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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:40

No. Genuinely. Happy for anyone who is making life work for them. It's all any of us are aiming for.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:38

catgirl1976geesealaying

Thank you I know you were probably trying to be funny but thanks :)

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:36

3smellysocks
That is great are you a sahm ??

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:36

I'm only pedanty when I'm drunk. Good for you op. Marvellous. May your retirement be sunny with n'err a bridge to cloud your horizons.

Old northern saying that.

OpenToPersuasion · 02/01/2013 23:35

Make youself too indisoensible and you'll never be able to move from the Apron String Zone.

Please have a ponder.

Smile
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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:35

O and of course get to pamper my my future grandchildren :)

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3smellysocks · 02/01/2013 23:34

My own kids are totally different, they enjoy helping cook, they clean their rooms with music blaring out, they carry shopping in knowing that it really makes a difference to me when I'm exhausted, they make breakfast for eachother while playing horses, they get thier own clothes out the night before so they have more time to play in the morning, they help load the dishwasheer after I spent ages cooking. We are a team

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:33

DH and I.

JugglingMeYorkiesAndNutRoast · 02/01/2013 23:33

If you've found ways to juggle things to everyone's satisfaction and happiness, including your own, then good for you !

Do agree slightly though that it might be best as your children get older to think more in terms of raising them to be good and capable adults (like you !) than in terms of looking after everyone. Just a thought Xmas Smile

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:33

DH and I should I say sorry :)

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:33

HiggsBoson
Thank you I know I am lucky. I understand some mums do not want to SAH and some do yet are not able to.

When all my children have grown I intend to relax still looking after our home and caring for my DH. Then one day DH and me shall move to a sunny climate and enjoy our golden years Grin.
Although plans may never work out. :(

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whiteandyelloworchid · 02/01/2013 23:30

i've come to the conclusion, whatever you do in life, some fucker wants a pop at you
so you might aswell just do exactley what you want and what makes you happy

i love being a sahm

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:27

catgirl1976geesealaying

Sorry ? Confused

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MatureUniStudent · 02/01/2013 23:27

Well we have worked out that there is more than one variety of SAHM. So I guess we have got a learning objective out of this. And a warm happy fuzzy glow...

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/01/2013 23:26

Grin catgirl

HiggsBoson · 02/01/2013 23:26

OP you are very, VERY lucky to have the choice - I hope you know that.

Personally I can't imagine never having worked and never intending to work. What will you do when all your children have left home? What will you do that is YOU?

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:26

Why are we feeding this one?

Have we promised MNHQ that we'll walk it every single day, honestly we will and brush it's shiney coat and please can we keep it, pleeeeeease?

Or something.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:26

Sianilaa That's great I am interested in how other families run. It is nice to hear about. :)

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3smellysocks · 02/01/2013 23:24

It's great you are a SAHM.

I just wanted to add that my own mother did everything for her four boys and they are all thoroughly useless as grown men in their 30's. They don't know how to cook at all and don't clean. All are married with kids and all of their wives utterly despair with their poor level of domesticity! My mum did them all a huge disservice by waiting on them hand and foot.

Sianilaa · 02/01/2013 23:24

If you're genuinely happy and it works for you, then great and it's nobody else's business really. I'm a SAHM but running a small business from home a couple of days a week. I would hate to run around and do everything for everyone 24/7. I love that my husband is in charge of all the dirty laundry and my kids argue over who gets to use the Hoover :)

I also quite envy WOHMs ;)

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:24

People lose jobs all the time it is just the same things really. An income can go in a flash but it is not worth fretting every hour of the day about.

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Viviennemary · 02/01/2013 23:23

Well if you're happy what's the problem.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/01/2013 23:22

That's quite a relaxed attitude you have their. I could use a bit of that myself. Unfortunately the real world scares me too much to take a back seat.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:22

FFS 'Long!!' Blush

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:22

Well anyway it's nice that you're happy OP

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