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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:00

amillionyears

Under what name ?

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anotheryearolder · 04/01/2013 21:00

Routine ! routine
Its not a routine its our carefully considered way of life faints at the shock Wink
happyfrogger you are not alone

rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 20:59

So Proudmum4eva - you see yourself only as a mother and a wife only an add on to your husband and children? Do you have self-esteem issues?

What will you do when you are no longer a mother - when your children are grown? And when half of your identity is gone?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:59

happyfrogger

:( Sorry if you think it was pointless.

I am sure there may be other threads you may find interesting. Grin

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amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:59

happyfrogger, well done.

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:58

yep, first time poster under this name.

Bye bye op

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:57

rechargemybatteries
Yes I do define myself as a mother and wife. It is just the way I personally like it. I know others like to do things a different way and that's great to .

bickie

Thank you posting it was nice talking to you all the best to you as well :)

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amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:56

I was late to see that.

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:55

Nope, everything is roses in Prouds garden.

happyfrogger · 04/01/2013 20:54

Am I the only one who thinks this has TROLL written all over it? Hilarious and pointless thread!

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:54

anotheryearolder

Thank you for your routine. I do not mean to come across as anything.

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 20:53

I spy a future interfering mother-in-law. Sorry proudmum4eva but I do.

I wish you well and I hope it works out for you but you are being very very short-sighted.

You only seem to be interested in this thread and the SAHM debate. Do you just define yourself by your children and husband? What about you? Aren't you a person in your own right? What do you do for yourself?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:52

amillionyears

No I do not see that at all. Sorry :)

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bickie · 04/01/2013 20:52

Now that would make it different if you were having bobby's on the beat to pass the time! Lol I need to go again - but just wanted to wish you the best OP. I think you probably are genuine and very sweet. Hope it all works out.

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:52

InNeedOfBrandy, she is envisaging a nice retirement.
She is in danger of still being surrounded by her offspring, well into older age.

anotheryearolder · 04/01/2013 20:51

Heres a lovely family story for you OP - my DH and I have always shared the childcare and chores and work.
My Dc have never been in after school club and we are always at home ( one or the other) to supervise homework etc.
I personally feel that this is far more superior to your old fashioned traditional way as my children have the benefit of both their parents being at home ( at various times) and sharing their care .
This is true but tongue in cheek
Do you realise OP with your Smile and LOL this is how you come across to others ... annoying isnt it .

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:51

rechargemybatteries

Yes I know I probably posted in the wrong place I did say sorry for it (twice) :) Was not deliberate I assure you.

I know things can change as quick as anything but I do not want to change my life on the possibility that something bad will happen. :) But I can understand your point.

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InNeedOfBrandy · 04/01/2013 20:50

amillion the OP did say she makes herself needed on purpose as she would prefer to be needed then wanted (or something like that) and then be needed for her grandchildren.

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:48

Why would they want to leave home?
You could still be mothering them when you are 60.

If they do leave home, I can envisage potential huge rows about the house not being perfect, wife/partner wants to work and they dont want her to. etc
etc

kim147 · 04/01/2013 20:48

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:48

pixwix

Aww sorry you had a bad time with your ex, Glad you are doing ok now though :)

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 20:46

Aris - that's my point though. I never thought it.

Proudmum - I can only say (again) I've been where you are. How are you going to get a job when you don't have any qualifications or experience? There's a recession out there and jobs are not easy to get (voice of experience). Also if you have 5 kids your ability to work and your life will be incredibly difficult. (again voice of experience) I just don't know why you posted? You posted AIBU and I really don't see the AIBU?

amillionyears · 04/01/2013 20:46

Thinking about it, why would they even bother or want to leave home permanently?

InNeedOfBrandy · 04/01/2013 20:45

What are your interests btw OP? Do you have bobbys and such outside the home and away from your family?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 20:45

amillionyears

What will cause future problems ?

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