To be fed up of the same children winning all the awards at school?!

I don't have much experience in this as my dd is only 5 and going into year 1 next September, but she won 6 out of 7 races in her first sports day and I'm flipping proud! She was better than the other children so it could just be that the children who win the awards are just better? I really don't think children who do well have pushy parents either.

I'm with you OP. There are three girls in my daughter's year who get picked for every bloody thing. They are not particularly bright or exceptional at anything other than being a bit loud, bossy and in your face.

I for one am sick to death of giving her the 'life is hard and unfair' mantra when she works bloody hard, is well behaved and loves school.

And what award would you like your child to win?

You're talking about my DC there.

Why shouldn't the school reward hard work, effort and achievement? That's how the world works.

YANBU however it happens everywhere and is not always as black and white as it seems, as others have said maybe some are g&t or SEN.

My son gets to do activities at school that most others don't and gets funding from school to go to summer activities, this may seem unfair but he had a terrible start to school and only 3 yrs into his school life is he starting to catch up with his peers academically & socially, his extra-curricular activities do have purpose- helping him socially and also getting him to participate in hands-on stuff rather than just academics, which he struggles with the "normal" amount his peers do.

All I can suggest is put you dc in for as many activities etc as is on offer and think about joining the pta-that group seem to be first to know about things and seem to get preference ime, hope that helps.

You'd be talking about my Ds1 in that case.

He won 6 awards for sport last week, has represented the school for football, cricket, athletics, basketball, and rugby.

He wins the awards and gets selected because he is good at sport
Loves any type of sport, trains every single day, runs 3 miles before school, etc etc.

Funnily enough though, he also manages to be articulate to the point of representing his year group at the student council.

I hate threads like this.

The reason for winning an award or being selected for a team is because, I would imagine, the children are actually good at what they do.

Is that a bad thing? Are we supposed to feel guilty because someone else's DC didn't get an award?

OP I'm with you on this. I hate the fact that our primary school has a head boy and girl and about 4 other house/ sport captain type awards. It will be the same small group of over achievers (with pushy parents who rule the pta)very fucking time. Primary age is to young to realise you don't measure up.

Sorry but yabu. That's just life...maybe these kids are just better at whatever it is than your kids...not everyone can be a winner and it does a disservice to show your kids anything else.

Firstly, it might help to try to understand the school's rationale. If they are chosen for sports days and sports awards, might it not be because they happen to be good at that particular sport? If they are chosen for extra-curriculum activities, might it be because they are g & t children whose needs are not met in the ordinary course of lessons?

Secondly, even if the school's rationale is totally incomprehensible or even utterly wrong, you still have to face the question of how you help your ds to deal with it. Your first job is to parent him in such a way as to enable him to deal with any obstacles in life. If you spend too much time pondering the injustice of it all, he may pick up the vibes from you that there is not point in trying because they're just going to be unfair anyway. And that won't help his confidence.

The awards for resilience sometimes come later in life. But they are great.

At no point, in school or the wider world, are there any awards for
feeling-hard-done-by.