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To think all men are basically pervs?

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mrsluvvaluvva · 01/03/2012 13:49

Hi there

Felt compelled to ask this as just lately I have really been seeing men in a different light when in social settings. Perhaps I am just getting old and grumpy or reading something that isn't there.

I have been to a few parties recently and have been really conscious of men eyeing up very young almost tartily dressed teenagers. These girls were dressed very glamorously but waay too old for their age. I saw a couple of girls probably aged 16/17 and a couple over 18's, but not by much.

What I found worrying was middle aged men blatently eyeing them up and more worrying men in my group of friends/family. Men old enough to be their dad's. Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could. Now I'm talking not just about a pretty girl but proper tarted up, hot pants the lot.

It made me feel quite sick to see middle aged men perving like this, so am I being unreasonable here to think even nice guys are secret pervs and although they may not be happy with their daughters dressed up like that, they will happily ogle others?

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LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 22:49

? Have you taken drink, Maryz?

SardineQueen · 02/03/2012 22:49

Well, I know that some of the blokes have got off with each other, and I hope that all the ones who are gay have come out by this point! From what I have seen, when blokes get really pissed they are as likely to snog as girls when they get really pissed ie it happens sometimes and people just go BLIMEY! and have another drink.

Casual snogging same sex people is one thing, sex is quite another! I don't believe that 1 in 3 men have sex with men when they are drunk, any more than similar proportions of women do.

Maryz · 02/03/2012 22:48

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LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 22:46

ah, you're not a man are you SQ? You really don't know. With respect.Grin

SardineQueen · 02/03/2012 22:43

1 in 3 women will prob snog a girl when they're pissed.

1 in 3 men, um, no. Sorry, just no.

SardineQueen · 02/03/2012 22:42

Shock how many drinks is a few?

ColdTruth · 02/03/2012 22:39

1 in 3 after drinks I don't believe you....1 in 3 after sports maybe there is a lot of arse slapping and dodgy positions that happen after a good game.

LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 22:37

only 1 in 10 when sober, Tiggy? Bit modest there. And 1 in 3 after some beers is underestimating...

scottishmummy · 02/03/2012 22:36

op does all men pervs include your dh/son/dad/brother?
just askin

TiggyD · 02/03/2012 22:34

How can somebody say that all men perv young totty when 1 in 10 are gay? And that goes up to 1 in 3 after a few drinks.

LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 22:29

I know HD. Glad you understand. GrinIt's the reflector and derailleur workings that I utterly lose myself in. I seek help.Smile

SardineQueen · 02/03/2012 22:28

Yes quite, perceptionreality

maryz if you look at my posts earlier on you will see that I agree with that completely Grin

Honeydragon · 02/03/2012 22:24

I can't help my sexy little gear changes and left turn hand gyrations Wink

perceptionreality · 02/03/2012 22:23

I think it's a bit mean to say all men are pervs but I do remember men in their 30s leering at me when I was about 14 so I think it obviously must still be going on now.

It is worrying indeed and I wouldn't like it if it were my dd. Nor would I like the idea that my dp views 14 year old girls that way...

LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 22:21

I always perv at HD, in a virtual way. But she knows this and doesn't mind.

Honeydragon · 02/03/2012 22:20

Well if their looking at my nips they're lying on the floor Wink

Maryz · 02/03/2012 22:18

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Honeydragon · 02/03/2012 22:17

aaaaaarrrrgh

men on a thread! with eyes! eyeeeeeeeeeeees

LovedayPan · 02/03/2012 21:51

Lordy - so many posts on such a silly OP.

Tiggy wins the day. Again.Smile

Maryz · 02/03/2012 21:37

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MoreBeta · 02/03/2012 21:29

Aah...I think I see we are getting to the bottom of it now.

Its how the woman feels about the man that is looking at her that matters. If he is young and attractive and she feels flattered then its not leering. If he is middle aged and she is not flattered well thats leering.

Whatmeworry · 02/03/2012 21:03

A colleague objected to the way a perv man was looking at me; I thought his attention was perfectly friendly and acceptable, but she was outraged on my behalf!

He wasn't leering at her :o

Maybe that is where the OP is coming from too?

NotaDisneyMum · 02/03/2012 20:29

It's subjective though - The men doing the eying up might have considered their behaviour to be discrete, and OP may have been the only guest paying attention Wink

A colleague objected to the way a perv man was looking at me; I thought his attention was perfectly friendly and acceptable, but she was outraged on my behalf! Wink

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