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aibu to give into my 15 year old dd?

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inneedofsomehelpplz · 24/05/2013 09:31

i used to make dd a sandwich of her choice & supply fresh fruit but when i checked her bag, it had green sandwiches & squashed off fruit so i now buy her a ginsters pasties, a bag of crisps & chocolate which she eats. dh says i should not bither giving her any lunch if she wont eat the healthy option but i disagree - getting any food in her during the day is my goal. at home she eats fresh fruit & veg & she is a slimjim.

so who is bu?

OP posts:
CorrStagnitto · 24/05/2013 09:41

why dont you give her a party, crips and piece of fruit?

i dont see why a 15yr old needs to be packing her own lunch, at least if you do it you know what shes eating

cory · 24/05/2013 09:40

If you provide a healthy breakfast, supper and after school snack and there is nothing unhealthy in the house, her nutrional needs should be taken care of even if she does buy a certain amount of crap at lunchtime.

cory · 24/05/2013 09:39

You do seem to want to exercise a great deal of control over someone who will be an adult in 3 years time. Is there any particular reason? Does she have SN or an eating disorder? Even then, I believe it is a good idea to let teens make some mistakes of their own.

xylem8 · 24/05/2013 09:38

The supermarket I shop at is next to a comprehensive, and believe me your DDs lunch is vastly superior to what I see some of them buying for lunch!

cory · 24/05/2013 09:37

Have to agree with the other two posters. My 13yo made his own lunch this morning; normally he would take lunch money.

PeterParkerSays · 24/05/2013 09:37

Tw oquestions:

  • why are you still making sandwiches for a 15 year old?
  • why didn't she eat the food you prepared?

I'd sit down with her, explain that she will be making her own lunch, as buying Ginster's pasties is too expensive for a regular lunch, and what fillings would she like you to buy for sandwiches?

Are you sure she's eating the pasties?

Original poster
inneedofsomehelpplz · 24/05/2013 09:37

lunch is put on the table for her to pack in her school bag - giving her money is not an option as she will blow the lot on rubbish. i only buy the pasties ect.

OP posts:
TooOldForGlitter · 24/05/2013 09:36

YABU. At 15 she is more than old enough to be organising her own lunch. Do you really give her a pasty AND crisps AND chocolate though?!

Finola1step · 24/05/2013 09:35

At 15 she should be organising her own lunch. Give her a set daily budget for her to buy her own lunch. It sounds like you are babying her.

WorraLiberty · 24/05/2013 09:34

At 15 she could pack her own shit diet for lunch, surely?

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