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To be getting irritated with a friend endlessly asking small favours?

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CruCru · 03/04/2014 19:41

I have a good friend who is a lot of fun BUT seems to need a small favour rather often. I am wondering whether I am being petty.

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LIDLrichard · 03/04/2014 21:55

What have you told her re: holiday home? No, I hope.

You don't sound petty, she sounds irritating.

Viviennemary · 03/04/2014 21:53

I wouldn't call asking to use your holiday home a small favour. I think it's massively cheeky to ask to use someone's second home. If you are offered then great but it puts people in a difficult position when they don't want to.

Polarn · 03/04/2014 21:49

I have a friend who always asks for favours. It fucks me off too as it's all the time. I avoid her now in the hope that she will be fully phased out eventually!

Mrswellyboot · 03/04/2014 21:47

Keys

Mrswellyboot · 03/04/2014 21:47

I would just tell her that you don't lend the lets on bank holidays

Everytime you help at work, stall it a little bit but obviously get your own work done first

gamerchick · 03/04/2014 21:44

I had a couple of friends who were constantly asking for favours.. it got to the point where they would pop up with a cheery HIYA and I would be sitting there wondering what they would ask for.

I ditched their arses and felt better for it.

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CruCru · 03/04/2014 21:41

Yeah, we are cool with our friends and family using it but it feels as though she is being quite pushy about it (and keeps wanting it when it is a bank holiday which is when we would use it).

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Lilaclily · 03/04/2014 21:40

oh you had a previous thread about the holiday home

ExitPursuedByABear · 03/04/2014 21:38

She wants to use your holiday home?

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CruCru · 03/04/2014 21:37

I am being petty - it just feels like every time I hear from her, she mentions something she'd like help with.

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CruCru · 03/04/2014 21:35

Don't know the answer (haven't done that role for a while and the regs have changed).

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CruCru · 03/04/2014 21:35

She has asked to borrow a place we go to at the weekends for the last week in August without mentioning that it's the bank holiday (we would be there usually so it would put us out).

We work in the same industry but different companies. She is senior to me and keeps asking me technical questions and getting irritable when I d

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Lilaclily · 03/04/2014 21:30

either she's askign for a quick lift back from Cubs or she's askign for a full shop from M&S

op????

Lilaclily · 03/04/2014 21:29

depends what favours obviously!

scarffiend · 03/04/2014 21:05

Either the favours are not very small, they are never repaid or she's not that good of a friend. Need background to understand a bit more.

mummy1973 · 03/04/2014 21:02

Depends what your definition of friend is?

MammaTJ · 03/04/2014 20:02

Depends. Would she be willing to return favours if asked?

I borrowed £3 from a friend this morning as the obnoxious twat of a neighbour of mine driver wouldn't said he couldn't change my £10 note. I paid her back when we met on the return journey.

I have bought her a meal when she has been too skint to feed herself as well as her DC though. I may have ordered a huge thing for me and then made out I couldn't eat it all

Neighbours the nice ones often knock on my door and ask for small things, but I can do the same to them too.

Could you ask her, even if you have not had the need so far?

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Rexandralpf · 03/04/2014 19:42

What favours? How close are you?