Husband said hello to the man who kicked our dog....

I wouldn't be thrilled if anyone kicked my dog either. But I think I'd feel embarrassed at my lack of control over him and really can't imagine getting into the realms of "decking" someone, let alone get so horrendously angry.

The whole tone of your post concerns me, OP and I honestly think you need help to get your violent feelings under some sort of control and perhaps get life into a little more perspective. Your husband merely wishing someone "Good Day" does not equate to sticking knives in your back.

... I've kicked someones dog before. They had absolutely no control over it and it attacked my dog (he was a puppy at the time) - A proper attack not just a lot of vocalising - Massive gash on my boys neck The owners weren't impressed even less so when I gave them my vets bill but if you let your dog approach others with no thought to how they feel about it then whether you like it or not they can find a way to get your dog away from them.

Recall is very important if you let your dog off the lead...

I walk my dogs in the country park off lead but I call them to heel any time we see other people or animals. If there is a dog on lead then mine go on leads until it is gone. Same with people with children, dogs are made to sit quietly. They are allowed to greet politely if the other person agrees to it.

OP, from what you have told us YABU and are also giving us all a bad name as dog owners. Thanks a bunch. Please try to get over the incident and move on.

I second that, Bonny. Bit scared of OP myself, actually...

Fwiw, a few weeks ago during summer hols, a few friends and I with multiple dc, were enjoying a picnic on a huge field that is accessible directly from a gate in my friend's garden. A huge dog, maybe a labradoodle type, came bounding over, it's owner laughing and calling 'it's Ok, he's lovely and friendly, just wants to play' It helped itself to some picnic, stood on a baby, then proceeded to run into my friend's house, up the stairs, onto the bed - it was absolute bedlam.

The owner, who still thought it was hilarious, realised my friend was screaming at the dog to get out, and started calling dog's name, over and over. Ignored. It eventually left, leaving mud and slobber all over the place. Nice.

He thinks my friend is some sort of dog hating moron and tuts and shakes his head everytime we see him in the neighbourhood. Keep the fucking dog on a lead around people/other dogs, and grow up - avoiding confrontation is normally the best way.

YABU - when my dog was a pup he was off the lead and ran up to a Doberman on a lead - the doberman bit him quite badly right on the muzzle. I felt awful as it was all my fault because my dog was the one who wasn't under control.
As my dog got older he was never very good with other dogs on a walk (and untrustworthy with people too) so he was ALWAYS on a lead. I would get very annoyed with other people allowing their dogs to run up to mine while I'm struugling to keep them away (for their own safety mind).

However YANBU for being annoyed at your DH for saying hello to him - although I can see why he did. As this is someone you bump into on a regular basis he was probably trying to keep the peace.

OP you sound rough as fuck

get a lead

Did he actually kick your dog or just shoo it away with his foot...there is a difference!!

You sound totally deranged anyway..shouting and swearing, how charming!! Bereavement is no excuse to act like a yob...I lost my mum to cancer but I didnt go round threatening and swearing at folk!

Oh dear. If your dog is anything like you, then I am not surprised the man kicked your dog away. You sound totally deranged.

I would never kick a dog and I would be extremely angry if some kicked a dog.

I was very badly bitten by a dog when I was young. I have been terrified of having any dog other than the tiniest variety anywhere near me ever since.

I don't want to be cruel to dogs, or any animals, so I don't want to kick them. Therefore I don't go to places where dogs are likely to be off the lead, and if I see someone in the distance, say, throwing a ball for their dog, I will give them the widest birth I can find. Similarly, if I visit anyone who has a dog, I let them know beforehand that I won't go in their house unless their dog is secured at the very least, and preferably kept in another room while I'm there. Some people don't want to do that, which is fine - I socialize with them somewhere other than their house.

If some idiot let their dog, especially a big one, run up to me to "say hello", I would not only kick it but probably hit it as hard as I could with whatever I could lay my hands on. And no matter how "extremely angry" the owner was, I would be far more angry with them for not keeping their animal under control.

YABU
for not having your large dog under control
for then getting verbally aggressive
for expecting your husband to join in your vendetta

grow up and put it behind you.

Your husband says you're mental and in need of help? I'd agree, get over it.

I'm in my 40's but 5"10 and size 16 and Ive also done kick boxing for several years, I was that close to decking him but went ballistic, called him everything under the sun and more , he's a miserable old git anyway( say early 60's

And we wonder why the youth of today are a troubled and angry bunch. .

You sound like a yob.

OP is me on a good day :)

Oh dear a deranged OP - I hope the poor hubby sleeps with one eye open

I think this poster may need some help.

op,I think you need to try and calm down.
You sound like you need some help in some way.
When you are feeling calmer,you may want to access some help.

You're a size 16?

I had my dog on a lead the other day & a terrier came up & bit him.

Wish I´d kicked the fucking thing before it had had the chance.

And the twatty owner.

My springer bit a very large dog that jumped out of the bush at him, and the owner went ballistic. He got such a shock and he has severe fear aggression since being attacked as a puppy.

Perhaps his dog had been previously attacked by someone else's off lead dog? Perhaps he had himself been bitten by someone's off lead dog?
If you can't stop your dog from approaching other dogs when it's off lead, it shouldn't be off lead. No, he shouldn't have kicked your dog, he shouldn't have felt the need to kick your dog, because you shouldn't have allowed your dog to approach without him saying it was ok.

Don't get me wrong, I judge each situation and ask the approaching owner if their dog is ok.

It's just the expectation of 'my dog is aggressive therefore you should keep your dog on a lead' that bothers me. No, if your dog has issues then you need to remove him/her from the situation.

Sole that's so sad. I don't let my dog run near any children or adults for that matter. I respect that not everyone wants a nutty springer near them. My local park has a children's only play area that's fenced off, is there nothing like that near you?

I would never kick a dog and I would be extremely angry if some kicked a dog.

Angry yes, but I would not go all go all bat shit sweary crazy and start posting about being close to "decking" a pensioner, how hard I am, being pleased my DH want to "throttle" someone , and then want to throttle my DH whilst making ott dramatic statemens about twisting the knife and duels.

Have you considered pilates?