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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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peaceandlovebunny · 03/01/2013 00:02

amazing, op. you win. my daughter's grown up, my husband's flown the nest (well, i kicked him out as soon as the opportunity arose) and i have to go to work. your lifestyle definitely has the edge...do you have a nice big house and a 4x4?

judefawley · 03/01/2013 00:00

I don't understand the point of threads like this, especially when posted in AIBU.

Seems like the intention is to be inflammatory.

Great if you're happy to be a SAHM and have never had a career. But, really, you haven't made any useful observations on your lifestyle choice that might provoke a considered debate, so why bother sharing?

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:58

Yes. I assumed you meant "ever" too and was trying to have a little fun with your text speak. I apologise.

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:57

Don't worry about it OP

Anyone happy with their choice won't be offended

Anyone unhappy with their circumstance will understand that no everyone's life is the same.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/01/2013 23:56

Don't worry about it, it takes a lot more than that to upset this nest of vipers Grin

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:55

I am actually feeling bad now. I did not want to offend anyone. :(

Do you have to ask to get threads deleted or do they go of in time? I do not want any other working mums to be offended.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:52

HiggsBoson

Not at all. I am sorry if that is how you saw it. I totally respect working mums. I was just talking about myself and looking for other family ways. no disrespect meant to anyone.

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StuntGirl · 02/01/2013 23:52

Catgirl Grin

WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:51

Oh I'm sorry to hear that OP

I assumed 'Eva' for text speak for 'Ever', otherwise I thought it would be ProudMumofEva if that makes sense?

MatureUniStudent · 02/01/2013 23:51

Darn - shows how little I know - I thought it was a play on words - as in "ever".

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/01/2013 23:51

Even if I had money I couldn't stay home all day, I'd have to volunteer or something. Shopping and lunching would become monotonous eventually. It would be like the Real Housewives of NY/Orange County/Beverley Hills. Ooh I love bitching at those programes Grin

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:50

catgirl

Eva was my first DD yes however she was very poorly at birth and sadly we lost her at 3 weeks old.
I always use her name on email names and stuff just habit I guess.

:)

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WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:49

It's not strange at all OP

It's a very poignant way of pointing out that no-one in this life is indispensable.

When you die, life goes on...that's why passing on life skills and teaching people to be independent is so important.

I remember being a kid and my Aunts going into hospital. Their Husbands were so totally useless that various women in the family had to rally round to feed them and their children.

HiggsBoson · 02/01/2013 23:47

I'm not sure what your point is though OP. Is it to make people who have to work feel bad? There seems to be an element of smuggery there, for sure.

Whilst I could never be a kept woman I do envy those who don't have to worry about bringing money into the household Envy

dearcathyandclare · 02/01/2013 23:46

Feed your own brain and life even if you are SAHM. Learn the language of your future sunny clime and teach your children by example that you are more than the sum of your
parts.

MatureUniStudent · 02/01/2013 23:46

so need a like button

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:45

DevaDiva aw nooo why?? I hope I have not said anything to upset you :(

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catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:45

Who is Eva BTW? Is she your dd?

A lovely name

OpenToPersuasion · 02/01/2013 23:45

Honestly, ProudMum, whatever makes you happy, but I do believe that "needed" is not too neat the top of many people's Best Feeling Ever List.

Enjoy what you do, and remember that you've only got to justify your lifestyle to yourslef.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:44

lol that's very strange unfortunately the graveyards are full of all kinds of people. :)

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DevaDiva · 02/01/2013 23:43

Got about half way through this thread and all I can say without being rude is grrrrrrr that's how it makes me feel

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:43

Ah you see I know I am always wanted. Yet I will be very sad the day I am no longer needed. :(

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WorraLiberty · 02/01/2013 23:42

The graveyards are bursting with indispensable people

As my old Grandad would say.

catgirl1976geesealaying · 02/01/2013 23:42

But I would disagree with your last point.

I'd much rather be wanted than needed.

Still. Whatever works for you op. Whatever works.

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 23:40

Yes I am already very indispensable and very proud to be. :) Best feeling in the world feeling needed.

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