To be a traditional sahm ??

It is what the family pays not just one WM though.

Neither is it called for to sneer at the ordinary little people doing the day to day jobs such as nursing and teaching. And the irony is I bet the poster who made that comment is bloody grateful to use the services of nurses, doctors, teachers etc when she and her children need them. Wonder if she realises that most of those nurses, teachers etc are probably parents....

the call centre worker,retail,all contribute financially
unlike the housewife
your free school,hospital,local authority paid for by tax and ni

Another year older, perhaps if you'd bothered to read the actual thread, you'd have realized that my comments were satirising the regular sneery attitude of wohm's who frequent these threads, implying that they're all working 60+ hours a week in the City.
My use of the word 'day orphanage' was taken straight from the mouth of scottishmummy who often jokingly refers to day nurseries as such.

Everyone has the right to do what they want. It makes no one more better or worse than anyone else.

aw come on the little nasty comments being thrown out towards SAHM are not called for.

Hannah why are you getting so defensive when you have previously worked and plan to do so again

the mothers I see hanging around the school gate waiting for the others to go for a coffee love to tell me how they have chosen to stay at home rather than have a career it's always to be there for the children the others when not rushing off never tell me they have chosen their career rather than be at home just about what they do.

I am already bored of the school run and I have been doing it since September and only a few days a week

Conveniently brandy, you're looking at the life of a sahm with school age dc's who dosses about watching Matthew Wright and eating custard creams. Most sahm's I know with school age dc's do something meaningful with their time, either working from home, voluntary work, open university etc. And then of course there are the sahm's with babies, toddlers and preschool children. Who you've somehow omitted from your cherry picked sample of misspent sahm'dom.

whats the likelihood that they're actually getting £7.50 an hour working for an accident helpline or working for their local cash and carry ?

Ugh and so bloody what if they are ! I would rather do this than see my DC starve - any parent would. Mothering is not just cupcakes and bunting . Sometimes its hard bloody graft and putting meals on the table and roofs over heads

I have more respect for anyone who earns a pittance to keep their family going than anyone who makes such nasty sneering judgemental comments as this.
For the record - professionally qualified ,earn £40k plus(partime) ,children cared for by both parents ,no use of day orphanages utterly love my Dc and my career.

Personally I'd respect my dd or ds for going into a skilled and highly useful profession such as nursing or teaching and I wouldn't give a flying fuck whether anyone thinks they are 'high powered' jobs or not. I'd certainly have a lot more respect than if they choose to spend their life indulging themselves in gym and at coffee mornings

Its not the green eyed monster coming out. I get more out of working then a pay check and I have time for myself and my dc to.

I am genuinely perplexed how you could think SAHM with school aged dc don't have it easy and don't do school runs/coffee mnornings/gyms/lunchs/read books/MN all day. They get 9 till 3 all to themselves and only have to do what any other person has to do at home.

When I was out of work I had a great time, got up took dc to school, came home washed up watched the Wright stuff pottered about went shopping or out for lunch came home MNed or read till school pick up. Was very very nice if lonely as most people work every day. It was very relaxed slow and boring thats why I can't understand how being a SAHM = better mum as it doesn'tt effect my dc whether I work or not.

an lol at haikuscot for deliberately misunderstanding me.

and I told her that many women, and men too for that after, do jobs not considered high powered such as teaching, nursing.

I was responding to Bickies post stating that more women need to be CEOs, head on strategy etc... she was patronising me about the correct way in which to raise daughters.

how dare you diminish the jobs people do,their tax ni maintains housewife
one doesnt need to be telephone figure salary or CEO for job to be of note
retail,care,business and public sector all hugely contribute to economy

Yes I wonder whats wrong with 'ordinary everyday jobs like teaching, nursing, admin, accounting...'

I'm not quite grasping what is wrong with being a teacher, nurse, admin, accountant, etc.

Frankly, they sound a whole lot more useful than being CEO of Facebook.

'my children are loved, well looked after and we enjoy a close relationship'- spot on, that's exactly what it's all about. And that's got nothing to do with working or not

Bickie, I don't believe for a nanosecond that all the wohm's on this thread have high powered careers. Just as I'm sure you don't believe for a second that all the sahm's have PhDs and masters. Because we don't all run multinationals. Many of us, men and women alike, do ordinary day to day jobs like teaching, nursing, admin, accounting, gardener, hairdresser, zoo keeper. If we all aimed to be CEO of Facebook, who'd run the rest of the world? How would society function?
And please do fuck off with your crass assumptions that I'm raising my daughters to think women can't do whichever work they want.

I am also teaching them to aim for something they love and something which gives them a real sense of personal achievement. I'm not going to push them to do Maths at Uni so they can get 6 figure city job and rarely see any dc's they might have. If they want to do that, really want to, that is fine. But if they'd prefer a career with a better work life balance, that's fine too.

Totally agree with this and would apply it to fathers also:

'The salient point is that a good mother is a good mother whether or not she works, or how much.'

'I doubt any SAHM is sitting at home all day with her head in a romance novel. She possibly reads more papers/ listens to more informative radio/tv/ sees more of the world when out and about/ and mixes with a broader mix of the population than someone who commutes a dull commute journey to a full time less than interesting job. So are in a just as good a position as anyone else to advise or guide DCs.'

One or two generalisation/ assumptions there, I feel Mayisout. A bit like your other bizzare post about hard working single 20/30 somethings being the most indulgent group because they have holidays and don't have mortgages or elderly relatives.

Sorry if I posted a bit crap then using phone

I've chosen to work part time and study for a new career, although we could afford for me to sah if I wanted to. Im not envious of sahm.

Do I wish I was a stay-at-home mum when my children were under school aged. Yes

I do wish I did. Although I would of always returned to work when they were school-aged. Unfortunately I chose a Carer which I became very connected to. I develop close bonds to the families I work with so I wanted to continue to work more so for the sake of the good I was bringing to the families in my care.
Still my children are loved , well looked after and we still have a very close relationship. At the end of the day is that not all that matters?
I can see why mums what to stay at home and raise their children why wouldn't they?
Of course I can see mums wanting to carry on with their work to like I did.
I do not feel guilty for my choice but some times when I see a lovely cute little baby out and about I do feel sorry for the time I missed with mine. So I can definitely see the positives and negatives of both choices.

I don't get the assumption that people must be jealous if they don't choose a particular lifestyle. If I wanted to not work, and if I had a partner who was agreeable to fund that for me then I'd do it. But I like the balance that a work life brings me. It's that simple really

Hannah - first you need to calm the fuck down. Second - if you do have dd, please for the love of God - don't pass on to them that in your opinion most women who work must be in in low paying, menial jobs. I hate to tell you, but yes many of us are CEO's, directors, lead on strategy - mums can do that and have interesting jobs. The problem is - not enough of us are. Society needs to change so more women get to do interesting jobs AND be there for their dc and share with a partner in parenting. It is a good thing for women to be able to work - many women fought long and hard for it. Please God don't be one of the women who try and unravel it for the next generation.