To hate hate hate having tiny boobs

I think you should try to wean yourself off the super-dooper bras. I have some but wear them just for work/going out. Some clothes are obviously just designed and cut for C or D cups, the most common sizes, so they can seem a little gape-y.

Anyway, get yourself some comfy unwired bras for around the house with very little padding. No one will see you, you'll be comfortable and most importantly you'll stop "seeing" these big norks all day and then feeling disappointed when you take your bra off and look at yourself in the nud.

your feelings are your feelings.

BUT, YABU to think it matters. I think your thinking is faulty which is how you got to your unpleasant feelings. It irritates me hugely that women invest so much of their self-esteem in their bra size. I don't want to blame anyone, but it is a wrong wrong wrong situation, however we got to it.

I'm about average & always wanted to be flat-chested. Seems brilliant to me. What's not to like? If a bloke didn't like it then sod him, I don't fancy blokes that work like that, anyway.

YANBU. I'm fairly flat chested and have never wanted them bigger, they would only sag more when I'm old

YANBU,

I'm thankful I have a healthy body but hate my boobs. I'm allowed to, and so are you, I hate it when people spout 'you should be grateful because you are healthy etc' but theres always somebody worse off no matter how bad you got it, doesn't mean no one should complain or air their negative feelings!

I went from a small B cup at 19 to a EE in pregnancy, boobs went huge, then shrunk after pregnancy.

This happened 4 times.

Now I have small boobs in the very stretchmarked skin of big boobs ... you can imagine how awful that looks :(

No, YABNU to feel the way you do. A happy medium is always best.

I've always been pretty big for my build - usually Im a 32E - and its not great (back ache, dresses never fit me) but at 35 weeks pg I'm already in my old nursing bras which are whopping 34H. Hate it :-( God knows what size bras I'll be forced to fork out for when my milk comes in. And after breadtfeeding DS for 12 months and planning to again for DB when he/she arrives, my pair will eventually look like a couple of naan breads stapled to my chest.

Yes, the OP should be grateful for a healthy body and so on, and there are people paralysed, but it doesn't stop her hating having very small boobs. Life doesn't work like that.

And all this bollocks about being able to wear pretty clothes etc, is just that - bollocks. When you are very flat chested, you cannot wear the normal pretty tops that others take for granted. They gape. The show ribs and collarbone instead of flesh.

The OP is not talking about being petite or small-breasted. She is talking about being flat chested. It's different.

I have AA and used to hate them but now I like it. I managed to exclusively breast feed both my dc so they are at least fit for purpose. Dh has never shown the slightest concern, neither have ex boyfriends. On my last office, a couple of the women in my team would come up to me in the loos and look at my boobs enviously saying they wish theirs were the same (they both were DD cup). I've come to terms with it and am more than fine with it - hope you manage to as well OP - very possible!

Agree that the boobs splashed over the media are pretty unhelpful, but try not to dwell on it.

andubelievedthat i wanna know what the rude thing is too

If i could donate you some of my boobage i would. Mine are a d/e, and i hate it. I want b/c.

Strangely enough, I always thought I would have a boob job if I come into some money.

But I tried on a very padded "booster" bra and hated my silhouette. After that I was much happier with my body shape.

andubelieved you have to reveal what the rude thing is!

I have humungous knockers which I can't stand, op so I know what it's like to hate your boobs. I think a B/C cup seems ideal.

That should say 'wrongly associated with being overweight'

I don't really think that society does value enormous boobs. They are perhaps popular with trashy magazines aimed at a certain type of young man, but boobs are non existent in the world of fashion. You'll never see a model with boobs for example. And many high street clothes just aren't cut with anything but small boobs in mind. And large boobs are often associated with being overweight.

I know how you feel- I thought mine had grown as I went up to a b cup, but then I lost some weight (needed to as was very overweight for my height at 5 foot 1 and 11!!! stone) and they are now tiny again. On the plus side, I have lost two stone :) so will happily sacrifice bigger boobs for that I guess.

Specialsubject - chill out! I think the OP can dislike her small chest if she likes without being piously reminded to be grateful for a working body!

If it's any comfort OP I lived for many years with massive boobs (34 HH) and I hated them and I paid 8 grand for a brilliant plastic surgeon to reduce them - and I love my new small breasts.

Big breasts are not all they are cracked up to be I can tell you.

Mine are an A cup, and most of the time I'm happy enough. Bizarrely, one of the times I'm not ok with them is when my DP says that he thinks they're amazing. I always say something like, "oh but they're so small/not enough of them/you like bigger ones". He says to me:-

"There are nice big ones and horrible big ones. There are nice small ones and horrible small ones. You definitely have brilliant small ones and I'd never change them".

YANBU to feel the way you do. But try and look on the positive aspects of small boobs rather than the negatives. Small boobs might not 'fill' a bikini as well as larger ones but I bet there's loads of beach sports you can do that I couldn't as a result. You also won't get that awful sweat rash underneath them. That's two positives right there!

I would love small boobs, but sometimes I just have to tell myself to be grateful for the healthy body I do have, even if certain aspects are not to my liking.

No YANBU I hate having small boobs and it's worse on me because I'm a big person and my belly is bigger than my boobs. What I hate the most though is friends regularly laughing in a 'jokey' way about the fact I have no boobs. It's not funny.

YABU about because they are normal and healthy.

However YANBU because it can be a bit of a nasty shock to new boyfriends when you eventually take the padded bra off....

well i am < zero bust size, my fella said it was major attraction to him (thou will not tell you why>cos its rude!)unfortunately.

I agree with Laurie about working a look. It feels terribly unfair when you live in a society that seems to value enormous boobs but if you're slim all over then you can get away with tiny t-shirts and like shift dresses - there is a world of lovely clothes out there for the slim, petite woman. I also think confidence is a big thing - if you think you look lovely, then other people will too. And not every man is mad about huge breasts, despite the impression one might get from the media.

Meglet I love the phrase "ballerina boobs".