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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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StuntGirl · 02/01/2013 22:35

Yes OP what aspect of being a SAHM do you want to discuss? There are lots of ladies in the same position, I'm sure they'd be happy to talk.

Pascha · 02/01/2013 22:35

I am a M. Whether I WOH or SAH is irrelevant.

lovelyladuree · 02/01/2013 22:34

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kilmuir · 02/01/2013 22:34

saying " i don't think anyone else gives a fuck tbh' is rude

AmandaPayne · 02/01/2013 22:33

What do you mean SAHM's don't post a lot? They do, all the time. I am currently a SAHM (name change a lot though). Various other people I remember mentioning it when relevant.

Do you have something you actually want to discuss?

DeafLeopard · 02/01/2013 22:33

"I was just reading through some threads and saw a lot of advice for Working mums so was reaching out to other SAHMs to talk about it"

So what aspect do you want to talk about?

I've spent 8 years as a SAHM - my career chances are fucked now, I've been out of my profession too long so things have moved on and by the time my youngest has left f/t education I will be too old to retrain.

kilmuir · 02/01/2013 22:32

Blimey, nasty people. why the attack on the OP?
Nothing she said was aimed at anyone, or slagging those off who chose a different life to hers.
bitchynet strikes again

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 22:31

Oh and I look after my children the same as WOHMs do, except I wouldn't do everything for them as that wouldn't turn them into particularly useful adults.

Each to their own though.

sweetkitty · 02/01/2013 22:31

Good for you if your both happy about it.

I'm a SAHM too, I do not do everything for my DC though, I'm their mum not their servant. I'm glad I had a career preDC though, I enjoyed living somewhere completely different and doing different things.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 02/01/2013 22:30

I don't see why you would say that, the responses haven't been rude at all. Pretty much everyone is saying,

a) that you can do what you like
b) that they don't care
c) that it is possible you are trying to provoke people

A few including me are saying that
d) saying that your children might benefit from chores.

Boringly polite IMO.

FabulousFreaks · 02/01/2013 22:30

This subject has become an obsession on MN

Cerealqueen · 02/01/2013 22:30

Fine for you maybe but by doing everything for your children you are hardly enabling them to fend for themselves, as some stage they will have to cut the apron strings and learn about life themselves. Just saying.

StuntGirl · 02/01/2013 22:29

Are you new here? SAHM's post ALL the time. You just wouldn't know because they don't announce it unless its relevant to the post.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 22:29

OP lots of us are SAHMs, we just don't feel the need to post about it I suppose unless a certain subject arises.

What makes you think SAHMs don't post a lot?

AmandaPayne · 02/01/2013 22:29

Not being rude, but if you want to talk about being a SAHM, why not start a thread about some aspect of being a SAHM. The threads for working mums are normally about some specific aspect of their lives.

FreudianLisp · 02/01/2013 22:28

SanityClause, Grin

StuntGirl · 02/01/2013 22:28

"I don't think anyone else gives a fuck tbh.".

^^This.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:28

Although I can now see why SAHM's do not post a lot Shock

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kilmuir · 02/01/2013 22:26

I am a sahm, but rubbish at housework and no way do I do everything for my children!

TheSecondComing · 02/01/2013 22:26

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:26

No I was not aiming for a "bun fight" I was just reading through some threads and saw a lot of advice for Working mums so was reaching out to other SAHMs to talk about it that was all nothing else meant by it.

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SanityClause · 02/01/2013 22:24

Ooh, Freudian I love the way the style of your post goes with your name.

LarkinSky · 02/01/2013 22:23

Great! Good for you.
But dont forget to teach your sons all the domestic tasks they need to know as its highly unlikely they'll find a woman (or man) to love who will do it all for them, like their mother...

PilotRochester · 02/01/2013 22:22

And?

BoysAreLikeDogs · 02/01/2013 22:22

If I was feeling REALLY rude I'd post 4

ahem

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