AIBU to throttle DD???!!

Not all the same posters but each poster can see there are several pages of posts ALL 'reinforcing' the same message..then they post another 'reinforcement'.

All you are going to get from the OP it seems is that she has 'reconsidered' not an 'oh my god you are all right i am a terrible person and will seek help' - wether she is thinking that or not she clearly is not going to admit it here. IMO this thread can't go anywhere now. Enough?

They're not all the same posters saying the same thing over and over though poppy.

People want to reinforce the idea that you have to keep control over yourself when dealing with children, because the damage if you don't can be immeasurable.

They just want the OP to acknowledge that.

It's not kicking and the OP's not being beaten down.

You know when I was a child I wouldn't have dared open the eggs and eat them.

Because I already knew then my mum would have beaten the Shit out of me.

sort of reminds me of continuing to kick someone over and over who was long ago beaten down I think AIBU goes too far too often.

Because she still doesn't seem to get it That's why.

Genuine concern I understand, but there are hundreds of posts all saying pretty much the same thing and you all know that. Why carry on and on.

Genuine and legitimate concern for a small child is not bullying poppy.

And there have been more sad faces than humphy ones.

I agree with most of you but to carry on and on and on and on like this surmounts to bullying, I would say. Enough now.

OP, I think you really have problems with anger and it would be much better for your family if you sought help for that. It sounds as though you were absolutely awful to your daughter and you made a massive deal of something that should have just irritated you.

Your daughter would have been frightened of you. I appreciate you want her to respect you as the adult, but that is very different from her being frightened of you. Have you read the threads on here by women who grew up frightened of their mums? Those women are suffering into adulthood. For your child's sake seek help now.

Hopefully her dh has stepped in and explained how unreasonable she is but his influence seemed to be rather limited yesterday as she still went crazy at the little girl.

Hardly the climbdown of the century though is it? She still sounds pretty self righteous and just doesn't seem to understand why others are so shocked at her crazy over reaction towards her poor child.

Did no one read her last response? Hopefully she is now thinking she overeacted after reading all the replies. 'Don't read too much into the posting after four hours thing, I was busy this evening after 'Easter egg-gate 2013', and didn't have a chance to post until later.

Yes, hopefully, BBB.

Though I think she totally missed the point about the 4 hours. It wasn't that she POSTED about it after FOUR hours, it was that she was still really ANGRY after FOUR hours.

Did no one read her last response? Hopefully she is now thinking she overeacted after reading all the replies.

'Don't read too much into the posting after four hours thing, I was busy this evening after 'Easter egg-gate 2013', and didn't have a chance to post until later.

I won't be taking the iPad off her a week (it's not hers, it's a family one). Have cooled down slightly and reconsidered.

Still undecided what to do with what's left of her easter eggs.'

My DD had an Easter egg for breakfast today because of this thread. I never want to be anything like the OP.

Pombear and Rinderella - LOL. Yes, me too. I was clearing up this morning and about to put the remaining chocolate out of sight for a bit. Then I thought of this thread, tipped it all into a big bowl on the table and they are happilly munching their way through it whilst watching Toy Story!!!

My god. This thread is so sad

My dcs (my youngest is 5) have had their Easter Eggs today as we were travelling all day yesterday. They've had unlimited acess to them since just after breakfast.

You what they've done? Had a smallish egg each, put unfinished chocolate in a bowl and put it in the fridge for whenever. At 8 and 5. I'm quite proud of them.

I've never limited chocolate (within reason. I don't let them eat it for breakfast, lunch, dinner) as I was never limited as a child. My old flat mate made me think as she was 19, had never been allowed sweets, chocolate or TV. Her adult behaviour? A TV in every room constantly on, sweets and chocolate for every meal and snack in the day, ^every^ day.

My dentist has told me chocolate is best for treats as it melts quickly from the teeth and the sugar doesn't 'stick' like sweets or dried fruit.

I'd really like to hug your dd today OP. Poor little lamb

You need to take a look at your behaviour and perhaps but yourself to bed to think about it!

This thread makes me so sad. Op, you are completely missing the point so many reasoned posters are trying to make. You really have no clue at all what you are doing to your child.

My mum used to go batshit crazy at me for small infringements. I now live on the other side of the world from her, and she is never left alone with my children the few times she does visit. I never want them to have to deal with that kind of anger. I also remember pretty much all of the horrible things she said to me when she was angry.

My kids also inherited bad teeth. We are usually strictish about sugar but we let them eat whatever they want on Easter Sunday and brushed their teeth afterwards. We then put the eggs in the cupboard to avoid temptation. It is only be day...

That's funny Pombear - my DDs had exactly the same! And they have the OP to thank for it. [bugrin]

My DD had an Easter egg for breakfast today because of this thread. I never want to be anything like the OP.

You could have written about my dd.

I wouldn't be frothing at the mouth 4 hours later.

She hasn't stolen money for crack cocaine.

Chill out, you will face far more worrying times than this.

There's 350 messages on this thread. I think about 330 of them say OP, you are being really, really unreasonable. 15 or so are from the OP, picking up various posters on comments they have made, whilst still trying to justify why she was so angry with her 4 year old child. And the last couple of posts were from someone who thought the OP was sort of right.

What really worries me is that the OP, in the face of all this, does not appear to have taken on board what the overwhelming majority have said. Her arrogance is breathtaking.

Take a look at your own behaviour OP. That is really where all of your problems lie.

This christmas holiday I turned my fiver year old upside down, as you do. A load of quality street fell out of his pockets. He looked a tiny bit guilty. I laughed. Granny laughed. Dh laughed.
Sometimes, they aren't naughty, sneaky, nasty they are just excited children.
Just saying.

I have also lost it with my lot many times. don't worry about that now, just try a gentler approach re the reasons your child misbehaved. we have all made mistakes

You are so right, farewell. However, I think alarm bells started to ring at the thought the OP could still be so angry 4, 5, 6, 7 hours later and still trying to justify her own behaviour. Yes, most of us have lost it, but I bet 99% of us have then regretted our own behaviour and felt guilty...bet there aren't many mums allowing their LO's to cry themselves to sleep and STILL being angry. That for me is really the worrying part.