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to euthanise my aggressive cat?

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SorryMyLollipop · 28/06/2013 15:15

He has always been aggressive, had him since he was a kitten, so for 5 yrs. We have always treated him well, he has always been well fed and healthy etc.

I have tried to find ways to deal with his aggression but none of the "triggers" apply to him. He just randomly bites or scratches with no warning and runs off.

This week he has woken both my DC's by biting or scratching them when they are asleep in bed. They sleep with their doors open.

I don't think he could be rehomed/rehabilitated, so I think I might need to euthanise him.

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Lockupyourbiscuits · 29/10/2024 09:20

Some cats have a strong prey drive
They are not aggressive per se but get hyper- it sounds more like prey aggression
Looking for the signs and putting the cat in a different room when he looks hyper ( especially at night ) can help
He is probably just a bit bored and people under duvets are very exciting to him !

It’s not really the cats fault he is just not suited to you

Try and rehome him

patchoulirose · 29/10/2024 09:11

Please don’t put him down if he’s an otherwise healthy cat! There must be someone willing to take him

Kitkat1982 · 29/10/2024 08:38

You're a disgusting piece of shit even 11 years later

Cat98 · 28/06/2013 21:41

My cat is aggressive. I will not have her pts because of it. We all know how to manage her and she is happy, she just needs to be treated with respect and caution. When we rescued her we took her on as our responsibility. If I really couldn't keep her I'd rehome - someone would take her. You really need to try every avenue before resorting to this.

HildaOgden · 28/06/2013 19:12

I can't believe some of the posts on here.....so much concern for an aggressive cat,and yet fuck all empathy for the frightened,bitten children.

OP,do what you need to do.If an animal charity are will take the cat,let them.If not,do not let anyone try to guilt trip you about putting your childrens' welfare above that of a cat.

Latara · 28/06/2013 19:11

My cat was very aggressive (a rescue cat) she'd been rehomed once before which failed. I used to be covered in scratches but now she's the soppiest cat ever.

Definitely find a good rescue centre.

pinkr · 28/06/2013 18:51

If it was a dog and it was aggressive you wouldn't keep it...why should a cat be different?

Hmmkay · 28/06/2013 17:35

Is it possible for you to give it a home outside? We adopted 2 semi feral cats when they were 6 months old from the rspca and they are nearly 10 now. But we had a cat flap put in our garage door and they have a little cat house type thing in there with bedding and we feed them in there. So they have somewhere warm and quiet to sleep and they definitely prefer to have their own space.

But then ours arnt even that vicious really now. Just scared stiff of everything! Ours would only attack if we tried to pick them up although we have tamed them enough to be able to stroke them (if we sit still on the grass and don't stand up they won't run away!). Absolute nightmare taking them to the vets though, they really lash out when they are scared.

Or as someone suggested above, maybe try and find somewhere else that could offer the cat and more outdoor home like a farm.

cantspel · 28/06/2013 17:21

Well i think having a healthy cat pts is cruel. Ok it wont hurt and the cat wont know what is happening but it will still be dead.

If you dont want the cat then have it rehomed. Ring up your local rescue centre and ask them to take it.

Cravey · 28/06/2013 17:14

If you read the post you will see I don't think putting the cat to sleep is cruel. I think the idea of doing it without looking at other choices is.

chansondumatin · 28/06/2013 17:14

Sounds like the cat wasn't socialised properly as a tiny kitten so there may not be anything you can do - I think that if they haven't had enough contact with humans by the time they are about 8 weeks (or could even be 6 weeks), they will always be anti-social and possibly aggressive.

Rehoming sounds best option and I love the farm cat idea. It's not fair to put down a healthy animal unless there really is no other choice but I can see your dilemma. Hope it gets sorted.

FoxyHarlow123 · 28/06/2013 17:13

Agree saint. Rescue centres are full to bursting and are not an easy get out for people who won't take responsibility themselves. Either put it somewhere rural and let it have a lovely natural life or pts.

saintmerryweather · 28/06/2013 16:58

unless shes putting the cat to sleep by bludgeoning it to death, putting it to sleep is not cruel. the cat doesnt know anything about it

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RightsaidFreud · 28/06/2013 16:50

Invest in some feliway, it really does work.

SorryMyLollipop · 28/06/2013 16:50

I think he may have been removed too young. We got him as a rescue kitten from a local charity that has now closed.

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SorryMyLollipop · 28/06/2013 16:49

He bites and scratches people awake or sleeping. He doesn't do it for attention, he does it and immediately runs away.

My DCs panic if bedroom door is shut and I can't put him out at night because of the main rd and huge local fox population.

Thanks for the links.

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SummerRainIsADistantMemory · 28/06/2013 16:47

Op, I'm a cat lover but my parents had a cat like that when I was little. She was viscous, attacked everyone and nothing worked. My family moved country when she was six. She was totally unrehomeable and 6 months quarantine would have sent her even more round the twist so my parents had to have her pts.

It's a horrible thing to have to do, do look into other options first. The cat may make a suitable farm cat, being outdoors and not being handled may be exactly what he needs.

cantspel · 28/06/2013 16:40

cats bite sleeping people as they are looking for attention. Either put him out for the night or close the bedroom door. Make sure he has plenty of toys and a stratchy post for him to play with if he wakes up early.

Cravey · 28/06/2013 16:12

Bloody hell lets hope the op kids don't start biting and scratching in a few years. God only knows what will happen to them. On a serious note. Re home it. Don't pts that is cruel in this instance.

Buildershateme · 28/06/2013 16:10

Celia Hammond help rehome cats to purely outdoor homes, as mousers/ratters.

www.celiahammond.org/

My kids sleep with their doors shut so they don't have cats sleeping on their beds all night. Works perfectly well to keep batty older rescue cat out of their rooms (one of those ones that leaks wee when they sleep. sigh)

wonderingsoul · 28/06/2013 15:53

i agree, find a farm that she can go to, she'll be fed, warm and get the joy of hunting.

could she have been a litter of a feral cat? taken to young?

TooOldForGlitter · 28/06/2013 15:51

Put the cat out at night so it can't bite or scratch your kids when they are asleep? Hmm

SorryMyLollipop · 28/06/2013 15:50

We live in a city, by a main rd.

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SorryMyLollipop · 28/06/2013 15:50

Thanks for the replies.

He is neutered. The vet wasn't much help. The cat attacks awake or sleeping adults as well as awake or sleeping children so not sure he would be suitable for anyone. The idea of a business taking him on is a good one. I will look into it.

I will also look into rehoming and contact a rescue charity.

I really can't keep him as he hates medication and needs two adults to hold him when he has any. I am on my own.

My main concern is that he may scratch one of the DC's eyes (and the psychological effect on them as they are terrified of him)

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