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to grass this colleague up?...sorry, long!

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Whatafuzzfoot · 02/04/2012 14:46

ok, so I started a new job 8 weeks ago today and another new guy started about 2 days after me.
Working hours for both of us were stated as 9-5.30.
It is a very small office (9 of us including me and said guy, but only 5 of us work together in the upstairs office)
It's a very relaxed laid back working environment. 2 bosses that share the business equally. I report into one of the bosses, he reports into the other (2 separate areas of the business)
Both bosses are mostly out of the office at meetings or working from home so we are mainly left to get on by ourselves.
There should be no issues with this as we both have plenty of work to get on with, know what we are doing etc and we could call our bosses if we needed anything.
The first few days was fine, but 2 weeks in he started taking the piss a bit.
He doesnt drive so his wife has to drop him off and pick him up, but they live 5 mins drive from the office.
Every day he slopes in at 9.10-9.20 and calls his wife to pick him up anytime between 5-5.30
He also doesnt have a mobile phone so uses the office phone several times a day to call his wife/family/book weekend activities etc (His wife also calls the office to speak to him at least twice a day)
He smokes quite alot and goes out for a cigarette break several times a day, roughly one fag break every 1.5 hours (not sure if that's normal as I have never smoked so dont know what is considered acceptable!)
He sits next to me so i can see exactly what he's doing on his screen all the time - and 9 times out of 10 he is on facebook, looking through pictures or writing private messages to people.
using FB in office hours is not exactly frowned upon though, as we do a lot of business through it, and my role genuinely requires me to be on it a fair bit. (As well as MN Grin )
However, he works for a different part of the business, (our sister company I suppose you would call it) and there is no reason to be on FB at all for his role.

The other person in our upstairs office has noticed this too, but she already had a bust up about him stealing her sales (they are both commission based) so I think she is reluctant to say anything for fear of making things any more awkward

When his boss is in, he does his job (basically calling companies from our database and trying to sell things over the phone) but because his computer is turned the other way, I can see he is still on FB as he knows his boss can't see

So, what I'm asking really is AIBU to 'grass' this guy in?
I know it's not really my place and its not that I'm pissed off that I am genuinely working and arriving and leaving on time, its more that I'm angry that he is taking the piss out of this small family run business that the 2 bosses have worked hard to build from scratch.

So, should I say something? I don't want to come across a snitch or make my boss think I'm a twat but he's winding me up big style with his piss taking
TIA

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QOD · 02/04/2012 15:53

I hate skivvers

scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:53

surely all this watching of your colleague takes away from your own work time. just let it go. yeah its annoying but have some faith in your bosses that it will come to light. concentrate on yourself not your colleague.

and on a different spin i know in my work place that there are young people who can fly through work that takes me all day and can multi task no end and still have time for a browse, so maybe depsite his few mins here and there and FB time his boss is delighted with his results!!

Greythorne · 02/04/2012 15:51

In the way you are suggesting.......just by spying on his pc screen, listening in to when he asks his wife to come and collect him, lots of small, petty details that really do not put you on a good light.

Conversely, if you said, wevare working ona project together and he consistently misses agreed deadlines which impacts my work, that would be very different!

scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:49

well if your the perfect employee and you know he is taking the mick go for it. grass him up. hopefully he will lose his job (assuming thats what you want) and you will be employee of the month!

as someone said unless it is affecting your work directly why bother?

Greythorne · 02/04/2012 15:49

I meant as a manager, if someone I was managing came to me and grassed up someone else on my team, I would be appalled, based on, it is none of their business! Leave me to manage my team, based on results, expecations, targets.

If this guy is truly as much of a slacker as you suggest, why on earth do you think time will not out him?

Whatafuzzfoot · 02/04/2012 15:47

Scuzy - read the comment properly -
Greythorne: Not sure what you mean by 'I would be appalled if someone on my team grassed one ofntheir colleagues up in the way you are suggesting.

I have asked in the title AIBU to grass this colleague up?
I have asked should I make this situation known to the boss.
Greythorne has said she would be appalled if I did so in the way I am suggesting.
What way have i suggested I am planning to do this?

I have asked if i should, not detailed how I am sneakily planning to go about it, which is what Greythorne has implied.

Also, FWIW - I have never made a personal call or been 5 mins late from lunch as I eat lunch at my desk in front of my computer.
I cant say I've never been on MN or FB during working hours, because as I said, my job does genuinely involve using both of them for research.
And ebbandflows comment is not reasonable, IMO - its very presumptuous of me being a complete hypocrite!

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WeShouldOpenABar · 02/04/2012 15:44

I had a similar situation where the person in question ended up being fired , I ignored it as long as it didnt affect my work, when it did I would be clear work was late because I was waiting for so and so and i could see no reason for the delay, when said enough times the point was obvious.

