£1,730 Aibu that this is alot of money

My mare is 26 with two kids and is still working.The other gave up working two years ago when her boy was 3. I sorry i dont know how much she gets in benefits as i dont ask! I see the one with two a lot as i used to work with her. Used to work with the orher also). She was always coming in stressed cz she was struggling.

Plus i didnt say she was rolling in it but by working she isnt better off.

" My other mate is no longer working due to this"

How did she give up work and how old was she child at the time and how long ago was this?

Go on, I dare you.

Nice so because my view is different my mates are imaginery?my mate is struggling Because she is choosing to stay at work. My other mate is no longer working due to this. Iv already said i was wrong to say it about everybody but the fact is it does work out for some people to not go to work.

2 + 2 = 4 no matter what your view point is views and opinions can not change basic maths.

How can she be struggling to pay bills kali if she is so well off on benefits?

Invite 'your mates' on here yes please do. If they exist.

It's not 'our view' you are agreeing with, it's actual facts.

You're doing this to me on purpose aren't you?

Right so just because i dont agree with your view im wrong? Iv said it doesnt apply to everyone. Maybe ill tell my mates to read your thread and say that she must be wrong when shes struggling to pay her bills every month ?

It must be coming any minute farrow

Motability

DevastatedD0G - would that be a motibility cart...?

No worries sock can you tell I'm ever so slightly defensive of my mum and brother? Both been through so much just want to keep them happy and safe

Kali, no they are not.

Do your self a favour and go read the HB staff manual pay attention to the disregard section, you may learn something.

That's exactly what I was meaning hegsy,he clearly has more needs than implied in your initial post.

Its no big deal loads of people do it when talking about loved ones who have disabilities its one of the reasons many DLA claims for children get turned down and why a claim when you have had professional support to do so has a higher chance of a decent result. The cab have something like a 70% success rate for appealing disability related benefits.

The only reason why I pointed it out in the way I did was because sadly our perfectly normal understandable tendency to focus more on the person then we do on the disability gets jumped on by pricks who then use this as evidence that they hand out DLA to people with ingrown toe nails some of these pricks just hang around on threads like this posting bile looking down on everybody else and generally sounding like katie Hopkins, but lots of them go around physically and verbally attacking disabled people making massive assumptions about them and are prone to keying mobility cars.

Oh come on!

Just one more thing....go on, we're so close to it...

I bet she doesn't just have one goat but two that pull her around in a little cart made of solid gold.

Maybe not everybody but a lot are! Two people just by ne for example are single parents and are better off recieving benefits than looking for a job.
My one mate is actually struggling because she wants to stay working but is getting less dosh than if she wasn't.

If she gets carers' allowance, then her child must be in receipt of at least middle rate care DLA. That's a benefit for the child and not them. Plus they will also receive the disabled child element of CTC.

Kali - you are not better off out of work, that's a myth. I receive DLA for my son, its helps a lot! I don't work as he needs a lot of care.

If I were to go to work I would loose my income support £40 a week. That's it. I would still get the DLA so would be MUCH better off in work.

Remember DLA is not an out of work benefit!

As it happens I wish I could work, I was forced to leave a very well paid job and sell both my house and car due to my sons disabilities.

So your brother needs 24/7 care, that's hardly 'just ADHD'

DLA isn't administered differently in scotland is it?

Oswin i feel you. My job just ended. Applied for benefits a month ago and still got nothing! How does she afford all this on benefits? Im going to get £70 a week!
Not easy finding a job when youve got spinal damage and something wrong with your knees. docs answer is too now make me take 4 diff painkillers everyday, thought they would not want to give more painkillers??Im not begrudging a career a holiday or benefits for disabled child but how do they get all that and why does neither of them have to not work?its a shame that for some they get more dosh staying at home than they would working, it shouldnt be like that. Cant say i would blame someone for not working if they would make more staying at home.

Perhaps minimised? To me my brother is my brother ADHD, night terrors, OCD, no common sense or sense of danger. Never left on his own if mum not there he comes to us. Never been medicated though. She's been recieving DLA since he tranferred to special needs school which was approx primary 5 so he would have been almost 10 years ago. But I can assure you that is what is being paid for DLA seen rhe bank statement s as until recently I helped my mum with her internet banking bill paying etc.

Anyway no idea why I'm trying to justify myself to a stranger I know the facts and thats that

And the looking after kids is hard statement is ridiculous, try looking after a severely disabled child for just one day. I could handle 20 children but my son on my own, no chance!

And the why have more kids then you can cope with, has it never occurred to you that people don't choose to have a disabled child!