To be a traditional sahm ??

Arisbottle, certainly not suggesting anyone is a failure for not making a mint. Just that girls are guided to child friendly occupations or told they must suffer the consequences. We need a broader shift in society to improve the balance for everyone.

Oh come on sunshine, you're being far too charitable!

What SAHM of 5 school age children suddenly writes her first ever mumsnet post on AIBU just to Give a self congratulatory account of her day....

This thread was always about the professional, life long sahm. Not the mum that has taken a few years off to look after pre school dc, or the mum who earned a fortune before retiring to have dc.

Many people meaning mainly women who have options vis a vis a higher - paid spouse.

Ha it is not actually the OP that is the issue though. It seems to be nasty people with their one-sided views who think they are right all the time. It is the people like that which are doing the fighting. I think the op was genuine and just new and has been scared of by people's nasty replies to her way of live and her motives of writing a thread in the first place. (Like always)

Chandella I actually don't see myself as a failure, I earn almost twice the average wage ( if that is how you judge success) and I have a job that may be demanding but is more rewarding than anything else I have done.

Ok - so it was SM I have seen other posters referring to it on other threads .

I wish more women would aim to be high fliers and not choose lower paying jobs with more flexibility. Then maybe we'd actually end up on par with men financially and society would have to make real changes around work-family balance. As long as men have cheap labour at hand to raise the kids, we're screwed.

And no, it is NOT common for sahm's to refer to day nurseries as day orphanages. Not common at all.
Got that?
Good.

anotheryearolder, read scottishmummys post re. Day orphanages. Was in joke from other similar threads. I think scottishmummy might have penned the phrase. Not me.
Satire.
Sarcasm.
Sigh.

Yes, the OP must be soooo proud of her achievement ...

No Janey, I am doing more than. 60 hours in an ordinary little job!

Clearly got something very wrong.

I have read the thread and am not sure why you feel the need to satirise regarding other threads- how is it helpful?
Most WOHM are honest about their working lives and the way in which they balance this with caring for their DC.
Its not all roses but many of us do jobs that we love and consider carefully the options regarding childcare and work.
I think we all know that "Day Orphanages" is a common phrase used by SAHM to have a go at anyone who uses a nursery.

I am on senior leadership, just! But even if I wasn't I don't think I would be a little person. I used to have a " bigger person " job , am much more important now.

day care orphanage, yes it evolved from a why have em if you leave with strangers
someone (whod never used nursery) was describing how it is.the whey faced weans
the outsourcing of children to cold institutions,much derided. apparently

The thing is even earning £7 PH is still more then the SAHM earns.
So??? Is that implying women can not stay at home? I am sure in most cases there is someone working in the household. So therefore still paying tax. Why does it matter if the SAHM is not earning. That is not for you to feel better than them. I certainly do not feel better than SAHM why should I.

But the WOHM on here arent all claiming to be doing 60 hour weeks in jet setting jobs anyway! That's just complete nonsense! Many jobs which arent generally seen as high flying can be incredibly interesting and fulfilling not to mention hugely beneficial to society.

You're not ordinary Arisbottle. But compared to strategic planners and CEOs, teaching is a fairly average salary. Unless you're in senior leadership. And for the record, teachers with their postgrad quals etc. should get MUCH more.

I do not think it was a sneer at those jobs. I think she just implied they were common which they are I am a social worker and my DP is a Primary teacher so we both fit it to that section. Public sector jobs. They are more common as they are more needed. :)

The thing is even earning £7 PH is still more then the SAHM earns.

and obviously there's nothing wrong with working in a lower paid role. We can't all earn 100k a year. I've already said this. But I find the idea of all these highly paid women on this thread, often working a few hours a week for 50k, (have heard this on other similar threads) a tad unbelievable. Many women, and men, are earning national average salary and often with postgrad quals and excellent experience. And yes, I'll say it again, there is nothing wrong with that

I teach and have never seen myself an a little ordinary person. Nice to know my place though.