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To hate hate hate having tiny boobs

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Alwaysasking · 01/02/2013 17:48

Without a highly padded bra my chest is completely flat - like a bloke. I am relatively small framed but I hate my lack of boobs sooo much. My friends always go on about how 'lucky' I am because big boobs are painful/annoying etc but in reality I would be delighted to have C or even B cups which I don't imagine to be hard to live with!

AIBU to hate having small boobs? I hate that I live in 'Abracadabra Bras', hate that I can't wear a bikini because I look ridiculous. I don't know anyone else as flat as me!

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Gauri · 02/02/2013 11:49

Wish I had some of your problem! I have large ones. Finding t shirts, dresses and tops that don't make me look matronly are a challenge. Really.

Enjoy your freedom to wear anything you like.

Alisvolatpropiis · 02/02/2013 11:45

Yanbu because that's how you feel.

But...take a look at the Hollywood actresses around,Kate Hudson,Keira Knightley,Carey Mulligan etc. They don't have large boobs. Nor did the supremely beautiful and stylish Audrey Hepburn.

I think smaller boobs look better in clothes,more elegant. And also,great in bikinis too.

I don't have big boobs per se but they look big on me because I have a narrow frame. I hate them.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 02/02/2013 11:21

Great blog. Thanks Sorrel. The links to the others were very useful as well even if some of them are in Polish Grin God bless Google translate

MrsKoala · 02/02/2013 11:10

I disagree a bit there fallen angel (although your friend sounds gorgeous). If you have small boobs and are slim/gamine/petite/athletic all over then it suits. But what if like me you are curvy (not fat) with broad hips and shoulders, fleshy thighs and arms - you look completely out of proportion. I have had people ask why I have such small boobs when the rest of me is clearly rounded so I look so odd without them. I could never wear strappy, halter, backless tops because my arms are so fleshy, no matter how many bean can reps I do!

SorrelForbes · 02/02/2013 09:18

Blog entry about lingerie for small boobs Here

fallenangle · 01/02/2013 21:50

I have a friend who is flat chested, totally flat. She wears a padded bra most of the time and looks great cos she is thin. Once at a dinner she wore a fantastic dress that plunged in a sharp v at the front down almost to her navel and was scooped at the back to her bum. She looked sensational. No tits but men's eyes were out on stalks. Lesson: it isn't how much you have, it is how you present it.

scottishmummy · 01/02/2013 21:44

is that you kiera knightley?

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 21:44

BunBaler - Why are women so big these days?

I don't think they're that much bigger. It's more to do with years and years of people wearing the wrong size e.g. 38B instead of a 30D.

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 21:42

iloveeverton TBH if you're a small framed 6-8 then you almost certainly need a smaller band. I'm a very stocky 10/12 and wear a 30 band (G cup mind you!).

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 21:41

Autumn - that does put things into persepctive somewhat Sad

iloveeverton · 01/02/2013 21:37

I am at peace with my 32a pair! Went up to a 38G when early bf and it was painful!

Mine are obv quite saggy after and dh offered to pay for a boob job cause I was v unhappy for a while but I don't care anymore. I run a lot and they don't get in the way, I'm small framed 6-8 so I would probably look odd any bigger.

Theicingontop · 01/02/2013 21:32

and i hate people looking south when they talk to me!

And they think they're being subtle. So annoying Angry

OP, I'm a 34 G, and would love a B or C cup too. I'm looking into a reduction once I'm finished with breastfeeding my second child. YANBU at all.

Bunbaker · 01/02/2013 21:24

"I'm about average & always wanted to be flat-chested. Seems brilliant to me. What's not to like?"

a) Being out of proportion
b) Clothes don't fit properly - they gape or sag emptily in the boob area.
c) Being called skinny all the time (I'm not skinny I'm slim) just because I don't have any boobs
d) Not able to wear low cut tops
e) Looking crap in a bikini
f) I look like a boy if I don't wear a bra.

I have always wanted to have another inch or two in the boob area, but haven't let it ruin my life. At 54 I'm as perky as I was 40 years ago, and I managed to successfully BF DD for 6 months.

Thanks to Sorrel's advice I am now wearing 32B instead of 34A bras. They haven't made any difference to my silhouette, but I feel good wearing a B.

Why are women so big these days? Are they overweight? Is it the growth hormones used in meat production?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 01/02/2013 21:09

autumn :( :(. Your poor friend.

BarredfromhavingStella · 01/02/2013 21:08

OP, have to disagree about the being unable to 'look slutty' with small boobs- anyone can look slutty, prefer sultry myself which can also be achieved whatever your shape Wink

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 21:03

I can't imagine running or doing any exercise with big tits

Tis a very serious undertaking involving much underwiring and yards of heavy duty lycra Grin

frillyflower · 01/02/2013 20:55

Special subject then we will have to agree to disagree. I think people can hate things or love things at any age. It's not childish or adult - it's just what it is. You have a weird attitude in my opinion.

autumnmum · 01/02/2013 20:43

OP sorry to put a downer on this thread but I have spent the day with my friend who is having chemo for breast cancer. Stand in front of the mirror, look at your boobs and rejoice that they are healthy.

LeftyLucy · 01/02/2013 20:43

I'm small boobed and very happy. Strangely so because I'm always looking for something about myself to hate! I'm 47 and they still look pretty good. They suit my style and if I wear any kind of padded bra I don't like the way clothes hang on me.

I can't imagine running or doing any exercise with big tits, it must be a bit of a nightmare.

I hope you learn to love them OP.

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 20:41

Oh absolutely Callycat. Hey, comfort is so important IMHO (although I often sacrifice it for a bit of uplift!).

Sorry OP - didn't intend to hijack Blush.

whateveritakes · 01/02/2013 20:40

Op I'm sure there must be a way to change your thinking. There is nowt wrong with being flat or bouncy.
I recently had an op on my hideously ugly feet. Funny enough they are now just as ugly (permanently misshapen) and have massive scars but I don't mind getting them out now because it's the doctors fault their are grim and not mine!
IMO it has nothing to do with how you actually look but that you feel your boobs imply something about you. Perhaps you find a group of equally flat ladies so you get used to feeling normal not unfeminine?

Callycat · 01/02/2013 20:36

Hi Sorrel! I could try, but to be honest I've found that AA is really comfortable, so I don't feed the need to change.

Your advice has clearly helped lots of other ladies, so I don't mean to dismiss it! But I have never had trouble finding bra's to fit.

I got the feeling OP was unhappy with what she saw in the mirror, rather than the number on her bra. I just wanted to try to reassure her :)

Callycat · 01/02/2013 20:33

Hi Sorrel! I could try, but to be honest I've found that AA is really comfortable, so I don't

SorrelForbes · 01/02/2013 20:27

Callycat Ah yes, it's coming back to me now Wink

Just out of pure stubbornness interest, did you try a 28A? That would be the same cup volume as a 30AA.