Why not ask if flexi time is an option , maybe it is and he is availing of it in which case you can stop clock watching and maybe take advantage of it yourself, if not they might want to know why you thought it was a possibility?

ShatnersBassoon · 02/04/2012 15:43

Let it lie. It doesn't matter to you.

Even if he is eventually found out, nobody will look to you and wonder why you didn't speak up - his job is not related to yours and they'd know there's no reason at all for you to be monitoring his timekeeping, fag breaks or phone and internet use.

scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:41

ebbandflow's comment is a reasonable one. you better make sure you are "perfect" before grassing someone up as you so put it.

scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:40

"i havent said i am planning on grassing him up"

erm ... OP .... look at your title!

Whatafuzzfoot · 02/04/2012 15:37

Thanks everyone for some good feedback.
I am a little unsure about this kind of situation as I have been here before in a way - in the previous company I worked for my direct boss was really not pulling their weight, doing things against company policy, generally taking the piss etc. and I said nothing as I felt very awkward, with it being my boss. I got a huge flaming from a more senior manager for not speaking up about it (it eventually came out via another colleague who couldnt put up with it anymore and walked out of the job.)
Greythorne Not sure what you mean by 'I would be appalled if someone on my team grassed one ofntheir colleagues up in the way you are suggesting.' - in what way? i havent said I am planning to grass him up in any way?
MrsMuddyPuddles that THINK is useful - I will bear that in mind, thanks!
ebbandflow Thanks for your smug, judgemental comment. No actually I haven't - I'm sat on my mobile at home on a day off, is that OK with you?
KenDoddsDadsDog I'm not sure, if I did it would have to be in a light hearted way like 'god your on FB alot aren't you' type joke?

I don't think I'm going to say anything. Like you have all said, it will show through his work/sales. Although him arriving early/leaving late wont really show through that.

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scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:35

plus if you snitch on him you BETTER make sure you are the model employee who never makes a personal call, go online and use MN Wink during work hours or be five mins late back after your lunch.

OTheHugeManatee · 02/04/2012 15:34

I'd stfu and leave your boss to work it out for him/herself. It's annoying when colleagues are dossing about but it's not on to grass them up.

scuzy · 02/04/2012 15:32

Grin ebbandflow wondered the same myself.

dont say anything. keep your head down. do your own work. he will eventually hang himself.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 02/04/2012 15:15

Is there any way that you can discuss this with him?

HalfPastWine · 02/04/2012 15:15

Op, I can understand how you feel. You work hard and he takes the piss, doesn't seem fair does it? However, if you've noticed his slack behaviour I can guarantee others have too or will do very soon. And, how do you know they haven't already tipped off the management and he is already being monitored.

I think the best thing to do would be to concentrate on your work and let this slacker dig his own grave. He'll be found out soon enough.

Panamama · 02/04/2012 15:11

I think you need to be more detached from the situation. I can understand being annoyed at him and thinking it's a shame for the business, but leave it. Look out for yourself when it comes to work, do your own thing, protect your job security. Let your productivity speak for itself and his behaviour damn him on its own.

ebbandflow · 02/04/2012 15:11

Have you written this in work time?

glastocat · 02/04/2012 15:06

Mind your own business. It doesn't have any effect on you, and you will look terrible to your boss if you grass. Unless you want him thinking you are a snitch.

cornflowers · 02/04/2012 15:04

I think his boss will draw his own conclusions about your colleague if his performance isn't up to scratch. I used to work with someone like this. When the team was rearranged he was the only one to be made redundant. Don't say anything - it won't reflect well on you.

FredFredGeorge · 02/04/2012 15:03

If he's commission based - then his sales will give him away - unless of course he's good enough to do everything you think is wrong and still meet all his sales targets, and in that case, YWBU to "grass him up" as he's fine.

Concentrate on your own performance, not others.

MrsMuddyPuddles · 02/04/2012 15:02

It's neither reasonable nor unreasonable. Have you come across the mneomic "THINK" regarding saying something? It stands for asking yourself whether what you want to say is True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, and Kind... don't grass unless you are sure that all of these can be met.

nickelhasababy · 02/04/2012 15:01

another problem is that the longer someone is employe ,t he harder it is to get rid of them.

she has to nip it in the bud, because it's costing the employer a lot of money

i'm a business owner and i would be fucking fuming if this happened to me.

nickelhasababy · 02/04/2012 14:59

the thing is, early on in a sales job, the targets would be pretty low - you're given grace to learn the ropes etc, so low sales wouldn't be so unusual at this stage.
he obviously knows that and is taking full advantage.

Greythorne · 02/04/2012 14:58

I would be appalled if someone on my team grassed one ofntheir colleagues up in the way you are suggesting.

Let his results speak for themselves. Let your boss do his / her job.

If he slopes in at 10 and leaves at 4 and yet gets his sales figues, they might well be hapoy with his performance and you will just look like a tell tale.

Leave well alone.