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To think all men are basically pervs?

390 replies

mrsluvvaluvva · 01/03/2012 13:49

Hi there

Felt compelled to ask this as just lately I have really been seeing men in a different light when in social settings. Perhaps I am just getting old and grumpy or reading something that isn't there.

I have been to a few parties recently and have been really conscious of men eyeing up very young almost tartily dressed teenagers. These girls were dressed very glamorously but waay too old for their age. I saw a couple of girls probably aged 16/17 and a couple over 18's, but not by much.

What I found worrying was middle aged men blatently eyeing them up and more worrying men in my group of friends/family. Men old enough to be their dad's. Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could. Now I'm talking not just about a pretty girl but proper tarted up, hot pants the lot.

It made me feel quite sick to see middle aged men perving like this, so am I being unreasonable here to think even nice guys are secret pervs and although they may not be happy with their daughters dressed up like that, they will happily ogle others?

OP posts:
southeastastra · 01/03/2012 17:42

i don't think women eye up men as much as men do women, i sort of know what the op means. i know it's biology and that but it's pretty creepy imo anyway

Pagwatch · 01/03/2012 17:40

Hully has let everyone down by being so ridiculous. I think to she should take those nipple tassels off and just calm down.

startail · 01/03/2012 17:37

Of course men of all ages eye up any female with an adult figure. Just as any women gives a quick look up and down to any man.
It's as natural as breathing and not wrong.

For fucks sake I eye up male tennis players and athletes young enough to be my sons.

I have a teenage daughter, she's taller than I am with a better figure.

I hardly expect every man to look at the floor when she walks past, that's stupid. I hope they look think she looks like a nice friendly normal girl, not yet quite a woman.

Trills · 01/03/2012 17:37

Sweetcornophile?

tethersend · 01/03/2012 17:35

Peadophile

porcamiseria · 01/03/2012 17:32

"Maybe these middle aged men were looking at these girls and thinking 'I wouldn't let my daughter go out dressed like that!

hahahahahahahahaha, bollocks were they

HalfPastWine · 01/03/2012 17:21

I totally agree with you OP.

The thing with most guys ( and women too) is that although they're physically in their 40s, 50s etc, in their minds they're still 25 !

LeQueen · 01/03/2012 17:13

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ManMinder · 01/03/2012 17:07

This is of course a wind up!

NarkedPuffin · 01/03/2012 16:48

Wanton hully hussy

Honeydragon · 01/03/2012 16:40
ilovetopost01 · 01/03/2012 16:39

Hully needs her meds

NURSE!!!!!

Honeydragon · 01/03/2012 16:39

Things have certainly changed over the years as I would have been repulsed at an older man looking at me as a teenager.

Yes you are absolutely right I remember being at a party in a pub about 15 years ago and this teenage girl was dancing and looking sexy and this 30 something man was WELL into her, totally checking her out the weirdo

.......oh no wait that was me and I married the guy

YankNCock · 01/03/2012 16:38

And posting that 'all men are pervs' isn't ridiculous? Hmm

SuperSlattern · 01/03/2012 16:31

lesley33 I think I luffs you Smile

hully your on fire today Grin

Original poster
mrsluvvaluvva · 01/03/2012 16:24

You're been ridiculous hullygully

OP posts:
DebbieD78 · 01/03/2012 16:24

I think I figured this out when I was about 15. I know I had friends of my dads eyeing me up at that age or a bit older. It's just how men are wired.

Hullygully · 01/03/2012 16:22

I look at them because I do want smokin lezzy action

Oooo mumma

mayorquimby · 01/03/2012 16:21

or making...
obviously you can't mutely stare AND make noises

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 01/03/2012 16:21

Yabu, of course.

And I don't always head for the end cross trainer in the which is handily situated next to the weights ( and underneath an air vent thingy )

And I never, ever ogle those luvverly young men whilst I puff and pant like a sweaty, red faced hippo......oh no, not me Wink

DinahMoHum · 01/03/2012 16:21

if a woman/girl dresses in those sort of clothes, she will be expecting people to notice and she will most likely get something out of the attention it generates.

It doesnt mean they actually want that woman even if they had the opportunity, necessarily. I guess theres all sorts of reasons for looking.

Tbh im always checking out other women, ive been told off for staring at women before where i havent even realised im doing it, and its not because i want some lesbian session with them either. Sometimes its judging them, sometimes its horrified "omg what is she WEARING" sometimes its wow, she looks amazing, i wish i looked like that

mayorquimby · 01/03/2012 16:20

"Everyone looks.

Looking isn't perving.

Perving is staring/making comments/touching/inappropriately rubbing their own groin/trying to draw attention to their ENORMOUS BALLS."

Exactly. If you're friends are standing round mutely gawping OP and making animalistic noises you need to question the company you keep.

" My question is, what 'normal' middle aged man would give more than a casual glance at. girl, no matter how attractive she was."

Not middle aged yet (26) but I'd definitely give a hot 17/18 year old a second look. Chances are I've given 15 or 16 year olds more than a second look without realising how young they are. And I'm willing to bet I will still give second looks and sly glances for the rest of my days.

PosiePumblechook · 01/03/2012 16:13

My father, 60, just had affair with a 35yr old. Nothing surprises me any more.

WorraLiberty · 01/03/2012 16:12

Men old enough to be their dad's. Not necessarily gawping but craftily staring when they could. Now I'm talking not just about a pretty girl but proper tarted up, hot pants the lot

Well you obviously had a good look yourself

Not just at the girls but at the men 'craftily staring' at them.

So what's the difference, or are you just assuming their motives for looking were different to yours because they're men?

lesley33 · 01/03/2012 16:12

Yes stretch marks are very attractive Grin

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