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To be a traditional sahm ??

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ProudMum4Eva · 02/01/2013 22:16

I personal have never been flamed for my choice in life, however I see many people who continuously get some sort of insult for their life choices. So here I thought I would share all for the first time.
I am 34 years old I got married at 18 straight from college. I am happily married with five wonderful children who I adore and do everything for. I have NEVER worked (outside the family home) my DH has always worked. He works traditional hours leaves about 8:10 mon-fri and is home for around 5:30. I do everything in the home cleaning, cooking, bathing the younger children, ironing and so on. I dote on my children and my husband. I love it they do not need to help me in the house I look after them and that is what I am good at.

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scottishmummy · 04/01/2013 21:33

sons!would you support a son stay at home,wife work
or do you think it's women housewives,man work?

rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:29

Sons?

Do you believe proudmum4eva that only a woman should be a SAHP or would you be happy if one of your sons wanted to stay at home?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:29

I am doing all the achievement I need :)

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:27

sobs?

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scottishmummy · 04/01/2013 21:25

get something for yourself Eva,achievement for you not extension of housewifery
would you support if one of the sobs wanted to be househusband and wife work?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:25

kim147

Yes I admire working dads of course. I admire my Husband and he has been more than happy to work full time for our family. There has certainly been no pressure on anyone in our house.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:19

rechargemybatteries

Wow lol . That is a lot of things.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:18

scottishmummy

Its great you get a lot from your job. I have always admired any working mum. It is great when you see how they manage so well with balance of work life and children :)

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:15

I'm a mother, a partner, a shop worker, a student, a future graduate (I hope got to pass this course first) a good driver a crap sewer, daughter to my parents, sister to my brothers, auntie to my nieces and nephew, exW to my exH, a rubbish gym member but a good swimmer a great cook ... loads of stuff. But being a partner and mother is only part of what I am. I used to only be a wife and mother and I am a far more rounded and omg what a lot of life there is out there that I never ever even saw it's hard to explain. I am 10 million times the person now that I was when I was only a wife and mother.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:14

kim147

Yes I agree , I am lucky now as my children are all in school and I do get more time for "me". I found it very weird at first. Now though I go to my gym classes and so on.
I can understand the picture of a boring women at home cleaning all day but that is just not all I do. When my children were young I was more like a child minder lol as I have 5 children so my day was full full full of messy activities and play time.

However yes I do map out my life round my children and husband and I am not ashamed of that at all.

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scottishmummy · 04/01/2013 21:11

traditional housewife is post war construct,the tradition is women and children worked
I'd certainly never chose to be housewife being mum isn't all defining to me
I get approbation from working and being mum

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:10

rechargemybatteries

What do you define yourself as if you do not mind me asking?

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:10

But Arisbottle would you say you define yourself as a mother and a wife? And only as a mother and a wife?

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:09

rechargemybatteries
I do not do anything different than any other women out there outside the family. apart from the fact I do not work.
What my children decide to do as adults will be their choice of course.

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Arisbottle · 04/01/2013 21:07

If circumstances were different I would love to be a SAHM, I do not have self esteem issues. I would still be the same person that I am now, just less busy and stressed.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:05

Again people seem to think I have done something wrong again. I am sorry if I have offended anyone I really am not meaning to. I was only answering the questions asked.

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rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:04

What if your daughters and sons in law do not want you to keep your grandchildren? What if they don't want or need you?

You, quite frankly, sound ridiculous in that last post. What accomplishments do you have? What do you do outside of your family?

kim147 · 04/01/2013 21:04

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scottishmummy · 04/01/2013 21:03

oh pack it in with the troll hunting.no harm done,no cash extorted
people participate willingly, it's not relevant if it's dubious post or not
anyway it's a mn perennial the housewifes vs the workers

rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:03

Arisbottle - I didn't say she did, I just asked if she had, because in my experience women who define themselves as only wife and mother and not as a person in their own right (and I include my previous smug self in this) has self esteem issues and if (when) their world doesn't run how they expect it to the shock is devastating.

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ProudMum4Eva · 04/01/2013 21:03

rechargemybatteries

No I do not have self-esteem issues. When my children are all grown I will have wonderful accomplishments and hopefully lovely grandchildren not long after Grin
Just like every other mother out there.

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Arisbottle · 04/01/2013 21:01

Why does she have self esteem issues?

rechargemybatteries · 04/01/2013 21:00

Have I been had?

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