you fix their 1950's time machine and don't actually 'help' couples by telling the women to shut up and put up. Please?

AnyFucker · 11/07/2014 18:08

I was thinking she/he might clean the offices or summat

Nothing wrong with cleaning, but I would say it doesn't necessarily equip you with any insight into healthy relationships. Much like the OP is demonstrating.

ImperialBlether · 11/07/2014 18:05

Wow, just reading the OP again makes me really glad that I didn't go to you for marriage guidance!

scotchtikidoll · 11/07/2014 18:02

I take 'working in a marriage guidance setting' means that you fix the vending machine in the waiting room when it is on the blink?

superstarheartbreaker · 11/07/2014 17:58

Tbh I have no idea why people bother with relationships at all. Far too much like hard work although I spose sex is quite nice. The amount of friends who aren't 'allowed' to do things as their partners won't let them is astonishing. but then I'm an ugly old cynic who can't keep a man but when I look back wonder why I ever wanted them in the first place!

AnyFucker · 11/07/2014 17:58

You work in marriage guidance ?

TheRealAmandaClarke · 11/07/2014 17:55

Oh FGS!

JohnFarleysRuskin · 11/07/2014 17:52

Tell me you're not a counsellor?!?!

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:41

From men & women I hasten to add...

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:40

You'd be surprised Farley
I work in a marriage guidance setting so I hear all sorts.

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 11/07/2014 17:36

But pis, your position is: men are divorcing their wives because they are too uptight, no?

Do you know any cases of this?

Dh would like me to be more uptight :)

7Days · 11/07/2014 17:34

tell you what op, you raise your kids your way, ok?

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:33

Farley
We all like them in bed early but it's not the end of the world if they are not in bed by 7. I like a nice walk on a summer evening together especially if it's not a school
night..

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liz5029 · 11/07/2014 17:32

My husband has slept in a different bed for the last 3 years because I struggle with insomnia and he kicks a lot in his sleep. Doesnt mean we're about to get divorced. He even lets me have my own opinions, I wonder if he knows he's doing it all wrong

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:30
Grin
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JohnFarleysRuskin · 11/07/2014 17:28

Me and dh both like the kids in bed early. Not sure I'm getting it as a reason masses of men divorce women. Ho hum.

Irian I got the joke but I was too busy trying to think of a joke about entry (ooh er missus) to reply.

7Days · 11/07/2014 17:26

bullshit its just a snidey way of saying its all yoir own fault without specifying who exactly is being blamed.

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:21

A lot of truth in that arethere

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PisforPeter · 11/07/2014 17:20

That is totally understandable sun

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7Days · 11/07/2014 17:17

thats a bit of a non statement arethere you cant possibly know that

ICanSeeTheSun · 11/07/2014 17:17

Why why why.

Try because DS is autistic, he needs his fixed routine just like a type 1 diabetic needs insulin.

AnyFucker · 11/07/2014 17:16

Goady person

arethereanyleftatall · 11/07/2014 17:15

'The way your child is' caused by inflexible obsessive parenting; not always but sometimes.

QisforQcumber · 11/07/2014 17:13

Divorce rates would be lower if men married blow up dolls then.
Terribly wasteful when popped though, all that plastic in landfill.
On the bright side, puncture repair kit providers would see a surge in profits.

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